Anger Management and Counselling in Orangeville, ON.

Maybe you are reaching out because your words and actions are affecting those you love. We will work together to address your emotional reactivity so that you can create enough space before your actions so that you can choose a different path. We will explore what is underlying your anger so that we can address the root cause. Anger is a secondary emotion, and we will work to discover the primary emotion that is causing you such difficulties.

Anger can feel like an emotional experience that we have no control over. In therapy, you can explore the root causes of anger and how it impacts your life, your experiences, and your relationships. You can learn skills to effectively respond to anger, ground yourself when feeling angry, and de-escalate when anger is impacting your relationships. I work with individuals, couples and families. Book a free consultation to explore if we are a good fit for therapy.

Anger is something that gets the best of all of us at one point or another. And sometimes it feels so heavy that we learn to react on it instantaneously, which may hurt ourselves or others around us. My goals are to help you to manage your anger reaction by learning how to channel it through positive and productive endeavors, as well as to explore the history of your feelings of anger to learn where they began. Our work will not only change your anger reactions, but will also aid in decreasing the anger feeling itself.

I have spent hundreds of hours working with clients who struggle with managing anger/rage. There are specific, step-by-step techniques that can be taught, that are very effective at helping people deal with this issue. Based on reports from clients I have worked with, I have found that if clients are committed to their process, most people make significant improvement within 6-12 sessions. Drawing from polyvagal theory, AEDP and mindfulness techniques, clients can learn healthy ways to manage and experience their anger.

Anger can be such a frustrating emotion sometimes leaving us feeling shameful for even feeling that way. Men and women are often taught different messages about anger as they are growing up, impacting our experience and delivery of anger as an adult. Anger is a real and valid emotion, but how we express it can sometimes lead to problems. Let's figure this out together!

Anger Solutions is a different type of Anger Management which has been proven successful. Ray has been trained in this modality and have found it successful with adults who are motivated to be in charge of their emotions instead of their emotions take charge of them. Ray follows the Anger Solutions workbook written by Julie A. Christiansen who is the creater of this program. By the end of this program clients will be able to recognize their anger triggers, those of others and be able to take charge of their anger.

I have many strategies to help clients seeking to have better control of their anger. Some involve ways to cope in the moment, when emotion overwhelms, to minimize the harm to others. Together, we investigate the triggers for this powerful emotion in the present, and also, examine their history to uncover and understand the deeper frustrations, hurts, and traumatic experiences which have contributed to anger having such a hold on them. My therapy sessions are a non-judgmental, safe space to be entirely honest about the pain of the past, as well as a hopeful space, learning useful resources for making amends with others and concrete skills to constructively manage feelings going forward.

Anger issues can be very destructive to relationships, careers and your health. Even though anger may have initially been used as way to help feel more powerful in the moment, it often leaves you feeling powerLESS in that it often feels like the anger is controlling you rather than you controlling it. It also becomes ineffective as a "problem solving" strategy in the long run. Anger usually hurts more than it helps. I will help you understand you anger - what causes it and why you fall into it so often - and provide the tools and support you need to overcome this issue. Anger may be trauma-based and I take a trauma-informed approach to therapy in general.

A response to life's events falls upon a continuum from neutral to highly-reactive. At times anger, Gandhi called it "Righteous Indignation," is necessary to respond to injustices or inappropriate behaviours. However, uncontrolled, inappropriate anger is destructive to one's self and others. Mindfulness and Metta (Loving Kindness) meditations are excellent tools to deal with anger. Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) also called Tapping, along with skillful use of affirmations can help to cool the fires of anger. The benefits of anger management lead to a regulating of emotions and thus a gaining of peace of mind, positive relationships, career and family security.

Self management of strong emotions including anger can lead to a deeper understanding of ourselves and, in turn, more compassion for the human experience in all its manifestations. Through the therapeutic process in which one feels safe, freedom to explore powerful feelings, and constructive ways of managing frustration can be developed so that anxious, stressful or volatile reactions can be channeled for the well-being of the self and others.

Anger management counseling can help to identify stressors and learn the steps to stay calm in the face of anger. The goal is to handle tense situations in more constructive and positive ways by reducing the emotional and physical arousal that anger can cause. It will provide the tools to take back your life and resolve the triggers that result in unplanned anger reactions.