Anger Management and Counselling in Caledon, ON.

Anger can destroy lives, families and relationships. I, as a professional, work on the idea of “he who angers you controls you”. Through a proven user friendly anger management process which incorporates many internal reflections, the client can begin to build more control over his/her emotions as a result more capable of handling difficult situations. Over time, through using these new skills, the client develops more confidence and assurance that he/she can deal with life’s challenges in a more calm and reasonable manner. Clients will also be provided with life long strategies and coping methods.

A response to life's events falls upon a continuum from neutral to highly-reactive. At times anger, Gandhi called it "Righteous Indignation," is necessary to respond to injustices or inappropriate behaviours. However, uncontrolled, inappropriate anger is destructive to one's self and others. Mindfulness and Metta (Loving Kindness) meditations are excellent tools to deal with anger. Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) also called Tapping, along with skillful use of affirmations can help to cool the fires of anger. The benefits of anger management lead to a regulating of emotions and thus a gaining of peace of mind, positive relationships, career and family security.

Anger is just one of the many emotions we all experience. If anger is a problem for you, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) can help manage this difficult emotion and the physiological arousal that accompanies it. Anger management can help you recognize and manage triggers and learn to cope more effectively.

There are many things that can spark anger and it can be difficult to get a hold when anger takes over. It can also be difficult to understand why certain situations may lead us to feel angry and propel us to act in ways that may not be helpful to ourselves or to the relationships we are part of. Within therapy, I will help you to develop greater insight into how and why you experience anger and together, we will learn about the patterns that anger is connected to. I will also help you to develop tools to more safely connect with anger so that you can experience more fulfilling relationships with yourself and others. Contact me or book a free consultation if you wish to learn more.

I have spent hundreds of hours working with clients who struggle with managing anger/rage. There are specific, step-by-step techniques that can be taught, that are very effective at helping people deal with this issue. Based on reports from clients I have worked with, I have found that if clients are committed to their process, most people make significant improvement within 6-12 sessions. Drawing from polyvagal theory, AEDP and mindfulness techniques, clients can learn healthy ways to manage and experience their anger.

Anger is the outward expression of internal pain. Often, it is easier to be angry than to feel painful emotions such as sadness, loss, and grief. However, working through the underlying foundations of anger is not easy. By recognizing and understanding the feelings driving your anger, we can help you resolve your anger issues and support positive change in your life.

Maybe you are reaching out because your words and actions are affecting those you love. We will work together to address your emotional reactivity so that you can create enough space before your actions so that you can choose a different path. We will explore what is underlying your anger so that we can address the root cause. Anger is a secondary emotion, and we will work to discover the primary emotion that is causing you such difficulties.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.