My approach to helping individuals or families with anger and its management would be to allow the individual the space to begin to recognize where the anger is coming from as well what are the hidden emotions below the anger. Often, there are other emotions that are being masked below the anger. Exploration into fears and hurt would be discussed.

Anger is a normal human emotion. Most men are taught that anger in the only emotion that is socially acceptable to show. In reality it is often other emotions that are driving the anger. The challenge can be to use your anger productively. Together we will explore how you cope with anger, the triggers of your anger, the thoughts and feelings associated with your anger, and ways to help you get your needs met with harming relationships with others in your life.

Anger, like other emotions, is neither good nor bad. Anger alerts our body and mind to know, simply, a problem exists that needs to be solved. Without anger, we become “door mats” where people “walk all over us”. Finding the solution that anger seeks can be tricky. The anger goal is to solve the problem; with the “rule” of not hurting ourselves, someone else, and actually making the problem smaller, not bigger. The challenge is when our “stuff” gets in the way. We “lose our cool”; allowing aggressiveness versus assertiveness to run the show. My approach allows people to find their voice, keep their personal power, while preserving relationships and solving the anger problem.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

We have all faced circumstances in life that provoke anger. It is a very healthy and natural reaction to some stressful and problematic situations. Sometimes, however, these reactions go too far and hurt the people we love. There are several techniques that work well to reduce angry outbursts and aggressive responses directed at others. I can help you or your child discover strategies to remain calm in stressful situations and channel energy into emotional problem solving that leads to healthier and more positive outcomes.

Anger is not necessarily a bad emotion and one that can be used for progress. Together we can examine your anger and come up with a plan on how to manage and be comfortable with this emotion. I can help you with a number of coping solutions and show you ways to bring the emotion under your will. If there is an underlying root of your anger we can expose it and help it to heal.

Anger can negatively affect someone’s life in numerous ways, as well as hurt loved ones, colleagues, or strangers. It’s impossible to be joyful and angry at the same time. When you work with one of our professional counselors you will gain an understanding about what’s causing your anger and how to overcome it. Anger usually masks one or more deeper emotions and experiences, such as a perceived injustice, fear, and hurt or sorrow. Once you gain insights about what’s beneath your anger then you can begin to make some real progress in addressing it in healthier ways and overcoming it.

Anger is our response to stress. Sometimes we feel anger to avoid some other emotion such as anxiety or hurt and other times anger is a way of mobilizing ourselves in the face of a threat. Regardless of the reasons for your anger, you may find that it is unproductive in your relationships with others. Our therapists can help you develop new responses to stress and help you stop the spiral of anger. Our approach to working with anger is both physiological and psychological. We will help you recognize and manage the physical signs and symptoms that occur when you're angry as well as finding new ways to express yourself and get your needs met in a way that others can understand.