Shelley Sayle-Udall, RP

Shelley Sayle-Udall View Specialties

  • Registered Psychotherapist
  • Kingston, Ontario, K7P 2N3
  • Phone: 800-880-2969
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  • Session Fees: $150 per 50 minute session. Offers PHONE and secure VIDEO therapy sessions across Ontario. Free 15 minute phone "Meet & Greet" to ensure we are a good fit. Evening availability.
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  • This member is also available for online counseling.
  • Online-counseling methods: Phone, Webcam


In today’s world, we’re facing a mental health crisis affecting people of all ages, but especially youth. While the term "mental health" was coined over a century ago, we now have a deeper understanding of how natural, physical and physiological responses to our environment influence emotional wellbeing. Yet, for too long, we’ve labeled these natural responses (such as anxiety and depression) as mental health disorders, overlooking the crucial physiological factors that contribute to them.

In my approach to therapy, I draw upon the growing body of knowledge from the field of physiology to provide a more comprehensive, proactive solution to mental health struggles. The reality is that many symptoms of anxiety and depression are simply signs that our basic physical needs are not being met. Lack of sleep, poor nutrition, insufficient physical activity and high levels of stress are all factors that directly affect our brain and body health. When these needs are ignored, the body responds with natural alarm signals, such as heightened anxiety or feelings of depression. However, these are not necessarily disorders. They are, in fact, the body’s way of signaling that something is out of balance.

As parents, caregivers, or anyone considering parenthood, it’s crucial to understand that we have the power to change the narrative surrounding mental health. If we focus on addressing the physical prerequisites for mental health (such as ensuring that ourselves and our children are getting enough sleep, exercise, and proper nutrition) we can better equip ourselves and our children to cope with the stressors of life, rather than pathologizing our responses as mental health disorders. This means moving away from viewing anxiety or depression as "problems" and instead seeing them as natural, physiological reactions to an environment that may not be conducive to optimal health.

The key to shifting this mindset is education. We need to empower ourselves and our children to understand the link between physical health and emotional wellbeing. When we are taught how to listen to our bodies, recognize the signs of imbalance and take proactive steps to restore health, we can avoid the cycle of dependency on labels and diagnoses. Instead, we can cultivate resilience, better coping mechanisms and a greater sense of control over our health.

In my practice, I guide families and individuals to prioritize their health, teaching essential skills like stress management, proper sleep hygiene and healthy eating. By addressing these foundational elements first, we can build a solid foundation for mental wellbeing. Rather than focusing solely on treating symptoms, we explore the root causes of emotional distress and work together to make lasting changes in lifestyle, behaviour and mindset.

The path to mental health should not be about managing a "disorder," but about restoring balance and thriving in a world that demands more of us every day. Together, we can help ourselves and future generations develop the skills, tools and mindset necessary to nurture both our bodies and minds for a healthier, more resilient life.


Shelley Sayle-Udall Reaches

Kingston ON