Teens Issues

Insecurity

Each of us experience insecurities that can grow into a crippling obstruction. With these fears and worries we might find it difficult to present ourselves and enjoy the company of others. We're more likely to miss out on rewarding relationships because of the doubts we have toward our self worth. In order to move forward with confidence we'll benefit from learning how to eliminate unnecessary baggage and enforce a new perception of ourselves.

There's a great deal of pressure put on us throughout our developmental years. We learn to aim high and the low self-esteem that we experience can be something induced by our learning environments. With insecurities it's easy to doubt our decision-making and overall potential. There are many of us who choose to live with doubts without knowing how fulfilling life could be if we eliminated them altogether. By turning to therapy we can reduce insecurities and learn how to reverse the ideas that we have of ourselves to experience personal growth.

When Insecurities Can Harm Us

Insecurities can begin to harm us when they control the decisions we make. As individuals we are pushed to learn more, become better and overcome our fears. With insecurities it's easy to forget about the need to create these goals and work toward accomplishing them. It can cause low self-esteem and prevent us from taking risks due to possible rejections. They are most harmful in relationships and they can keep us from creating new ones altogether. When we are unable to feel calm and enjoy the moment due to worries and judgment, we are unable to seek all of the satisfactory feelings that come from social interactions. Overcoming wounds is a slow battle and we do need proper bandage in order to heal. As you work with a counselor you can learn how to express openness and boost the perception that you have of yourself while these wounds are recovering.

Effects of Insecurities on Other Relationships

It can be challenging in a relationship when insecurities are constant. It might play a role in the relationship and at times partners might not recognize that it is affecting most issues. Doubt can cause a lack of intimacy, difficulty managing finances and an extreme amount of jealousy. Doubting ourselves in a relationship can cause our partner to work harder as they have to provide more reassurance. Insecurities can cause dishonesty and communication issues. If we don't have confidence in ourselves it can be projected onto our partner over time. Through awareness and consistency we'll learn and understand where the issues come from. It is a responsibility of our own to regain confidence and understand our true worth.

A lot of marital discord stems from insecurities and targeting these issues can help to mend a relationship. If one of the partners is insecure it might take a toll on the problem solving within the marriage. It's important to note that insecurities can also build false perceptions. One partner might form these fears and be afraid to improve them because they believe that they are going to fall short of their own expectations. The doubt is on a continuum and it ranges anywhere from mild to severe. Being able to recognize that there is something wrong with the behavior is the first step toward transforming it. You can learn how to improve the image you hold with the help of a counselor who will show you how to remain open and eliminate defenses.

How Therapy Can Help

Therapy can assist us in recognizing the issue and understanding how the behavior may be overcompensating. When we learn to love what we have we can attract new experiences and opportunities continuously. By recognizing that there is an issue with the behavior we'll gain an understanding as to how it may have originated. The counselor will help us by looking at the past and working to reduce defense mechanisms that may be ingrained within us. If there is a defensive posture it is likely out of fear and the inability to admit a fault. Patients will learn that they don't need to be afraid in admitting their faults. Each of us has imperfections and weaknesses; when we learn how to embrace them we can take advantage of every opportunity that presents itself. We can accept the emotions that come with recognizing insecurities and learn how to embrace risks as well as failures. In order to continue conforming we must continue growing and challenging ourselves in the healthiest way possible. A therapist elaborates on how to forgive those who may have caused this wound so that we can begin living freely. We'll benefit from understanding how to regain confidence and begin believing in ourselves without fears or overcompensation. When insecurities are reduced it will be easier for us to overcome obstacles and maintain assertiveness, regardless of the judgment we're exposed to.

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