Anger Management and Counseling in Seattle, WA.

If you are angry, or told you are angry, or respond to situations with attached anger, chances are you need to discover a better way to deal with the issues that are causing this reaction. The process is very basic. You and I engage in dialogue about the underneath issues like anxiety, unhappiness and a host of other concerns that cause anger. In time, you develop the perspective to live a happy, creative and meaningful life. My office is located in Bellevue/Kirkland vicinity. And I work with out of area students via telephone. Not an insurance provider or Court mandated Counselor.

Anger is one of the most misunderstood emotions that can results in destruction of self, relationships, career, and life satisfaction. It doesn't have to though. I help client's identify, challenge, and relate to their anger so that they learn how it can be managed. Anger can be channeled and used in productive healthy ways that can increase potential and help understand and achieve goals.

Anger is often the result of feeling powerless and/or hurt. It can also be the result of not having well defined boundaries or the inability to effectively convey one's boundaries to others. The majority of my clients with anger issues have never experienced the healthy middle ground of assertiveness. Many experience the other two ends of the spectrum which are passivity or extreme anger. Becoming aware of one's feelings and one's boundaries and learning to assert them is the first step toward managing and understanding anger.

Anger management counseling can help to identify stressors and learn the steps to stay calm in the face of anger. The goal is to handle tense situations in more constructive and positive ways by reducing the emotional and physical arousal that anger can cause. It will provide the tools to take back your life and resolve the triggers that result in unplanned anger reactions.

I do not provide "Anger Management" therapy in the sense of someone having persistent and extreme levels of anger requiring specialized treatment. I do, however, work with anger or irritability in the context of my niches. Anger and irritability are understandable when you are a therapist suffering under the weight of systemic burnout in unsupportive agency settings, processing past trauma, and dealing with stigma and discrimination as a LGBTQIA+ or large-bodied person. It is important to not suppress that anger and find ways to process and channel it in healthy ways.

Maybe you've noticed your temper. Or maybe a friend or family member has told you that your temper gets in the way of an ideal relationship. Or maybe everyone around you seems to be angry and you can't understand why. Regardless of the case, anger is real. And it's informative. With my help, we can figure out what your anger is trying to get you to do and what needs to change in your life or in you so you can be more fulfilled.

Anger management is a common type of therapy that I see benefitting many people from various backgrounds. Because anger is a very misunderstood emotion, I work with my clients to learn how to distinguish between healthy and unhealthy anger. Once this difference is understood, we will develop an understanding of the root causes of unhealthy anger and learn to address these causes in new ways. Once you understand how anger operates and what emotions lie beneath the anger, you will feel more in control of your emotional patterns and more confident.

Anger can become a habit that is developed over the years. You may have grown up in a household where angry outbursts were common. Let me help you develop strategies to calm your anger and choose healthy forms of communication. I can help you get to know the signs that your anger is becoming detrimental to your health and your relationships. Becoming angry is exhausting. Let me help.

Managing emotions involves self-awareness to understand the cause and meaning of emotions. Anger is a particularly complicated emotion because it is deeply rooted in our survival system. If you don't get it under control, it will control you! Learn techniques to reduce both the emotions and physical drives that lead to uncontrolled outbursts. Use this powerful energy to make positive changes instead!

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Anger feels like it takes over and is a force we're powerless against. Together we'll work together to understand the roots of the anger, what causes it to build and develop strategies to both manage the day-to-day and to heal the underlying wounds. We'll work to establish healthy boundaries that keep you and others safe, while also giving you communication strategies to get your concerns heard.