Anger Management and Counseling in Poulsbo, WA.

Maybe you've noticed your temper. Or maybe a friend or family member has told you that your temper gets in the way of an ideal relationship. Or maybe everyone around you seems to be angry and you can't understand why. Regardless of the case, anger is real. And it's informative. With my help, we can figure out what your anger is trying to get you to do and what needs to change in your life or in you so you can be more fulfilled.

Anger is one of the most misunderstood emotions that can results in destruction of self, relationships, career, and life satisfaction. It doesn't have to though. I help client's identify, challenge, and relate to their anger so that they learn how it can be managed. Anger can be channeled and used in productive healthy ways that can increase potential and help understand and achieve goals.

I work to support the healthy expression of anger. Anger rises when your boundaries are violated in someway, when something tender within you is feeling threatened and wants protection. We explore what your anger is trying to bring to conscious awareness and allow that to rise from its hiding place within you so that it can receive compassion and understanding. Often, through revealing and offering that part of you attention, your relationship to it changes, dissipating much of the need for protection. Most of us have learned the lie that violence, raging is the only expression of anger. Discover your own creative and constructive, rather than destructive, ways to express anger.

Sometimes we all lose our cool. An annoyance or irritation can mount to a growing frustration--which can then lead to anger--and sometimes explode into rage or violence. Sometimes this is a slow, brewing process...and other times it moves like a speed train to anger explosions. If you or someone you love has lost control in the heat of anger like this, you know how devastating the results can be for you and those around you--sometimes the ones you care most deeply about. At Mill Creek Family Services, we get at the heart of the issues, ideas and behaviors that fuel the anger, and help you build the skills needed to cool the fire and learn more about yourself in the process.

I provide individual psychotherapy for anger management. Anger is normal emotion that everyone experiences. It becomes a problem when one expresses anger inappropriately or one lacks the proficiency to express any emotions but anger. I use Humanistic and Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) to help my clients understand their anger, improve their emotional experience, and express their emotions in healthy ways. A healthy emotional life is the cornerstone of living a full and successful life.

Anger can become a habit that is developed over the years. You may have grown up in a household where angry outbursts were common. Let me help you develop strategies to calm your anger and choose healthy forms of communication. I can help you get to know the signs that your anger is becoming detrimental to your health and your relationships. Becoming angry is exhausting. Let me help.

Anger feels like it takes over and is a force we're powerless against. Together we'll work together to understand the roots of the anger, what causes it to build and develop strategies to both manage the day-to-day and to heal the underlying wounds. We'll work to establish healthy boundaries that keep you and others safe, while also giving you communication strategies to get your concerns heard.

Managing emotions involves self-awareness to understand the cause and meaning of emotions. Anger is a particularly complicated emotion because it is deeply rooted in our survival system. If you don't get it under control, it will control you! Learn techniques to reduce both the emotions and physical drives that lead to uncontrolled outbursts. Use this powerful energy to make positive changes instead!

Anger is often the result of feeling powerless and/or hurt. It can also be the result of not having well defined boundaries or the inability to effectively convey one's boundaries to others. The majority of my clients with anger issues have never experienced the healthy middle ground of assertiveness. Many experience the other two ends of the spectrum which are passivity or extreme anger. Becoming aware of one's feelings and one's boundaries and learning to assert them is the first step toward managing and understanding anger.

When someone is angry, there's often a belief that something wrong is happening that must be corrected and the way to get someone's attention to correct it is with a loud voice and/or harsh words. Unfortunately, this rarely solves anything and creates barriers to relationships and goals. Dr. Bill Roedel helps clients understand the root causes of their anger, acquire skills to manage the anger and create a plan for approaching the issue, and gain communication and negotiation skills so an agreeable, workable solution can be found. When the anger is grounded in the past, Dr. Roedel helps clients safely express their hurt and find ways to release resentments so they can move forward.

Anger is something we all experience at times - what we do with it is what makes the difference. If you are looking to address your anger and find ways to manage your anger so it doesn't bring destruction to you and the ones yo love, I can help. Furthermore, we can go further to address why the anger is there so you can be free to live a happier life. We do this be addressing the meaning behind the anger as well as the behavior itself. It's time live differently and I'd be honored to help.

Anger can be surprising, it can be always just under the surface, it can be incredibly important, and it can be so very damaging. It can well up, explode, simmer and often hurt those closest to us. Your anger isn't a bad thing- learn how to work with it in a way that is productive. I offer a hand in the journey of learning to listen to, express, and how to hold your anger.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Anger management is a common type of therapy that I see benefitting many people from various backgrounds. Because anger is a very misunderstood emotion, I work with my clients to learn how to distinguish between healthy and unhealthy anger. Once this difference is understood, we will develop an understanding of the root causes of unhealthy anger and learn to address these causes in new ways. Once you understand how anger operates and what emotions lie beneath the anger, you will feel more in control of your emotional patterns and more confident.

Anger is an emotion. Like all emotions, anger can be constructive in out lives, but it can also be destructive. Often times when anger is not controlled it leads to difficulties in relationships, at work, and even difficulties with the law. There are many effective techniques available to help individuals gain more control over their emotions and therefore gain more control over their anger. Even if you have been through programs that address anger in the past that have not been effective, don't hesitate to contact me to see if we can work together and try new, evidence-based techniques that can help you get better control of your anger, and therefore get better control of your life.

Anger is a natural emotion but sometimes gets managed by unhelpful and dangerous coping skills. Anger management treatment offers a specialized approach to help you effectively understand, express, and manage your anger in healthy and constructive ways. Once you have the tools, you'll have greater self-control, reduced impulsivity, and increased self-awareness, leading to a more balanced and fulfilling life.