Anger Management and Counseling in Duvall, WA.

Sometimes we all lose our cool. An annoyance or irritation can mount to a growing frustration--which can then lead to anger--and sometimes explode into rage or violence. Sometimes this is a slow, brewing process...and other times it moves like a speed train to anger explosions. If you or someone you love has lost control in the heat of anger like this, you know how devastating the results can be for you and those around you--sometimes the ones you care most deeply about. At Mill Creek Family Services, we get at the heart of the issues, ideas and behaviors that fuel the anger, and help you build the skills needed to cool the fire and learn more about yourself in the process.

Anger is one of the most misunderstood emotions that can results in destruction of self, relationships, career, and life satisfaction. It doesn't have to though. I help client's identify, challenge, and relate to their anger so that they learn how it can be managed. Anger can be channeled and used in productive healthy ways that can increase potential and help understand and achieve goals.

Anger is often the result of feeling powerless and/or hurt. It can also be the result of not having well defined boundaries or the inability to effectively convey one's boundaries to others. The majority of my clients with anger issues have never experienced the healthy middle ground of assertiveness. Many experience the other two ends of the spectrum which are passivity or extreme anger. Becoming aware of one's feelings and one's boundaries and learning to assert them is the first step toward managing and understanding anger.

Anger management is a common type of therapy that I see benefitting many people from various backgrounds. Because anger is a very misunderstood emotion, I work with my clients to learn how to distinguish between healthy and unhealthy anger. Once this difference is understood, we will develop an understanding of the root causes of unhealthy anger and learn to address these causes in new ways. Once you understand how anger operates and what emotions lie beneath the anger, you will feel more in control of your emotional patterns and more confident.

When someone is angry, there's often a belief that something wrong is happening that must be corrected and the way to get someone's attention to correct it is with a loud voice and/or harsh words. Unfortunately, this rarely solves anything and creates barriers to relationships and goals. Dr. Bill Roedel helps clients understand the root causes of their anger, acquire skills to manage the anger and create a plan for approaching the issue, and gain communication and negotiation skills so an agreeable, workable solution can be found. When the anger is grounded in the past, Dr. Roedel helps clients safely express their hurt and find ways to release resentments so they can move forward.

Anger can be surprising, it can be always just under the surface, it can be incredibly important, and it can be so very damaging. It can well up, explode, simmer and often hurt those closest to us. Your anger isn't a bad thing- learn how to work with it in a way that is productive. I offer a hand in the journey of learning to listen to, express, and how to hold your anger.

If you are in relationship with an angry partner, therapy can help! Understanding and learning how to set boundaries and communicate in a way that your partner can hear is important. Often when we grow up in angry families we can end up in relationships that mirror our childhood. I can teach you ways to be authentic, use your voice, and stay safe. If you find yourself getting angry and you want to find other tools and strategies to express yourself I can help.

Maybe you've noticed your temper. Or maybe a friend or family member has told you that your temper gets in the way of an ideal relationship. Or maybe everyone around you seems to be angry and you can't understand why. Regardless of the case, anger is real. And it's informative. With my help, we can figure out what your anger is trying to get you to do and what needs to change in your life or in you so you can be more fulfilled.

I provide individual psychotherapy for anger management. Anger is normal emotion that everyone experiences. It becomes a problem when one expresses anger inappropriately or one lacks the proficiency to express any emotions but anger. I use Humanistic and Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) to help my clients understand their anger, improve their emotional experience, and express their emotions in healthy ways. A healthy emotional life is the cornerstone of living a full and successful life.

Anger feels like it takes over and is a force we're powerless against. Together we'll work together to understand the roots of the anger, what causes it to build and develop strategies to both manage the day-to-day and to heal the underlying wounds. We'll work to establish healthy boundaries that keep you and others safe, while also giving you communication strategies to get your concerns heard.

Anger is a powerful, yet fascinating emotion that everyone experiences. If we have problems with it, we either stuff it and it makes us physically sick or we explode. It is like temporary insanity. I teach people how to identify the steps towards out of control anger and how to break out of the "anger trance." Gaining conscious awareness and choice is key. Anger usually is about getting a need met, but often people back away from the one who is angry. It is counterproductive. Domestic violence of (physical or emotional abuse) happen when we get stuck in patterns and try to control. I have helped a lot of people over the past 20 years move from the anger cycle to more loving relationships.

When you cross a line in expressing your anger, you face consequences you may not have thought about in the heat of the moment. Perhaps you have developed a pattern of acting out your anger in inappropriate ways. This needs to be addressed sooner rather than later. If you have been told you have anger management problems, get help now so that you will not lose valuable relationships. You may call me at 425 652-1413 to set up an appointment.

Anger is a natural reaction but do you feel your anger leads to emotional dysregulation that affects your relaitonships? I do not judge you based on your anger. I simply provide an empathetic ear to your situation as well as give you context to help you through situations where you may be reacting to your anger. Oftentimes, we get angry in a situation but are unaware or afraid to tap into the primary emotions that stir the anger. Feelings of abandonment, emptiness, fear, and hurt that lie below the secondary emotion of anger can be processed.

If your anger creates problems in your life, it's important to learn some skills to regulate your emtions. I can help you learn emotional regulation which includes how to be mindful and how to manage your anger and express it in a healthy way.I will work withyou to become more emotionally intelligent, so that you can be more effective in relationships. You will learn to become more aware of your own feelings and undertand where there feelings are coming from while being able to be in another's shoes and respecting and being considerate of that person and their way of thinking and feeling.

If you are angry, or told you are angry, or respond to situations with attached anger, chances are you need to discover a better way to deal with the issues that are causing this reaction. The process is very basic. You and I engage in dialogue about the underneath issues like anxiety, unhappiness and a host of other concerns that cause anger. In time, you develop the perspective to live a happy, creative and meaningful life. My office is located in Bellevue/Kirkland vicinity. And I work with out of area students via telephone. Not an insurance provider or Court mandated Counselor.

Managing emotions involves self-awareness to understand the cause and meaning of emotions. Anger is a particularly complicated emotion because it is deeply rooted in our survival system. If you don't get it under control, it will control you! Learn techniques to reduce both the emotions and physical drives that lead to uncontrolled outbursts. Use this powerful energy to make positive changes instead!

Anger can become a habit that is developed over the years. You may have grown up in a household where angry outbursts were common. Let me help you develop strategies to calm your anger and choose healthy forms of communication. I can help you get to know the signs that your anger is becoming detrimental to your health and your relationships. Becoming angry is exhausting. Let me help.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.