Anger Management and Counseling in Arlington, WA.

When someone is angry, there's often a belief that something wrong is happening that must be corrected and the way to get someone's attention to correct it is with a loud voice and/or harsh words. Unfortunately, this rarely solves anything and creates barriers to relationships and goals. Dr. Bill Roedel helps clients understand the root causes of their anger, acquire skills to manage the anger and create a plan for approaching the issue, and gain communication and negotiation skills so an agreeable, workable solution can be found. When the anger is grounded in the past, Dr. Roedel helps clients safely express their hurt and find ways to release resentments so they can move forward.

Anger management is a common type of therapy that I see benefitting many people from various backgrounds. Because anger is a very misunderstood emotion, I work with my clients to learn how to distinguish between healthy and unhealthy anger. Once this difference is understood, we will develop an understanding of the root causes of unhealthy anger and learn to address these causes in new ways. Once you understand how anger operates and what emotions lie beneath the anger, you will feel more in control of your emotional patterns and more confident.

As a retired Marine Corps Officer, I have had a lot of experience with anger management, both personally and with my clients. Once again, I feel the key to anger management is identifying the root cause of anger. Oftentimes we improperly project our internal anger onto someone who does not deserve it. My clients report that after working with me, they no longer project anger onto the innocent people in their lives.

Sometimes we all lose our cool. An annoyance or irritation can mount to a growing frustration--which can then lead to anger--and sometimes explode into rage or violence. Sometimes this is a slow, brewing process...and other times it moves like a speed train to anger explosions. If you or someone you love has lost control in the heat of anger like this, you know how devastating the results can be for you and those around you--sometimes the ones you care most deeply about. At Mill Creek Family Services, we get at the heart of the issues, ideas and behaviors that fuel the anger, and help you build the skills needed to cool the fire and learn more about yourself in the process.

Anger is a powerful, yet fascinating emotion that everyone experiences. If we have problems with it, we either stuff it and it makes us physically sick or we explode. It is like temporary insanity. I teach people how to identify the steps towards out of control anger and how to break out of the "anger trance." Gaining conscious awareness and choice is key. Anger usually is about getting a need met, but often people back away from the one who is angry. It is counterproductive. Domestic violence of (physical or emotional abuse) happen when we get stuck in patterns and try to control. I have helped a lot of people over the past 20 years move from the anger cycle to more loving relationships.

Managing emotions involves self-awareness to understand the cause and meaning of emotions. Anger is a particularly complicated emotion because it is deeply rooted in our survival system. If you don't get it under control, it will control you! Learn techniques to reduce both the emotions and physical drives that lead to uncontrolled outbursts. Use this powerful energy to make positive changes instead!

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.