Family Counseling Services in Santa Fe, TX.

I am both honored and grateful to have graduated from an American Association of Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT) accredited program. This implies that AAMFT has reviewed and approved all of the standards put in place for a student's education and training in family therapy. As a therapist, I integrate this training to understand what elements of structure, trust, security, and connection are currently jeopardized within the relationships in a family.

Let me guess. One partner feels alone and like they don't matter and the other feels they are always being criticized and can't get anything right. The more one asks for the other to show up, the more the partner disappears physically and emotionally. You both bicker and fight and the idea of sitting and just hanging out seems elusive, if not impossible. Something like this? Often we crave connection but are blocked by the pain and the history that gets in the way. Small fights about little things become battles that highlight our struggle to have our basic relational needs met. I can help you get under the bickering to the parts crying out for connection- to an enriching relationship.

Do you feel disconnected from your wife or kids? Does it feel like you’ve lost control of your home? Or have you experienced something difficult within your family that’s not been resolved? If so, I can help. As a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist I’m an expert in relationships, and have been trained to identify the patterns within families that aren’t working, develop healthier ones, improve communication and understanding, and help families forge a new path forward. This often looks like a combination of family sessions, parent sessions, and individual sessions. I provide online therapy over HIPAA-secure video, and if given the opportunity, would be honored to serve your family.

Every family has its own, unique culture; the way they do things. The culture created in a family tends to be a blend of your, mine, and our way of doing things. Our family of origin, ethnicity, faith tradition, education, past and current friends and relationships, past and current jobs, etc. all combine and blend to create our “stuff” we bring into our present. When our “stuff” blocks a family culture that mutually fosters emotional and physical safety, relationships break down and problems arise. My approach creates insight to the “stuff” that we need to keep and need to throw out; allowing for space to rebuild a family culture of respect, trust, connection, fun, and love.

My approach is grounded in recognizing and addressing the unique dynamics that exist within family systems. I work collaboratively with families to foster open communication, resolve conflicts, and strengthen the bonds between family members. Ultimately, family counseling promotes healthier relationships, improved understanding, and a more harmonious family environment, leading to long-lasting positive changes and enhanced family functioning.

Most family therapists inadvertently create more chaos through their well-intentioned efforts to assist a family move through a change process. Why? Brains are inherently deregulated (all of us, may I add) and most talking and dialoguing misses brain-centric problems that need more intensive help. Many times the emotional trauma created by years of solving problems ineffectively can wreak havoc on the brain's parasympathetic nervous system, not ever giving the family a break from flight or fight thinking. Contact us for an innovative neuroscience solution to family dysfunction. Kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

My approach to family therapy includes looking at every member's contributions to the success or failures that are being presented in session. We would explore family structure and family dynamics. It is very important to understand the "complete" family to understand them as a "whole" unit. Dysfunctional patterns of communication would be a priority.