Family Counseling Services in Elgin, TX.

Families can be extremely frustrating. No one knows better than our family how to push our buttons. Fights tend to go the same way every time. I work with families to discover their underlying patterns and work to change those patterns to lead different outcomes. The family therapy process can be chaotic, but my approach leads to peace at the end of the chaos.

Let me guess. One partner feels alone and like they don't matter and the other feels they are always being criticized and can't get anything right. The more one asks for the other to show up, the more the partner disappears physically and emotionally. You both bicker and fight and the idea of sitting and just hanging out seems elusive, if not impossible. Something like this? Often we crave connection but are blocked by the pain and the history that gets in the way. Small fights about little things become battles that highlight our struggle to have our basic relational needs met. I can help you get under the bickering to the parts crying out for connection- to an enriching relationship.

My approach is grounded in recognizing and addressing the unique dynamics that exist within family systems. I work collaboratively with families to foster open communication, resolve conflicts, and strengthen the bonds between family members. Ultimately, family counseling promotes healthier relationships, improved understanding, and a more harmonious family environment, leading to long-lasting positive changes and enhanced family functioning.

Do you feel disconnected from your wife or kids? Does it feel like you’ve lost control of your home? Or have you experienced something difficult within your family that’s not been resolved? If so, I can help. As a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist I’m an expert in relationships, and have been trained to identify the patterns within families that aren’t working, develop healthier ones, improve communication and understanding, and help families forge a new path forward. This often looks like a combination of family sessions, parent sessions, and individual sessions. I provide online therapy over HIPAA-secure video, and if given the opportunity, would be honored to serve your family.

Families are complicated systems that start with birth and continue throughout life, regardless of age. Finding new ways to relate to family members that reduce or eliminate turmoil and lead to more satisfaction for everyone involved is the aim of family therapy. From parenting dilemmas with children within the home, blended families, co-parenting through divorce, or adults having difficulty with parents later in life, there is a way to calm the troubled waters and emerge refreshed with clear solutions in hand.

Familes create complicated systems and part of my work is to identify the systems that are in place. Some of what I look for include identifying the roles each member takes, the communication patterns, power issues, where aliances form, the rule system (both spoken and unspoken rules), Family work is both challenging and rewarding as we work together to establish strong family bonds, heal past wounds and improve communication

Most family therapists inadvertently create more chaos through their well-intentioned efforts to assist a family move through a change process. Why? Brains are inherently deregulated (all of us, may I add) and most talking and dialoguing misses brain-centric problems that need more intensive help. Many times the emotional trauma created by years of solving problems ineffectively can wreak havoc on the brain's parasympathetic nervous system, not ever giving the family a break from flight or fight thinking. Contact us for an innovative neuroscience solution to family dysfunction. Kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.