Great Couples Counseling in Bastrop, TX. Therapy to heal relationships.

Relationships can be one of the most fulfilling parts of being in this life and sometimes it can be one the most difficult. Working with me, we will use a variety of therapeutic techniques including Gottman couples therapy to increase connection and friendship, increase effective conflict management and communication, and help you define and create shared meaning. The skills you will learn can help create a more peaceful and loving relationship.

Are you feeling lonely in your own marriage? Disrespected? Misunderstood? It doesn’t have to stay this way. Far too often, high-achieving men feel disrespected and lonely within their own marriages. As a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, I help men and their wives to rediscover the incredible value they bring to the marriage, and help them negotiate a hopeful path forward. I will help you identify destructive patterns in your marriage and provide healthier alternatives. I’ll help you improve communication, learn to fight fair, and increase understanding and connection. While it’s not easy work, there is hope. If given the chance, I would be honored to help you fight for your marriage.

Partnering with someone, whether personal or professional, comes with problems to solve, obstacles to overcome and successes to garner. Discovering ways and means of communicating with each other, understanding the point of view of your partner (without giving up your own point of view), getting on the same page regarding the problem to be solved is the aim of couples counseling. Coming to mutually satisfying conclusions is the result.

What are the most common couples' issues? If you are thinking "communication, conflict, sex, money, child rearing" you are correct. However, most therapists will go after the symptom on each side of the couple fence thinking that the way to effective change is by getting each party to "work" on their respective "issue". Many times the parties don’t agree but comply. Imagine if you could align the unconscious brains of a couple and stop the "working on your issues" part that has become so popular in therapy settings? Contact kevin@kevinflemingphd.com to learn how! Or call 877-606-6161. DR. FLEMING'S NEW RELATIONSHIP/COUPLES INTENSIVES. www.kevinflemingphd.com/marriage-couples-retreats.php

Being in a committed relationship can be incredibly rewarding, as well as the most frustrating, disappointing, overwhelming aspects of life. If you're like most couples, you start a fight on one topic and end on a completely different topic, without any resolution. My approach to therapy helps couples identify the underlying patterns of each fight and work to change those patterns, leading to long-term resolution. I use humor, understanding, and confrontation to push clients where they want to go.

I facilitate constructive and open dialogues to strengthen relationships. Through effective communication strategies and conflict resolution techniques, I guide couples in addressing issues and enhancing emotional connection. My goal is to help partners rediscover shared goals, improve mutual understanding, and cultivate a healthier and more fulfilling partnership.

There are countless models of healthy romantic relationships, from monogamous to polyamorous, and unique variations between partners. The scripts for dating and longterm relationships of our parents’ generations may not be applicable to your relationship, and there is no formal education in how to be a good partner or how to identify unhealthy relationships. But there is psychological research that shows that effective communication, emotional openness, intimacy, and other factors contribute to healthy relationships. Creating these conditions are skills that can be learned. I practice brief humanistic and emotion-focused therapy (EFT) to help my LGBTQ and hetero clients learn these skills.

We specialize in couples counseling. Our approach is one which acknowledges the emotional aspect of both individuals. We listen intently and provide a critical analysis so that all involved have a clear understanding of the issue and where there is possible miscommunication. We have found that there are typically areas in which both individuals can improve, and we focus on where those areas of improvement are needed. We also understand the delicate nature of couples counseling in that each is typically passionate in their own beliefs. We are very skilled communicators in getting buy in to where personal growth is needed.

Just Mind has 12 trained couples therapists and William Schroeder has completed Level Two of Gottman training. He works with a Gottman trainer and goes to twice monthly supervision to help grow in his implementation of the Gottman method. Gottman therapy is based upon 40 years of couples research in evidence based practices to see what best practices helped thousands of couples to build and grow their relationships.

Having worked with couples for several years, I find that there are very common themes that pop up. The major issues begin when the communication breaks down. I know the value and have the skills to help restore (or install) healthy communication patterns. Once we have communication in place we are able to focus on the other issues that come up in relationships, including meeting each other's needs, roles, power differentials, financial issues, past baggage, grudges and resentments,roles, extended families or parenting disagreements to name a few. I work hard to create balance in the session so that neither spouse feels constantly picked on, or in the hot seat and I encourage feedback.

Intimacy. How can we find intimacy in our close relationships when it seems like conflicts just get in the way? Sometimes the conflicts are the stuff of our daily grind--too many hours at work, too many socks on the floor, too many missed opportunities to connect. Sometimes conflicts are fire storms--affairs, addictions, and more. If we learn to manage our conflicts, and listen to the communications with in them, we can deepen intimacy with our partners, our families, friends, and most importantly, with ourselves.

Relationships can be very difficult at times. It can be hard to communicate your needs and maintain a sense of autonomy while still working with and considering your partner. I believe that with the right tools we can together navigate a way to maintain your sense of self while also strengthening your relationship. I hope to help each individual self-reflect and consider the way they impact their partner while also effectively communicating their needs and ensuring that they are heard.

Let me guess. One partner feels alone and like they don't matter and the other feels they are always being criticized and can't get anything right. The more one asks for the other to show up, the more the partner disappears physically and emotionally. You both bicker and fight and the idea of sitting and just hanging out seems elusive, if not impossible. Something like this? Often we crave connection but are blocked by the pain and the history that gets in the way. Small fights about little things become battles that highlight our struggle to have our basic relational needs met. I can help you get under the bickering to the parts crying out for connection- to an enriching relationship.