Anger Management and Counseling in Westlake, TX.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Everyone experiences anger at one time or another…it can be a normal and healthy response to life’s challenges. But when it becomes explosive, hostile or abusive, counseling can help you sort out the underlying emotions, triggers and patterns that develop as a result. Road rage, fighting and aggressive outbursts are just a few examples of how anger can spiral out of control. Counseling can help individuals understand the different aspect of angry feelings and behaviors, allowing for increased self-control, healthy functioning and improved relationships and self-esteem.

You'll find a secure, accepting environment to explore and comprehend your emotions in our workshops on managing anger. We'll identify the causes of anger and develop useful coping mechanisms so that it may be expressed and dealt with in a healthy way. We'll strive toward long-lasting emotional control and resolution by exploring the underlying issues. I'll provide you useful tips and tricks so you can respond to difficult circumstances with more poise and clarity. You will gain the abilities and self-awareness necessary to promote better relationships and handle life's issues with a more impartial viewpoint through our therapeutic partnership.

Anger Management therapy is a powerful tool for people wanting to understand, explore, and control their anger through channeling healthier alternatives. Much like other emotions, we learn expression of these feelings through what we grew up seeing around us. Anger is particularly challenging because it is viewed as one of the more "acceptable" emotions to feel, however it can also become destructive to us both personally and in our most valued relationships. We will delve into any past experiences that may continue to fuel your anger and work towards self reflection, mindfulness, and awareness of personal triggers to find constructive ways to assertively express difficult emotions.

We best manage our anger when we approach it from two angles. The first is to examine and change our behavior. There is always a predictive pattern to an anger escalation. Once we learn this and understand this path, we can engage it differently and have an improved outcome. Secondly, for longer term relief, we need to examine how we think and how we can begin to see life differently and get our needs met in healthier ways. Healthy anger is simply the slight boost of energy we feel when we engage something that is not right or is unfair (at least to us!). Learning how to deal with the thoughts and feelings around this will give us more tools and better outcomes.

Anger management counseling can help to identify stressors and learn the steps to stay calm in the face of anger. The goal is to handle tense situations in more constructive and positive ways by reducing the emotional and physical arousal that anger can cause. It will provide the tools to take back your life and resolve the triggers that result in unplanned anger reactions.

Anger is just another emotion that humans experience in this journey of life. Sometimes anger is about needing protection from something we may or may not understand - physically, emotionally, spiritually. Oftentimes outward anger is actually a cover or "mask" for underlying issues that need to be looked at, like: fear, frustration, pain, hurt, etc. Learning to process the whole package instead of giving in to the power of our anger, while engaged in the true pain of a situation can be unhealthy to us and our relationships. Learning to key to slowing your process down is powerful and freeing!

Managing our emotions appropriately is a skill that is learned. This skill takes time, but with continued dedication and education, you will be on a track to positive emotional mental health. We teach you to understand your triggers and to minimize any negative outbursts. We do however understand that strong angry emotions can get the best of us regardless of our efforts to avoid triggers. We help you learn to manage your emotions while in the moment without responding in ways we regret in the future.

When working to address anger management issues, I help people learn how to identify stressors, take necessary steps to remain calm, and handle tense situations in a constructive, positive manner. Once someone has better understanding of anger and their triggers, they are able to develop skills and tools to help them respond to stressors or triggers in a more healthy and effective manner.

In my experience as an EMDR therapist, I pay close attention to the links between past and present. I’ve seen time and time again how unhealed emotional wounds resurface and come out sideways. While anger management can provide helpful strategies, they don’t get to the heart of the issue. Often, anger is what we see on the surface, but the real problem is what’s underneath the anger. Negative beliefs like “I’m helpless,” “I’m out of control,” and “I’m a failure,” start to bubble up, and anger comes to the rescue. It can get us in trouble, but at least it gets the blood pumping. With research-proven EMDR therapy, I help men heal anger at its source so it doesn’t have to be managed.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwaive optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161

My approach revolves around helping clients gain a deep understanding of the root causes and triggers of their anger. I provide a supportive and non-judgmental space where clients can explore their emotions, thoughts, and behaviors associated with anger. Through evidence-based techniques and strategies, clients will benefit by learning healthier ways to express and manage their anger, enhancing their communication skills, and ultimately regaining control over their reactions.

Anger is a secondary emotion. Underneath it always exists deeper emotions like sadness or fear. People who consistently live in anger need help accessing this sadness or fear. Anger is also addictive. Whether it's consistent rage or the daily low level anger of complaining, it can be hard to jettison even if we know what's under it. Vulnerability is the key.