Anger Management and Counseling in West Columbia, TX.

You'll find a secure, accepting environment to explore and comprehend your emotions in our workshops on managing anger. We'll identify the causes of anger and develop useful coping mechanisms so that it may be expressed and dealt with in a healthy way. We'll strive toward long-lasting emotional control and resolution by exploring the underlying issues. I'll provide you useful tips and tricks so you can respond to difficult circumstances with more poise and clarity. You will gain the abilities and self-awareness necessary to promote better relationships and handle life's issues with a more impartial viewpoint through our therapeutic partnership.

In my experience as an EMDR therapist, I pay close attention to the links between past and present. I’ve seen time and time again how unhealed emotional wounds resurface and come out sideways. While anger management can provide helpful strategies, they don’t get to the heart of the issue. Often, anger is what we see on the surface, but the real problem is what’s underneath the anger. Negative beliefs like “I’m helpless,” “I’m out of control,” and “I’m a failure,” start to bubble up, and anger comes to the rescue. It can get us in trouble, but at least it gets the blood pumping. With research-proven EMDR therapy, I help men heal anger at its source so it doesn’t have to be managed.

Anger is our response to stress. Sometimes we feel anger to avoid some other emotion such as anxiety or hurt and other times anger is a way of mobilizing ourselves in the face of a threat. Regardless of the reasons for your anger, you may find that it is unproductive in your relationships with others. Our therapists can help you develop new responses to stress and help you stop the spiral of anger. Our approach to working with anger is both physiological and psychological. We will help you recognize and manage the physical signs and symptoms that occur when you're angry as well as finding new ways to express yourself and get your needs met in a way that others can understand.

You can learn to manage your anger by recognizing where emotions come from and learning alternatives to getting angry, ones that are far more likely to get you what you really want and need. Anger is generally a secondary emotion. You can learn to identify what feelings are underneath the anger and how to express those appropriately instead. Anger is not necessary or helpful.

In my approach to counseling anger management, I am committed to fostering a non-judgmental and empathetic environment where clients can explore the roots of their anger in a constructive manner. I value the importance of understanding anger as a natural emotion with underlying causes, and I strive to help clients develop healthier coping strategies and communication skills. My goal is to support individuals in transforming their anger into positive action and self-awareness, guiding them toward emotional regulation and personal growth. By emphasizing respect and self-compassion, I aim to empower clients to manage their anger effectively and build more fulfilling relationships.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Anger, like other emotions, is neither good nor bad. Anger alerts our body and mind to know, simply, a problem exists that needs to be solved. Without anger, we become “door mats” where people “walk all over us”. Finding the solution that anger seeks can be tricky. The anger goal is to solve the problem; with the “rule” of not hurting ourselves, someone else, and actually making the problem smaller, not bigger. The challenge is when our “stuff” gets in the way. We “lose our cool”; allowing aggressiveness versus assertiveness to run the show. My approach allows people to find their voice, keep their personal power, while preserving relationships and solving the anger problem.

As a culture, we do not do well with healthy expressions of anger. Often we are raised to suppress it and then we have limited practice at dealing with big emotion. There is a spectrum of healthy aggression- to keep us safe and to maintain boundaries- and rage- our body's strategy for safety. Anger management is about applying the right "dosing" to maintain boundaries yet not fracture relationships or suffer other losses. I am able to help you learn to regulate your body to be able to apply the appropriate "dose" to be effective and not destructive.

Managing our emotions appropriately is a skill that is learned. This skill takes time, but with continued dedication and education, you will be on a track to positive emotional mental health. We teach you to understand your triggers and to minimize any negative outbursts. We do however understand that strong angry emotions can get the best of us regardless of our efforts to avoid triggers. We help you learn to manage your emotions while in the moment without responding in ways we regret in the future.

My approach revolves around helping clients gain a deep understanding of the root causes and triggers of their anger. I provide a supportive and non-judgmental space where clients can explore their emotions, thoughts, and behaviors associated with anger. Through evidence-based techniques and strategies, clients will benefit by learning healthier ways to express and manage their anger, enhancing their communication skills, and ultimately regaining control over their reactions.