Anger Management and Counseling in Trophy Club, TX.

Anger is usually caused by shoulds or demands that you impose upon others. You argue with what is, demanding that what you want is what should be. Anger is truly one of the hardest emotions to shift out of when you're really feeling it strongly. In working with you on your anger, I will start by just listening and trying to understand why you're feeling hurt, betrayed, abandoned, abused, neglected, or deprived in some fashion. Then I will teach you to evaluate what is in your control & what isn't, so we can help you to focus upon what is in your control. In addition, I will teach you appropriate ways to express yourself, and to shift out of demandingness, into stating what you prefer

When working to address anger management issues, I help people learn how to identify stressors, take necessary steps to remain calm, and handle tense situations in a constructive, positive manner. Once someone has better understanding of anger and their triggers, they are able to develop skills and tools to help them respond to stressors or triggers in a more healthy and effective manner.

In my role as an anger management facilitator, I strive to help individuals develop healthier ways of managing their anger and promoting emotional well-being. Through a combination of therapeutic techniques and personalized strategies, I assist clients in identifying triggers, understanding the underlying causes of their anger, and exploring effective ways to express the anger. By teaching practical skills such as relaxation techniques, communication strategies, and problem-solving methods, I empower individuals to express their emotions constructively, cultivate self-awareness, and foster healthier relationships. Together, we work towards achieving long-lasting positive change.

Anger is a secondary emotion. Underneath it always exists deeper emotions like sadness or fear. People who consistently live in anger need help accessing this sadness or fear. Anger is also addictive. Whether it's consistent rage or the daily low level anger of complaining, it can be hard to jettison even if we know what's under it. Vulnerability is the key.

As a culture, we do not do well with healthy expressions of anger. Often we are raised to suppress it and then we have limited practice at dealing with big emotion. There is a spectrum of healthy aggression- to keep us safe and to maintain boundaries- and rage- our body's strategy for safety. Anger management is about applying the right "dosing" to maintain boundaries yet not fracture relationships or suffer other losses. I am able to help you learn to regulate your body to be able to apply the appropriate "dose" to be effective and not destructive.

Anger is a God-given emotion that everyone experiences. Anger can be expressed in a positive and constructive way or in a negative and destructive way. At Christ Centered Counseling / Anger Is OK! we provide anger management training for court ordered individuals and for those desiring to learn anger management skills. Clients learn how to identify their anger triggers, how to use calming and relaxation techniques, and how to be assertive, rather than aggressive, and much more. Dr. Bartley is a Certified Anger Management Specialist (CAMS-V) and Diplomat with the National Anger Management Association.

In my experience as an EMDR therapist, I pay close attention to the links between past and present. I’ve seen time and time again how unhealed emotional wounds resurface and come out sideways. While anger management can provide helpful strategies, they don’t get to the heart of the issue. Often, anger is what we see on the surface, but the real problem is what’s underneath the anger. Negative beliefs like “I’m helpless,” “I’m out of control,” and “I’m a failure,” start to bubble up, and anger comes to the rescue. It can get us in trouble, but at least it gets the blood pumping. With research-proven EMDR therapy, I help men heal anger at its source so it doesn’t have to be managed.

Managing our emotions appropriately is a skill that is learned. This skill takes time, but with continued dedication and education, you will be on a track to positive emotional mental health. We teach you to understand your triggers and to minimize any negative outbursts. We do however understand that strong angry emotions can get the best of us regardless of our efforts to avoid triggers. We help you learn to manage your emotions while in the moment without responding in ways we regret in the future.

Anger Management therapy is a powerful tool for people wanting to understand, explore, and control their anger through channeling healthier alternatives. Much like other emotions, we learn expression of these feelings through what we grew up seeing around us. Anger is particularly challenging because it is viewed as one of the more "acceptable" emotions to feel, however it can also become destructive to us both personally and in our most valued relationships. We will delve into any past experiences that may continue to fuel your anger and work towards self reflection, mindfulness, and awareness of personal triggers to find constructive ways to assertively express difficult emotions.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Everyone experiences anger at one time or another…it can be a normal and healthy response to life’s challenges. But when it becomes explosive, hostile or abusive, counseling can help you sort out the underlying emotions, triggers and patterns that develop as a result. Road rage, fighting and aggressive outbursts are just a few examples of how anger can spiral out of control. Counseling can help individuals understand the different aspect of angry feelings and behaviors, allowing for increased self-control, healthy functioning and improved relationships and self-esteem.

I offer strategies to those struggling with managing their anger. I help you identify triggers and possible warning signs so you can learn how to manage the strong feelings and regain some control. I teach breathing techniques and positive godly reframes for you to exchange for your other thoughts. I also teach how to express your thoughts and feelings in healthy and productive ways with the people in your life.

Many of my clients arrive to therapy wanting help regulating their emotions. Sometimes they just want to know what feeling they may be experiencing in their body while others may not know how to self-soothe or prevent themselves from experiencing a cycle of irritation, anxiety, anger, and guilt. I help my clients find out what their emotional triggers are, how they can process their emotions in a healthy way, and how to self-soothe.