Anger Management and Counseling in Runaway Bay, TX.

I offer strategies to those struggling with managing their anger. I help you identify triggers and possible warning signs so you can learn how to manage the strong feelings and regain some control. I teach breathing techniques and positive godly reframes for you to exchange for your other thoughts. I also teach how to express your thoughts and feelings in healthy and productive ways with the people in your life.

In my experience as an EMDR therapist, I pay close attention to the links between past and present. I’ve seen time and time again how unhealed emotional wounds resurface and come out sideways. While anger management can provide helpful strategies, they don’t get to the heart of the issue. Often, anger is what we see on the surface, but the real problem is what’s underneath the anger. Negative beliefs like “I’m helpless,” “I’m out of control,” and “I’m a failure,” start to bubble up, and anger comes to the rescue. It can get us in trouble, but at least it gets the blood pumping. With research-proven EMDR therapy, I help men heal anger at its source so it doesn’t have to be managed.

Do you feel irritable, overwhelmed, stressed out, or angry? Do people tell you that you have anger problems or need help in managing your stress? If so, then anger management techniques may be helpful. Anger may have nothing to do with your situation. Many times we act in anger when we are stressed out or overwhelmed. Learning a few techniques to help manage your stressors can be beneficial in regulating your emotions, especially anger and stress. In counseling, we can discuss these techniques by identifying your stressors and providing education on how to better control your emotions and behaviors. I promise you, there is hope in changing your emotional reactions to situations.

As a culture, we do not do well with healthy expressions of anger. Often we are raised to suppress it and then we have limited practice at dealing with big emotion. There is a spectrum of healthy aggression- to keep us safe and to maintain boundaries- and rage- our body's strategy for safety. Anger management is about applying the right "dosing" to maintain boundaries yet not fracture relationships or suffer other losses. I am able to help you learn to regulate your body to be able to apply the appropriate "dose" to be effective and not destructive.

Managing our emotions appropriately is a skill that is learned. This skill takes time, but with continued dedication and education, you will be on a track to positive emotional mental health. We teach you to understand your triggers and to minimize any negative outbursts. We do however understand that strong angry emotions can get the best of us regardless of our efforts to avoid triggers. We help you learn to manage your emotions while in the moment without responding in ways we regret in the future.

Do you get furious when you're behind a slow driver? Do relatives get upset because you get so angry so often? Are you ashamed or embarrassed when you see yourself having temper tantrums, or saying things to co-workers or strangers that you wish you hadn't said? Have you lost friends or jobs, or been arrested, due to actions you took when you were angry? If any of those things apply, you need help learning that anger is normal, but expressing it appropriately is a skill you can learn. I can help you learn to de-stress and deal with life's everyday trials in a better way.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

My approach revolves around helping clients gain a deep understanding of the root causes and triggers of their anger. I provide a supportive and non-judgmental space where clients can explore their emotions, thoughts, and behaviors associated with anger. Through evidence-based techniques and strategies, clients will benefit by learning healthier ways to express and manage their anger, enhancing their communication skills, and ultimately regaining control over their reactions.