Anger Management and Counseling in Richardson, TX.

Anger is a normal part of our emotional make-up. Expressing our anger is important to our mental health. However, it is important that we learn how to do this in a positive way, that is not detrimental to our relationships and our lives. There are many techniques that can be learned in order to accomplish this. Let me help you to learn life skills that can help you to better control your emotions.

In my experience as an EMDR therapist, I pay close attention to the links between past and present. I’ve seen time and time again how unhealed emotional wounds resurface and come out sideways. While anger management can provide helpful strategies, they don’t get to the heart of the issue. Often, anger is what we see on the surface, but the real problem is what’s underneath the anger. Negative beliefs like “I’m helpless,” “I’m out of control,” and “I’m a failure,” start to bubble up, and anger comes to the rescue. It can get us in trouble, but at least it gets the blood pumping. With research-proven EMDR therapy, I help men heal anger at its source so it doesn’t have to be managed.

Is your partner threatening to leave you due to your problems controlling your anger? Do you feel as though you are boiling over with frustration in minor situations? Together, we can uncover the underlying feelings leading to your anger and create strategies to regain control of your frustration. Maybe you feel pressured and stressed all of the time. Or maybe you don't feel listened to when you are trying to communicate to your partner or spouse. In our therapy sessions, you will be able to talk about your frustration and stress in a safe and nonjudgmental atmosphere. Call or e-mail me today to set up a consultation to see how I can help.

We best manage our anger when we approach it from two angles. The first is to examine and change our behavior. There is always a predictive pattern to an anger escalation. Once we learn this and understand this path, we can engage it differently and have an improved outcome. Secondly, for longer term relief, we need to examine how we think and how we can begin to see life differently and get our needs met in healthier ways. Healthy anger is simply the slight boost of energy we feel when we engage something that is not right or is unfair (at least to us!). Learning how to deal with the thoughts and feelings around this will give us more tools and better outcomes.

Using the Angerbusters model, we'll look at how to keep anger from controlling your life, or better live with someone with an anger problem. This is a model that sees anger as a "cover emotion" that, for some people, should not be indulged. Toxic anger can endanger not only marriages, but careers, friendships and other family relationships. The model is extremely practical, with specific ideas to adopt and scripts to say in everyday life.

You don't have to be a slave to your anger and your impulses. You can take control of your emotions and behaviors with the right skills. To experience emotion is to be human and each emotion serves a very valuable purpose. You can learn like many others to be in control of your emotions instead of being dominated by them. Regardless of how powerful your emotions are you do not have to be powerless to them.

Being angry is not bad, it is what we do with it that can be destructive to ourselves and our relationships. I can help you identify unhealthy anger patterns and triggers. Sessions will consist of learning how your anger was learned and re-learning healthier ways of handling it. Understanding your anger will help prevent future relationship conflict and build more confidence for you as a person.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

As a Certified Anger Resolution Therapist, I understand that you may have already tried to control your frustration or someone else may be telling you that your anger is a problem. Either way, I recognize that you have been doing the best you can but you need some help to achieve consistent management of your anger. During counseling, I will teach you methods individualized for your specific needs to help you recognize triggers and control your responses.

Anger is really a secondary emotion. Often it is driven by intrapsychic feelings of fear, or frustration, or early life trauma that has been repressed below the level of consciousness. When we experience sudden onset of anger that we cannot fully understand or explain, that can be an indicator that counseling could be of some help. Ungrieved loss, unfinished family business, and unregulated emotions can all lead to anger that is out of control and unmerited for the situation. Family Systems counseling can help clients become more differentiated, more mature and more capable of recognizing the difference between feeling and thinking--leading to better relationships and a more joyous life.

As a culture, we do not do well with healthy expressions of anger. Often we are raised to suppress it and then we have limited practice at dealing with big emotion. There is a spectrum of healthy aggression- to keep us safe and to maintain boundaries- and rage- our body's strategy for safety. Anger management is about applying the right "dosing" to maintain boundaries yet not fracture relationships or suffer other losses. I am able to help you learn to regulate your body to be able to apply the appropriate "dose" to be effective and not destructive.

Anger has many sources, but regardless of the source, I know that it can have devastating effects in our lives, often times that we look back and regret things we did and/or said. Excessive anger takes away our control and power in the moment, and I want to help you regain control of yourself so that you can regain power of your life. I look forward to exploring with you the source of your anger, so that we can begin the healing process, so that you can live a happier life and be in better control of yourself, as well as learning healthy coping skills for de-escalation.

Anger can negatively affect someone’s life in numerous ways, as well as hurt loved ones, colleagues, or strangers. It’s impossible to be joyful and angry at the same time. When you work with one of our professional counselors you will gain an understanding about what’s causing your anger and how to overcome it. Anger usually masks one or more deeper emotions and experiences, such as a perceived injustice, fear, and hurt or sorrow. Once you gain insights about what’s beneath your anger then you can begin to make some real progress in addressing it in healthier ways and overcoming it.