Anger Management and Counseling in Plano, TX.

Treating anger entails assessing the root causes, and normalizing the emotion while emphasizing healthy expressions. Focusing on enhancing emotional regulation skills and communicating needs and frustrations, along with skill-building and behavior modification will be considered in a treatment approach for anger management. Moreover, understanding triggers and coping strategies to best empower the individual to navigate their emotions.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

We best manage our anger when we approach it from two angles. The first is to examine and change our behavior. There is always a predictive pattern to an anger escalation. Once we learn this and understand this path, we can engage it differently and have an improved outcome. Secondly, for longer term relief, we need to examine how we think and how we can begin to see life differently and get our needs met in healthier ways. Healthy anger is simply the slight boost of energy we feel when we engage something that is not right or is unfair (at least to us!). Learning how to deal with the thoughts and feelings around this will give us more tools and better outcomes.

Do you sometimes feel out-of-control? Do you feel as if you anger easily? I can help you experience your emotions without being held hostage to them. I use DBT (dialectical behavior therapy), cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) and mindfulness, to teach you how to be present in the moment. Mindfulness teaches you how to be present in your life; When you understand that your thoughts influence your feelings which then influence behavior, you can begin to make positive changes in your life.

As a culture, we do not do well with healthy expressions of anger. Often we are raised to suppress it and then we have limited practice at dealing with big emotion. There is a spectrum of healthy aggression- to keep us safe and to maintain boundaries- and rage- our body's strategy for safety. Anger management is about applying the right "dosing" to maintain boundaries yet not fracture relationships or suffer other losses. I am able to help you learn to regulate your body to be able to apply the appropriate "dose" to be effective and not destructive.

Many of my clients arrive to therapy wanting help regulating their emotions. Sometimes they just want to know what feeling they may be experiencing in their body while others may not know how to self-soothe or prevent themselves from experiencing a cycle of irritation, anxiety, anger, and guilt. I help my clients find out what their emotional triggers are, how they can process their emotions in a healthy way, and how to self-soothe.

In my experience as an EMDR therapist, I pay close attention to the links between past and present. I’ve seen time and time again how unhealed emotional wounds resurface and come out sideways. While anger management can provide helpful strategies, they don’t get to the heart of the issue. Often, anger is what we see on the surface, but the real problem is what’s underneath the anger. Negative beliefs like “I’m helpless,” “I’m out of control,” and “I’m a failure,” start to bubble up, and anger comes to the rescue. It can get us in trouble, but at least it gets the blood pumping. With research-proven EMDR therapy, I help men heal anger at its source so it doesn’t have to be managed.

Anger is really a secondary emotion. Often it is driven by intrapsychic feelings of fear, or frustration, or early life trauma that has been repressed below the level of consciousness. When we experience sudden onset of anger that we cannot fully understand or explain, that can be an indicator that counseling could be of some help. Ungrieved loss, unfinished family business, and unregulated emotions can all lead to anger that is out of control and unmerited for the situation. Family Systems counseling can help clients become more differentiated, more mature and more capable of recognizing the difference between feeling and thinking--leading to better relationships and a more joyous life.

Anger is a normal emotion & is allowed! Underwood Counseling & Consultation, PLLC helps clients to recognize thoughts, feelings, & behaviors that contribute to the expression of anger in both unhealthy & healthy ways. We offer an insightful exploration of emotional management & regulation, skill building, & mindfulness to improve the expression of anger. Underwood Counseling & Consultation, PLLC uses CBT, DBT skills training, ACT, EMDR, & Accelerated Resolution Therapy to improve anger management.

Managing our emotions appropriately is a skill that is learned. This skill takes time, but with continued dedication and education, you will be on a track to positive emotional mental health. We teach you to understand your triggers and to minimize any negative outbursts. We do however understand that strong angry emotions can get the best of us regardless of our efforts to avoid triggers. We help you learn to manage your emotions while in the moment without responding in ways we regret in the future.

My approach revolves around helping clients gain a deep understanding of the root causes and triggers of their anger. I provide a supportive and non-judgmental space where clients can explore their emotions, thoughts, and behaviors associated with anger. Through evidence-based techniques and strategies, clients will benefit by learning healthier ways to express and manage their anger, enhancing their communication skills, and ultimately regaining control over their reactions.

Anger management counseling can help to identify stressors and learn the steps to stay calm in the face of anger. The goal is to handle tense situations in more constructive and positive ways by reducing the emotional and physical arousal that anger can cause. It will provide the tools to take back your life and resolve the triggers that result in unplanned anger reactions.