Anger Management and Counseling in Elgin, TX.

Do you find yourself getting frustrated way more often than you'd like? Do you try to control it as best you can, until it gets to much and explodes out? Do "little things" bother you more than for most people? You're not alone, and you're not a bad person for feeling this way. With therapy, you can figure out where your anger comes from, what it means, and how to use it in healthy ways. You can learn to use anger to improve your confidence, stand up for yourself, and strengthen your relationships instead of damaging them. Reach out today, and begin your journey to do right for yourself and for those you love.

Ever wonder why you can't get control of you anger? Maybe you've tried lots of different techniques or read a number of books and nothing seems to work for you. Too many of us with anger problems are too focused on the anger, to the exclusion of some of the emotions that trigger that anger. I work with clients to understand the full spectrum of their emotions and how anger is a part of that spectrum.

What's fueling your fire? Life Practice provides a means to discovering just that and a way to bank the fires of anger and rage. What kind of experience would you have if that power was forged into tools that worked for you rather than against you? When the heat flares, destruction often follows leaving a mess to clean up. Allow us to aid in the clean up and assist you to bring forth a phoenix from the ashes.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Managing our emotions appropriately is a skill that is learned. This skill takes time, but with continued dedication and education, you will be on a track to positive emotional mental health. We teach you to understand your triggers and to minimize any negative outbursts. We do however understand that strong angry emotions can get the best of us regardless of our efforts to avoid triggers. We help you learn to manage your emotions while in the moment without responding in ways we regret in the future.

Anger management counseling can help to identify stressors and learn the steps to stay calm in the face of anger. The goal is to handle tense situations in more constructive and positive ways by reducing the emotional and physical arousal that anger can cause. It will provide the tools to take back your life and resolve the triggers that result in unplanned anger reactions.

My approach revolves around helping clients gain a deep understanding of the root causes and triggers of their anger. I provide a supportive and non-judgmental space where clients can explore their emotions, thoughts, and behaviors associated with anger. Through evidence-based techniques and strategies, clients will benefit by learning healthier ways to express and manage their anger, enhancing their communication skills, and ultimately regaining control over their reactions.

As a culture, we do not do well with healthy expressions of anger. Often we are raised to suppress it and then we have limited practice at dealing with big emotion. There is a spectrum of healthy aggression- to keep us safe and to maintain boundaries- and rage- our body's strategy for safety. Anger management is about applying the right "dosing" to maintain boundaries yet not fracture relationships or suffer other losses. I am able to help you learn to regulate your body to be able to apply the appropriate "dose" to be effective and not destructive.

Some of the latest studies suggest that the root issue for those experiencing anger issues stem from a sense of self shame. I received training as an Anger Management Specialist I and am trained to work with individuals either through a 12 session course or a combination of coursework and individual therapy. I've found the latter to be very effective in helping people understand their anger response and develop other resources and outlets to manage that powerful emotion

In my experience as an EMDR therapist, I pay close attention to the links between past and present. I’ve seen time and time again how unhealed emotional wounds resurface and come out sideways. While anger management can provide helpful strategies, they don’t get to the heart of the issue. Often, anger is what we see on the surface, but the real problem is what’s underneath the anger. Negative beliefs like “I’m helpless,” “I’m out of control,” and “I’m a failure,” start to bubble up, and anger comes to the rescue. It can get us in trouble, but at least it gets the blood pumping. With research-proven EMDR therapy, I help men heal anger at its source so it doesn’t have to be managed.