Anger Management and Counseling in Boerne, TX.

Anger can be tough to deal with but there are ways to overcome stubborn habits. Through bibliotherapy such as reading books like Be Angry But Don't Blow It, and The Dance of Anger, and working through angermanagementonline.com, individuals can improve their self-management and relationships. Do yourself and those you love a favor. Learn to handle the strong emotion of anger in positive, productive ways to enhance self-confidence, create trust, and heal relationships for a positive, healthy future.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

You'll find a secure, accepting environment to explore and comprehend your emotions in our workshops on managing anger. We'll identify the causes of anger and develop useful coping mechanisms so that it may be expressed and dealt with in a healthy way. We'll strive toward long-lasting emotional control and resolution by exploring the underlying issues. I'll provide you useful tips and tricks so you can respond to difficult circumstances with more poise and clarity. You will gain the abilities and self-awareness necessary to promote better relationships and handle life's issues with a more impartial viewpoint through our therapeutic partnership.

As a culture, we do not do well with healthy expressions of anger. Often we are raised to suppress it and then we have limited practice at dealing with big emotion. There is a spectrum of healthy aggression- to keep us safe and to maintain boundaries- and rage- our body's strategy for safety. Anger management is about applying the right "dosing" to maintain boundaries yet not fracture relationships or suffer other losses. I am able to help you learn to regulate your body to be able to apply the appropriate "dose" to be effective and not destructive.

Managing our emotions appropriately is a skill that is learned. This skill takes time, but with continued dedication and education, you will be on a track to positive emotional mental health. We teach you to understand your triggers and to minimize any negative outbursts. We do however understand that strong angry emotions can get the best of us regardless of our efforts to avoid triggers. We help you learn to manage your emotions while in the moment without responding in ways we regret in the future.

Anger management counseling can help to identify stressors and learn the steps to stay calm in the face of anger. The goal is to handle tense situations in more constructive and positive ways by reducing the emotional and physical arousal that anger can cause. It will provide the tools to take back your life and resolve the triggers that result in unplanned anger reactions.

In my experience as an EMDR therapist, I pay close attention to the links between past and present. I’ve seen time and time again how unhealed emotional wounds resurface and come out sideways. While anger management can provide helpful strategies, they don’t get to the heart of the issue. Often, anger is what we see on the surface, but the real problem is what’s underneath the anger. Negative beliefs like “I’m helpless,” “I’m out of control,” and “I’m a failure,” start to bubble up, and anger comes to the rescue. It can get us in trouble, but at least it gets the blood pumping. With research-proven EMDR therapy, I help men heal anger at its source so it doesn’t have to be managed.