Anger Management and Counseling in Addison, TX.

Many of my clients arrive to therapy wanting help regulating their emotions. Sometimes they just want to know what feeling they may be experiencing in their body while others may not know how to self-soothe or prevent themselves from experiencing a cycle of irritation, anxiety, anger, and guilt. I help my clients find out what their emotional triggers are, how they can process their emotions in a healthy way, and how to self-soothe.

Anger is really a secondary emotion. Often it is driven by intrapsychic feelings of fear, or frustration, or early life trauma that has been repressed below the level of consciousness. When we experience sudden onset of anger that we cannot fully understand or explain, that can be an indicator that counseling could be of some help. Ungrieved loss, unfinished family business, and unregulated emotions can all lead to anger that is out of control and unmerited for the situation. Family Systems counseling can help clients become more differentiated, more mature and more capable of recognizing the difference between feeling and thinking--leading to better relationships and a more joyous life.

You don't have to be a slave to your anger and your impulses. You can take control of your emotions and behaviors with the right skills. To experience emotion is to be human and each emotion serves a very valuable purpose. You can learn like many others to be in control of your emotions instead of being dominated by them. Regardless of how powerful your emotions are you do not have to be powerless to them.

We best manage our anger when we approach it from two angles. The first is to examine and change our behavior. There is always a predictive pattern to an anger escalation. Once we learn this and understand this path, we can engage it differently and have an improved outcome. Secondly, for longer term relief, we need to examine how we think and how we can begin to see life differently and get our needs met in healthier ways. Healthy anger is simply the slight boost of energy we feel when we engage something that is not right or is unfair (at least to us!). Learning how to deal with the thoughts and feelings around this will give us more tools and better outcomes.

Is your partner threatening to leave you due to your problems controlling your anger? Do you feel as though you are boiling over with frustration in minor situations? Together, we can uncover the underlying feelings leading to your anger and create strategies to regain control of your frustration. Maybe you feel pressured and stressed all of the time. Or maybe you don't feel listened to when you are trying to communicate to your partner or spouse. In our therapy sessions, you will be able to talk about your frustration and stress in a safe and nonjudgmental atmosphere. Call or e-mail me today to set up a consultation to see how I can help.

Anger is just another emotion that humans experience in this journey of life. Sometimes anger is about needing protection from something we may or may not understand - physically, emotionally, spiritually. Oftentimes outward anger is actually a cover or "mask" for underlying issues that need to be looked at, like: fear, frustration, pain, hurt, etc. Learning to process the whole package instead of giving in to the power of our anger, while engaged in the true pain of a situation can be unhealthy to us and our relationships. Learning to key to slowing your process down is powerful and freeing!