Great Couples Counseling in Forest Hills, TN. Therapy to heal relationships.

Couples are together in hope of enriching their lives by having a primary loving relationship. My years of experience working with couples have taught me that happiness in a relationship is less about "finding the right person", and more about developing the art of love through each partner becoming more attentive to the needs of the other, more accepting of who the other is, more appreciative of what they do, more affectionate in the way the other longs for, and more allowing of the other's personal growth and freedom within the context of a committed relationship. These are the Five "A's" of relationships. (thanks, David Richo!)

Brian approaches hurting relationships with a hope that is based on a knowledge of the ways to intervene with couples that have been found to be most effective. Beyond mere behavioral training and communication techniques, he uses the principles of Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples to go deeper into the core of clients' hurts, fears, desires, and hopes. Famed marriage researcher, Dr. John Gottman, has found that most couples start to struggle in significant ways 6 years prior to seeing a professional for help. Unfortunately, much division can happen in those years. Don't wait until it's too late to reach out for a helping hand.

Fact - Most problems in a relationship are never solved. What we find is that what happy couples do is focus on the problems they can solve together! Fact - There is nothing in the research that suggests couples who fight are doomed. What we do find is that happy couples have learned how to argue properly and make up quickly! I work with all kinds of couples. Some are considering marriage. Some are completely happy and just want to improve on a few things. Others are afraid their relationships are doomed to fail and don't know what else to do. Whatever your situation, I can give you the tools you need for a happy, healthy relationship.

Are you longing to feel more connected in your relationship and as though you're on the same team again? I will work with you to to identify the underlying causes driving your conflict cycle and help you each do your part to build a relationship you feel great about. You'll become more equipped to respond rather than react to one another in ways that lead to deeper connection.

I help couples to create a safe environment where they can share freely with one another. This is done by having the couple talk directly to one another about issues of concern while I moderate the conversation and direct it towards healthy patterns. Couples are given homework from "Hold Me Tight" by Susan Johnson and processed during sessions. The focus is to help each individual know more about their own attachment patterns and how negative patterns materialize in the relationship.

"Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way." -- The opening line of Leo Tolstoy's classic novel "Anna Karenina" There are consistent guiding principles found in healthy & happy couples. How they communicate; how they negotiate differences; how they handle stress; how they seek to get their emotional needs met AND how they respond to unmet needs. Every couple must engage those issues. Couples counseling that is practical & solution-focused can equip couples to resolve impasses and restore closeness. When you get right down to it, being close and enjoying closeness is what we all want. The good news is that it's within reach and not too much to ask for.

If your relationship is facing challenges, couples therapy can be a powerful resource to rebuild and strengthen your connection. In a safe and non-judgmental space, we'll explore communication patterns, emotional needs, and conflict resolution. By fostering understanding and empathy, we'll work towards rebuilding trust and intimacy. Whether you're navigating conflicts, considering commitment, or seeking to rekindle the flame, couples therapy can provide the guidance and support you need to create a loving and harmonious partnership. Together, let's revitalize your relationship and build a future of shared happiness and fulfillment.

What are the most common couples' issues? If you are thinking "communication, conflict, sex, money, child rearing" you are correct. However, most therapists will go after the symptom on each side of the couple fence thinking that the way to effective change is by getting each party to "work" on their respective "issue". Many times the parties don’t agree but comply. Imagine if you could align the unconscious brains of a couple and stop the "working on your issues" part that has become so popular in therapy settings? Contact kevin@kevinflemingphd.com to learn how! Or call 877-606-6161. DR. FLEMING'S NEW RELATIONSHIP/COUPLES INTENSIVES. www.kevinflemingphd.com/marriage-couples-retreats.php

We are here to help all couples, regardless of orientation, gender, beliefs, or cultures, find more connection in their relationship. Using a mix of communication skills building and interaction-cycle tracking, we help you address the underlying emotions that are fueling your disconnection. Experience more mutual understanding and effective communication through couples' counseling with us.