Anger Management and Counseling in La Vergne, TN.

“Why can’t I seem to control my anger?” “Why do I have such a short fuse?” “Why do I hurt the people I love the most?” “Why do I feel anger constantly boiling inside me?” “Where does this anger come from?” For most people these questions have answers. Emotions can be good and beneficial to us; even anger has its place. When anger is not in it's place it can damage and destroy us and our relationships. Let’s explore together the root cause(s) to the anger issues that disrupt your life and relationships.

Anger is a secondary emotion. You don't go from feeling okay to angry. You feel okay, then feel something that bothers you, and then you express it in anger. Some people show their anger with their words, often saying things that are hurtful and hard to apologize for. Others may manifest their anger physically, taking it out on themselves, inanimate objects, or other living things. My job is to help you understand where your anger is coming from and how to express it in a healthy way. It can absolutely be done, it just takes work and the desire to change.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Anger is almost always a reaction to some kind of blocked goal. For instance, if I have the goal of getting my child to behave (or stop behaving!) in a certain way, and I cannot seem to be successful, the tendency to become angry can seem unavoidable. We can benefit by learning to become more conscious of these internal, often unconscious goals, so that we can let go of the need to control things beyond our control. And, of course, the wiser we grow the more we realize how MANY things are beyond our control. I encourage my clients to embrace the goal of INFLUENCE rather than control, and to learn to accept the limitations involved in lovingly relating to others.

Feeling consumed by anger can be distressing and impact your relationships and overall well-being. Through therapy, you can learn to manage and channel your anger in healthy ways. I'll provide a non-judgmental space to explore the underlying causes of your anger and develop effective coping strategies. Together, we'll work on identifying triggers and finding constructive outlets for your emotions. With newfound tools and insights, you can experience healthier relationships and a greater sense of emotional balance. Take control of your anger and embrace a more harmonious and fulfilling life.

Anger management counseling can help to identify stressors and learn the steps to stay calm in the face of anger. The goal is to handle tense situations in more constructive and positive ways by reducing the emotional and physical arousal that anger can cause. It will provide the tools to take back your life and resolve the triggers that result in unplanned anger reactions.