Anger Management and Counseling in Franklin, TN.

Anger is a secondary emotion. You don't go from feeling okay to angry. You feel okay, then feel something that bothers you, and then you express it in anger. Some people show their anger with their words, often saying things that are hurtful and hard to apologize for. Others may manifest their anger physically, taking it out on themselves, inanimate objects, or other living things. My job is to help you understand where your anger is coming from and how to express it in a healthy way. It can absolutely be done, it just takes work and the desire to change.

Anger management counseling can help to identify stressors and learn the steps to stay calm in the face of anger. The goal is to handle tense situations in more constructive and positive ways by reducing the emotional and physical arousal that anger can cause. It will provide the tools to take back your life and resolve the triggers that result in unplanned anger reactions.

Anger is almost always a reaction to some kind of blocked goal. For instance, if I have the goal of getting my child to behave (or stop behaving!) in a certain way, and I cannot seem to be successful, the tendency to become angry can seem unavoidable. We can benefit by learning to become more conscious of these internal, often unconscious goals, so that we can let go of the need to control things beyond our control. And, of course, the wiser we grow the more we realize how MANY things are beyond our control. I encourage my clients to embrace the goal of INFLUENCE rather than control, and to learn to accept the limitations involved in lovingly relating to others.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.