Grief and Loss Counseling in Wayne, PA.

Experiencing a difficult loss is disorienting and can feel paralyzing. It can also bring up pain from the past that you thought was long gone, or cause you to question your view of the world. This is difficult but normal. It is important to talk about your grief with someone who really understands. I offer a safe place to work through your grief in your own way, without rushing, without having to put on a pretend smile or a brave face. I cannot undo your loss, but therapy can help you begin to find meaning in it, to make sense of the world again, and to find practical ways to cope.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of grief & loss through the lens of innovation----instead of growing the same neural networks responsible for the pain in weekly therapy sessions, we reset the brain to move forward quicker and efficiently by working on the stuck limbic system so as to empower the person with more success and traction. For no one wants to stay in a grief mode for too long; but when you don’t include the brain in your work with someone, you risk describing the water to them while they drown and calling it success. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

Grief is our response to loss. Grief, fully experienced, allows us to go on with life. Each person's response is unique. You may be grieving the death of a loved one; you may be dealing with a serious illness; you may be mourning the loss of a relationship; you may be dealing with the loss of a job. Wherever you are in the grief process, I offer a safe, empathetic relationship to guide you through the stages of anger, sadness, justifying, letting go. We will work together to facilitate healing.

To help a client cope through grief and loss, I sometimes use the example of how an oyster forms a pearl. The oyster ingests a grain of sand that causes pain, and which cannot be removed or dissolved (just like we cannot eliminate the pain of missing a loved one). So the oyster begins to encase the grain of sand with layers of calcium-like substance, that makes the grain of sand easier to carry and hold, without the rough edges. Coping through grief and loss can involve learning how to unpack, experience, and adjust how we carry the pain. Therapy can help you soften and encase the pain of loss, forming a "pearl" around it that is easier to carry with you, and perhaps make it more precious.

Grief and loss are inevitable in life, and can be our times of greatest pain, and also sometimes, greatest growth. Most people think first about the death of a loved one when they think about grief, but it also be the loss of a home, a friend, a marriage, a job, and so on. These events can sometimes also lead to profound grief. Often friends don't understand or know what to say. Sometimes, they even seem to disappear, when you're needing them most. You're not alone if you've experienced some of these phenomena. I'd like to help you through this painful time.

My approach to counseling someone in a place of loss is to create a space for the raw, authentic emotions and thoughts that can, at time, be hard to say out loud. I also find it important to allow the grief process to unfold at the pace my client feels they need. I want to offer you a space where you go through all the emotions, express all the thoughts, and do all the things you need to to experience healing.