Great Couples Counseling in Atglen, PA. Therapy to heal relationships.

You are struggling in your relationship and come to me feeling confused, hopeless, overwhelmed, angry, lonely, unloved, frustrated. . . I am specifically trained to help you identify what your true emotions and motivations are, what you are both really thinking and feeling. Often, couples feel they are in direct conflict when in fact they are simply not understanding the other's point of view. In many cases, when individuals realize what is really going on for the other beneath the surface, these insights alone can promote healing in the relationship. Gradually, conflict and feelings of isolation and confusion are replaced by feelings of understanding and connection.

When couples have problems that they cannot fix, oftentimes they will turn to a therapist to help to sort things out. When a therapist works with a couple, it is the relationship that is the client; not the two people in the relationship. So, when working with a couple, the goal is to help them to understand what is not working in their relationship, and why, and also what to do to improve how they are doing the relationship.

The most important thing in couples therapy is helping both people learn what they can do differently to transform negative patterns into a mutually respectful, loving relationship. When people learn to really listen to each other, communication improves. Understanding and compassion take the place of anger and resentment, transforming power struggles into mutual support. What a relief! I specialize in helping couples move beyond the crisis of infidelity to create a relationship that's better and stronger than ever. When this happens, trust is rebuilt and both partners gain confidence that they will never again suffer the pain of an affair

Couples therapy can be like inviting someone into your “home,” the special relational zone that you share with your significant other. Teletherapy can offer further enrichment to the therapeutic process, in addition to convenience factors. I strive to maintain a neutral and gentle perspective, helping you each observe and better manage your relational patterns of communion or disconnect. I can adapt my style to help you learn and practice new ways to empathize with your partner’s perspective, communicate effectively, resolve conflict and enjoy healthy connected-ness. I use tools such as the Myers-Briggs temperament styles, IMAGO techniques, and the Prepare-Enrich assessment survey.

What are the most common couples' issues? If you are thinking "communication, conflict, sex, money, child rearing" you are correct. However, most therapists will go after the symptom on each side of the couple fence thinking that the way to effective change is by getting each party to "work" on their respective "issue". Many times the parties don’t agree but comply. Imagine if you could align the unconscious brains of a couple and stop the "working on your issues" part that has become so popular in therapy settings? Contact kevin@kevinflemingphd.com to learn how! Or call 877-606-6161. DR. FLEMING'S NEW RELATIONSHIP/COUPLES INTENSIVES. www.kevinflemingphd.com/marriage-couples-retreats.php