Grief and Loss Counseling in Portland, OR.

When a client tells me about suffering from past trauma and loss, I ask them how they would like to feel instead. Many of them have forgotten that there could be another way to feel. Over the weeks, as we work together to discard their old harmful brain pathways, replacing them with new life-affirming positive ways of thinking and being, they are amazed. Reprocessing old harmful thought patterns through Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) is a great therapeutic tool. They make changes and move forward with new balance and love for themselves and others. This is true for parents suffering from the loss of a child, domestic violence victims, veterans, and spousal death.

Grieving any deep loss can be overwhelming (esp. for the Highly Sensitive), whether it is the loss of a person, relationship, community, ability, career, dream, life path, opportunity or possession (to name only a few). Significant losses are never simple, nor singular, rather they involve a myriad of complex experiences & emotions and can feel all consuming at times. My approach involves attending to the core of the grief as well as the ways it ripples into all areas of your life. We will find ways that best support you in holding the intensity of the pain, & in your own time, retrieve the gifts and lessons of that which has passed so that you can open space for living well with the loss.

It is common for family members to berate themselves about what they could have done, or what they did, to the person who has passed. While this gives the illusion of control,that if the grieving person could just have done this or that, they could have changed the outcome, this mode of thinking is actually a trap which can prolong the grieving process. I help bereaved people remove obstacles to the normal grieving process so that they can move through it and come to acceptance and peace.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of grief & loss through the lens of innovation----instead of growing the same neural networks responsible for the pain in weekly therapy sessions, we reset the brain to move forward quicker and efficiently by working on the stuck limbic system so as to empower the person with more success and traction. For no one wants to stay in a grief mode for too long; but when you don’t include the brain in your work with someone, you risk describing the water to them while they drown and calling it success. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.