Anger Management and Counseling in Aloha, OR.

Anger is an emotion that gets a bad reputation in our culture. A lot of the time, we associate anger with aggression, or harm, or other behaviors that are widely frowned upon. But when we think about it, there's a difference between acting out of anger, and the anger itself. At its core, anger is about justice and fairness, and the righteous protest when something isn't "right". That doesn't mean we need to excuse unhealthy behavior that's driven from behavior. Do you want to learn more about feeling anger in a productive way? Let's talk!

I provide individual psychotherapy for anger management. Anger is normal emotion that everyone experiences. It becomes a problem when one expresses anger inappropriately or one lacks the proficiency to express any emotions but anger. I use Humanistic and Dialectical Behaviour Therapy (DBT) to help my clients understand their anger, improve their emotional experience, and express their emotions in healthy ways. A healthy emotional life is the cornerstone of living a full and successful life.

Anger and it's triggers are plentiful. Tempering and controlling strong emotion such as this can be extremely difficult, especially if you add in life's frustration, sadness, and other emotions. My approach is to help the patient to release some of these emotions while processing where they might be coming from. Once this insight is gained certain techniques can be taught and used to deal with them on a daily basis as a daily practice.

We all know what anger is, and we've all felt it: whether as a fleeting annoyance or as full-fledged rage. Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy, human emotion. But when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems—problems at work, in your personal relationships, and in the overall quality of your life. And it can make you feel as though you're at the mercy of an unpredictable and powerful emotion. If you feel that your anger is really out of control, if it is having an impact on your relationships and on important parts of your life, you might consider counseling to learn how to handle it better.

Do you find yourself lashing out at those you love? Is your patience dwindling? Has your anger created problems in your relationships? Anger can stem from fear, sadness or frustration created by feeling that we aren't heard by those around us. We will work together to identify the underlying causes of your anger, and develop coping strategies and communication techniques that will allow you to have your emotional needs met.

While some believe that anger is never valid, I believe that clients with anger issues need to address whether responses of anger are the "best" response to the situation. Through counseling, it is these kinds of insights that help people become aware of exactly what they are feeling and learn, most of the time, better ways of dealing with those emotions. That being said, anger that is the result of addictions to drugs or alcohol need to be, first of all, dealt with in an addictions setting. Without addressing the addiction first, progress may be held back or altogether halted.

Becoming angry or irritated about a situation is a natural emotion. Sometimes our anger gets out of control and holds us back from completely engaging with family and friends or getting that next promotion. I will work with you to identify triggers, situations, and unresolved pain that create distress in your life. Teach you how to acknowledge and use that energy positively. Help you develop strategies to keep you in control during upsetting situations. Call, email, or text me today.

Do you find it difficult to keep from getting angry over something that seems later to be fairly trivial? I can help you unlock your reactions and gain more skill in controlling the emotional temperature to keep it within tolerable limits, so that you have a stronger sense of choice about how to respond to a stressful situation. I will help you to learn to respond rather than to automatically react when things get challenging.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.