Great Couples Counselling in Madoc, ON. Therapy to heal relationships.

I support couples at any stage of their relationship, who are seeking to strengthen their bonds and appreciation for one another by identifying potential negative interaction cycles, fostering respectful communication and repair focused on understanding each other’s needs. My hope is you are able to reconnect with your partner in a meaningful way and refoster and strengthen the foundation of friendship amongst you.

The key to any relationship is …… 1. Communication. 2. Listening to the words, nonverbal communication & listening with feelings. 3. The ability to state your needs and desires even if they are not satisfied. 4. Putting your relationship first and everything else next…even your children. 5. Re-evaluating your expectations of the relationship. 6. Showing tangible love on an everyday basis. 7. Graciously saying sorry. Even after doing all you are struggling, then examine the gift you are to your partner. Are you able to receive and accept the, gift that your partner presents in person. If you are still struggling, then you need to seek relationship counselling or marriage counselling.

When working with couples, I use several approaches to treatment including PACT and RLT. You may find that out work together is different than previous experiences you have had in couples therapy. Through our work together, you and your partner will discover how to stay connected, help each other feel safe and secure, manage each other’s emotional highs and lows, fight well and minimize each other’s stress. Longer sessions allow us to go deeper, getting to the heart of the issues you are facing and allowing time for repair to occur in session. Learn to have a secure relationship where both partner’s needs are met.

My approach is to help people recognize that relationships are two-sided and understand how each individual contributes to the couple’s dynamic. With that understanding, we work toward reaching a win-win situation, aiming to restore the satisfaction of the relationship. Together, we create a safe space for you to grow past the areas of “stuckness” -- that is, the old patterns that are learned when we are young and are brought to our current relationships. This is true for all of us. Therapy enables us to form new and healthy attachment patterns that are nourishing and nurturing, providing opportunities for new growth and satisfaction.

In working with couples, the relationship is my client. My goal is to ensure that both partners feel heard and validated. I support the couple in creating space to have conversations that might otherwise be difficult to have. In working with me, couples will learn improved ways of communicating and being there for one another. They will also learn how to manage conflict in a way that is supportive of relationship growth. Further, the couples' strengths will be highlighted and accessed to continue to grow the relationship bond.

I often see couples when one side is experiencing an addiction. This can cause relatively predictable effects in the other half of the partnership. The person addicted needs their own recovery and the partner needs their own healing. The couple also needs to heal by restoring trust and dealing with underlying issues. At OWA Therapy, I focus on overcoming those underlying issues.

All relationships hit rough patches from time to time. However couples who have the skills to identify and talk in a mature and calm manner are able to manage these rough patches before they become mighty marriage mountains to scale. When couples struggle to communicate, be active and present participants in their relationship, take responsibility for their part of the problem and the solution we end up with a breakdown of the relationship. It is possible to learn the skills that will improve your relationship. Working on improving communication skills, conflict resolutions and negotiating skills, stress and self management skills and much more will help grow your relationship.

Relationships are work in which both parties have to be committed to resolving any arising issues. Often, a lack of communication, having unsatisfied emotional needs and expectations causes constant arguments between couples. Therefore, couples seek outside help when they are unable to resolve the conflict between themselves due to other issues or underlying conflict. In therapy discussing each other’s thoughts and feelings about the issues helps couples to get to know each other once again and also help them to better understand their spouse as well as themselves. As a result, the couple may acknowledge the root of the disruption and the changes needed to mend the relationship.

Specializing in couple therapy, I can help you and your partner work through difficult times such as affairs, broken relationship, losses, etc. As I am informed by Emotion Focused Therapy (which is effective in couple therapy), I can assist you in reaching out to your partner despite your fear and uncertainty. You will experience a closer and intimate relationship.

When relationships work, they can be one of the most amazing aspects of our lives. But, when relationships turn sour, they can bring about some of the deepest pain that we can experience. These feelings are amplified when things like betrayal, neglect, abuse, lies, and infidelity are involved. At Whiteboard we work with couples of all types to help them better understand themselves, their partners, and the unique dynamic which exists between them.

Couples Counselling Most relationships will become strained at some point and will begin producing maladaptive patterns. Relationship problems are rooted in our distorted egos, insecure attachment, emotional immaturity etc., which create to the many issues that develop for couples - infidelity, financial stress, poor communication, ill health, sexual divergence, household responsibility conflicts, addictions, etc., .... or just simply growing apart. Relationships can often be restored if help is sought soon enough. A counsellor can help reorient perceptions and emotions (how we look at a situation and how we feel about it) and assist the couple in adopting conscious structural changes.

When a couple is in trouble, the act of seeking out a counsellor has to be motivated by the desire to stay together through hard work. Therapy is not for those who need it but for those who want it. This is even more true when it comes to working with couples. The journey is one of finding once more what brought them together in the first place. We work with forgiveness and building trust. We find ways for the couple to once again feel a sense of warmth and compassion as we break down the walls of resentment. We look at what is triggering the couple to fight. We go through the anatomy of a common and repetitive fight. i also teach the couple some body centered techniques.

One of the biggest decisions we make in life is choosing our partner. And then the real work begins. Divorce rates speak to how difficult sustaining a healthy marriage can be. Evidence-based studies have shown essential elements to a healthy and nourishing relationship. Couples counselling focuses on a variety of these areas including, communication, conflict management/resolution, and connection. Presenting issues include communication, conflict, infidelity, parenting issues, separation and divorce.

My interest lies not only with how we can remove problems in the relationship but what sort of potential can be unlocked? Romantic relationships are one of the most common issues people come to counselling for and experience issues in. My approach is to fully understand each individual and the dynamics of the relationship to figure out what optimal improvement can look like.

Relationships all go through difficult times, whether they’re new or longer term. If you feel communication is breaking down, tensions are high and intimacy is low addressing these are the catalyst to a health and positive relationship. If you’re looking for a deeper connection and insights to your partner prior to saying your “I do’s”, we use this time to explore various areas, shedding light on topics that might not have been discussed or explored in-depth.

We all want to love, be loved, and connect with our significant others. Yet, it can feel daunting at times, due to repetitive relationship patterns (influenced by our childhood wounding), poor communication skills, cultural/gender differences, and inability to negotiate “me” with “we”. So be it past trauma, poor communication skills, inability to handle stress, different upbringing (thereby different ways of doing things), or sexual challenges, among other things, I help couples identify the areas/habits which challenge them, behaviors which destroy relationships, and anything else that stands in the way of them achieving an intimate connection.

Healthy relationships are extremely important to our happiness, health and well-being. In couples therapy, it is my ultimate goal to help both of you to come to a full and deep understanding of one another. Often times, couples get into disputes because of a lack of understanding of one another which can be due to time constraints, family difficulties, lack of knowledge of one another's beliefs, etc. In therapy, we will explore each person's background, beliefs and perspectives, and we will negotiate both so that they can work together in harmony. We will also look at the particular issue(s) that you have sought therapy and will work on remedying it by reestablishing an emotional connection.

Find solutions, Resolve conflict, Change your life. Reach your goals. Being aware of and respecting your partner's needs and emotions are two of the most important characteristics of a harmonious relationship. Sometimes it happens that stress is overwhelming, when challenges persist in relationships, and if they seem to hold you back from living a positive and satisfying life, you might wish to seek help in finding solutions that can bring you back on track. Allow me to help you communicate more effectively and to cultivate partnership opportunities that appeal to heart mind, emotionally re-connecting you with your partner. 905-842-3626 Pre-marital Counselling available

Couples Therapy Centre specializing in emotionally focused therapy (EFT) for couples seeking to strengthen their relationships. Our approach integrates the latest research in psychology and focuses on fostering secure emotional connections between partners. With our high-quality couples counseling services, you can experience numerous benefits, such as improved communication, enhanced intimacy, and greater relationship satisfaction. Our skilled therapists provide a safe and supportive environment to explore your emotions and concerns, helping you build a solid foundation of trust and understanding. Our EFT approach can guide you towards lasting and meaningful change.

I use 9 steps of Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT) to help couples identify their negative interaction cycle and each partner's role in that cycle. Steps 1-4 entails empowering the couples to access unacknowledged emotions underlying the interactional positions and to reframe the challenges in terms of underlying feelings and attachment needs. Steps 5-7 entails supporting and mediating couples to change interactional positions and creating new bonding experiences. Steps 8-9 entails encouraging the couples to integrate new solutions to old relational problems.

Marriage and significant relationships have more pressure on them than ever before. In a technology based, social networking world with financial pressures and other major issues, couples need to put increasingly more time and effort into nourishing their relationship. Many do not take that time. As a result, relationships become “stuck’ or even “toxic” over time. In sessions, couples will learn how to interact and relate to each other on a deeper level. They will learn effective communication skills, strategies and tools. Couples will also participate in learning about their own specific ways of showing love and their own love style.

My approach to couples therapy focuses on creating a safe and supportive environment for partners to explore their emotions and concerns. By delving into the underlying dynamics of their relationship, we collaboratively identify areas of growth and implement effective strategies for positive change. Through active listening and empathetic support, partners gain insights into each other's perspectives, fostering a deeper emotional connection. The benefits include improved communication, enhanced intimacy, and the development of healthier relationship patterns, ultimately leading to a more fulfilling and harmonious partnership.

Dr. Van Blyderveen offers Emotion Focused Therapy for Couples. This approach is evidence based and has a greater success rate than traditional couple's therapy. Therapy will focus on improving communication through creating and strengthening your emotional bond with one another. During therapy sessions Dr. Van Blyderveen will guide you and your partner through emotional conversations with one another with the goal of improving closeness, connection, and acceptance of one another.

I offer couples therapy using Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), a highly effective approach designed to help partners strengthen their emotional bond and improve communication. By focusing on the emotional patterns and attachment needs within the relationship, I guide couples through identifying and addressing underlying issues, fostering a deeper understanding and connection. My goal is to help couples rebuild trust, enhance intimacy, and create a more secure and fulfilling partnership.

This service is not solely for romantic partners, which is why I use the term 'Relationship Counselling' and not 'Couples Counselling'. The relationship involved may be between co-workers, family members or two individuals in a professional or business arrangement. Relationship counselling involves guiding the members of a human relationship in order to enhance what is working, improve communication, and address areas of disconnect or conflict.