Great Couples Counselling in Kingston, ON. Therapy to heal relationships.

Romantic relationships can be hard work. They require regular care to keep them functioning well. Many couples expect romance to go on forever without doing the necessary work only to face the realities of relationships. Relationship issues become more magnified when one or both parties carry a history of trauma. Couples counselling can help individuals learn about one another, communicate effectively and grow as individuals while becoming loving partners. The therapist is an unbiased party who is there to help both partners function together well as a unit by providing solution-based interventions.

The relationship you have with your significant other can bring you love, joy, and a sense of fulfillment. But when things aren't going well, your relationship can often be exhausting and painful. Couples therapy provides a safe and fair space for both of you to be heard, and can help you discover and process the root of the issue. Couples therapy is hard work, but when both partners are willing to fight for the relationship, great things can happen.

When communication breaks down in relationships it can often lead to a disconnection from our partners which can seem irreparable. This can lead to a lack of intimacy, resentment, or mistrust towards each other. When a couple agrees to reach out for help, it shows a commitment to each other and an openness to change. When doing couples work it is a priority for me that each partner’s concerns and feelings are heard and addressed. This involves ensuring equal time for each person to talk about their concerns and needs as well as their goals for our work together. I have experience in working with heterosexual as well as same sex couples. Book a free consultation today.

A healthy couple's relationship is often constructed by two self-reliant individuals who choose to build a shared space between them, increasingly filled with tender emotions, hopes and goals, and a dedication to the other person's growth. Central to this construct is the ability to listen. Relationships often arrive in therapy troubled by the ability to communicate and the absence of a mutual understanding of where they're going. Individuals don't mature at the same pace, just like their ability to identify and share feelings develops differently. The comfort of being listened to and understood by your therapist often helps to begin the work of reconstructing your relationship.

Relationships are like two people singing at the same time. Sound beautiful? But imagine if the two songs were not similar in tune or harmony and didn’t match each other at all. That’s where couples therapy comes in – separating clashing issues and perspectives, so the harmony becomes more like a well orchestrated symphony. Many couples will often try to manage their challenges for years, struggling to feel connected and heard, before ever seeking therapy. Repair and reconciliation have been futile. Therapy can help couples see the role they each play within the relationship and help them learn new strategies and communication techniques to overcome unhealthy patterns of interaction.

Over the course of your relationship, you are going to face its ups and downs. Learning how to meet all that life may throw at you, together as a couple and grow stronger in each experience are just some of the many benefits of couples counselling I provide. I help you develop the tools you need for when your relationship goes through a tough time. You'll learn how trust and open to your partner and feel safe, how to respond to your partner's needs during the good and the bad times, keep moving forward and blooming as the time goes by.

Couples often come for counselling when one person is seriously contemplating leaving the relationship. The person who wishes to hold the relationship together is often the one who initiates and it can be a challenge convincing your partner to try one more time to resolve seemingly impossible issues. I employ the Gottman method of couples counseling. By examining the positive aspects of your relationship and its strengths - which may seem to have faded and become undetectable - we can find ways to overcome the challenges. If there are underlying individual issues that need examination, we can do that so that both persons feel strong and resilient and able to move forward together.

Couples therapy and counselling aim to create a compassionate and dedicated space where partners can explore negative dynamics that are hindering their relationship. From a humanistic perspective, the goal is to focus on understanding each partner’s unique experiences and feelings and how these show up in our relationships with others. When we acknowledge and begin to address key issues in the relationship, such as conflict, loss of intimacy or a diminished connection the goal is to help guide couples through a rediscovery of each other, one that works to foster empathy, encourage open dialogue, and create moments of reconnection and reconciliation. I use a mix of the Gottman Method and EFT