Great Couples Counselling in King City, ON. Therapy to heal relationships.

I believe that marriage/relationship is not about finding the right person, but rather about becoming the right person. When you focus on your own behaviors and the way you treat the person you love, it will not be long before things begin to change. None of us have the power or ability to change another human being. We cannot make someone do what we want them to do. But, we can make ourselves do what we need to do in order to become the kind of person who is worthy of being in a good, healthy relationship. I will help you be a better person, more worthy of being in a healthy relationship. Focus on what you can do to make things better without any agenda toward the other person and watch what ....

My interest lies not only with how we can remove problems in the relationship but what sort of potential can be unlocked? Romantic relationships are one of the most common issues people come to counselling for and experience issues in. My approach is to fully understand each individual and the dynamics of the relationship to figure out what optimal improvement can look like.

Relationships can be both satisfying, and frustrating. Although we can get along with some people some of the time, in close relationships we can sometimes get stuck, over-reactive, or even too distant. In couple counselling we can explore what's not working in your relationship, what your individual and 'couple' ideals and dreams are, and then strategize and work together on getting your relationship to a better place.

As human beings we are hard wired for connection, yet many of us struggle in our most meaningful relationships for many reasons including betrayal, infidelity, blended families and other conflicts. Through 30 years of work we have recognized that often couples leave their relationship at the time they have the most to learn. Our team of therapists are trained to implement a variety of skills and techniques when working with couples, such as active listening skills, Imago, Gottman’s principals, managing emotions, and positive communication skills.

Couples Counselling Most relationships will become strained at some point and will begin producing maladaptive patterns. Relationship problems are rooted in our distorted egos, insecure attachment, emotional immaturity etc., which create to the many issues that develop for couples - infidelity, financial stress, poor communication, ill health, sexual divergence, household responsibility conflicts, addictions, etc., .... or just simply growing apart. Relationships can often be restored if help is sought soon enough. A counsellor can help reorient perceptions and emotions (how we look at a situation and how we feel about it) and assist the couple in adopting conscious structural changes.

There are many reasons why couples seek therapy. You may be experiencing communication problems that keep coming, feeling constantly criticized, not feeling heard, feeling emotionally distant from your partner, fighting over the same issues, feelings of anger and jealousy, feeling controlled by your partner, and differences in parenting styles. Couples therapy can help you strengthen your bond by learning healthy ways to communicate your needs, identify stuck patterns and learn new ways to be with each other. Often a few sessions is all that is needed for a “reset”.

A healthy couple's relationship is often constructed by two self-reliant individuals who choose to build a shared space between them, increasingly filled with tender emotions, hopes and goals, and a dedication to the other person's growth. Central to this construct is the ability to listen. Relationships often arrive in therapy troubled by the ability to communicate and the absence of a mutual understanding of where they're going. Individuals don't mature at the same pace, just like their ability to identify and share feelings develops differently. The comfort of being listened to and understood by your therapist often helps to begin the work of reconstructing your relationship.

When working with couples, I use several approaches to treatment including PACT and RLT. You may find that out work together is different than previous experiences you have had in couples therapy. Through our work together, you and your partner will discover how to stay connected, help each other feel safe and secure, manage each other’s emotional highs and lows, fight well and minimize each other’s stress. Longer sessions allow us to go deeper, getting to the heart of the issues you are facing and allowing time for repair to occur in session. Learn to have a secure relationship where both partner’s needs are met.

I offer couples therapy using Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), a highly effective approach designed to help partners strengthen their emotional bond and improve communication. By focusing on the emotional patterns and attachment needs within the relationship, I guide couples through identifying and addressing underlying issues, fostering a deeper understanding and connection. My goal is to help couples rebuild trust, enhance intimacy, and create a more secure and fulfilling partnership.

Couples therapy is not just for times of trouble, it is also important for building a strong foundation to an already strong relationship. Our couples therapists focus on learning about your unique relationship and what each of you bring to the table. We tailor this process to what your relationships needs, which could be healing from a trauma, infidelity, loss, and/or life stress. We are here to help and to support your relationship.

A loving relationship can be a source of profound connecting and security, and as with many aspects of life worth pursuing, it requires nurturing. As a therapist, I am deeply committed to creating a warm, safe, and inclusive environment where clients feel heard, understood, and empowered to create meaningful growth and change in their lives. Schedule a free 15-minute consultation to see if I am the right fit for you.

Relationships all go through difficult times, whether they’re new or longer term. If you feel communication is breaking down, tensions are high and intimacy is low addressing these are the catalyst to a health and positive relationship. If you’re looking for a deeper connection and insights to your partner prior to saying your “I do’s”, we use this time to explore various areas, shedding light on topics that might not have been discussed or explored in-depth.

Dr. Van Blyderveen offers Emotion Focused Therapy for Couples. This approach is evidence based and has a greater success rate than traditional couple's therapy. Therapy will focus on improving communication through creating and strengthening your emotional bond with one another. During therapy sessions Dr. Van Blyderveen will guide you and your partner through emotional conversations with one another with the goal of improving closeness, connection, and acceptance of one another.

You are at the end of your rope. You love your partner, you don't want to end the relationship but your partner is so distant and disconnected, so you are looking for help. Perhaps you just found out the awful truth that your partner is having an affair. Maybe you have tried couple therapy before and things improved a bit then you found yourself back in the same sad stuck place. Couples often need help to find their way back to each other. Please visit my website or call me to find out how I can help you heal wounds and create the strong loving connection with your partner that you deserve.

Couples seeking therapy to address the stress, conflicts, and tensions they experience in their relationship can rest assured knowing therapy is an excellent approach to learning ways to rebuild the relationship, improve connection, decrease conflict, learn communication strategies, work through financial conflict and improve intimacy. In therapy we can also address any issues with infidelity and betrayal. I am also a polyamorous and kink friendly therapist and assure my clients that I respect and accept your lifestyle. I provide a safe non judgmental space where you do not have to worry about shame or embarrassment.

With the fast pace and challenges of life, you do not have to face them alone. Sometimes you need a helping hand and a friendly ear to talk to. It's my passion to help people. I offer counselling and psychotherapy for individuals, couples and families. I work with clients to improve their resiliency, and uncover their strengths using a client centered approach and different modalities to meet needs .

I prioritize creating a neutral, encouraging, and comfortable environment during our sessions to work collaboratively to restore your connection with your partner. Couples therapy offers a safe, supportive setting that promotes open, honest communication. Improving communication abilities enables you to explore hidden concerns and previous emotional traumas that might be present. By engaging in this process, you will gain a more profound comprehension of your partner, discover ways to assist you in the face of life's difficulties, and form an authentic, all-encompassing, and significant connection while cultivating the abilities and resources to handle tension within the relationship.

If you are reading this profile, you are probably concerned about your relationship and want to seek help. You and your partner may be arguing all the time. You likely feel you are no longer connected and feel supported in your relationship. You may feel you are losing trust in your partner and in the relationship. Relationship, like everything else, requires a great deal of effort to build and cultivate. Rupture are inevitable but can be repaired/restored through the help of couple therapy. With over 12 years of clinical experience, I humbly want to support you to repair or restore your relationship. Please don't hesitate to reach out and get the help you need at this moment.

My approach to couples therapy focuses on creating a safe and supportive environment for partners to explore their emotions and concerns. By delving into the underlying dynamics of their relationship, we collaboratively identify areas of growth and implement effective strategies for positive change. Through active listening and empathetic support, partners gain insights into each other's perspectives, fostering a deeper emotional connection. The benefits include improved communication, enhanced intimacy, and the development of healthier relationship patterns, ultimately leading to a more fulfilling and harmonious partnership.

Shyamala has a Masters in Counselling and a Doctorate specifically in Marriage and Family Therapy. As a Registered Marriage and Family Therapist, her expertise is in working with couple relationships. She practices Emotionally Focussed Therapy for couples; one of the most researched and effective ways to treat couple distress. Her goal is to help couples create secure and meaningful connections so that they no longer need the assistance of a couples therapist and are able to work through life's challenges on their own.

In working with couples, the relationship is my client. My goal is to ensure that both partners feel heard and validated. I support the couple in creating space to have conversations that might otherwise be difficult to have. In working with me, couples will learn improved ways of communicating and being there for one another. They will also learn how to manage conflict in a way that is supportive of relationship growth. Further, the couples' strengths will be highlighted and accessed to continue to grow the relationship bond.

What concerns can we hope to address? ​ - Communication - Conflict - Infidelity - Building trust - Enhancing emotional intimacy - Opening up - Sexual issues We will utilize a combination of therapeutic modalities, interventions and approaches to help tailor the treatment to your specific needs, including: ​ - Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT) - Gottman Method - Sex Therapy - Assess for strengths and vulnerabilities of your relationship - Assign homework activities (applying what you've learned outside of your sessions with structured exercises for reducing conflict, improving communication, and enhancing sexual intimacy) - Recommend individual therapy for one or both partners

Healthy relationships are extremely important to our happiness, health and well-being. In couples therapy, it is my ultimate goal to help both of you to come to a full and deep understanding of one another. Often times, couples get into disputes because of a lack of understanding of one another which can be due to time constraints, family difficulties, lack of knowledge of one another's beliefs, etc. In therapy, we will explore each person's background, beliefs and perspectives, and we will negotiate both so that they can work together in harmony. We will also look at the particular issue(s) that you have sought therapy and will work on remedying it by reestablishing an emotional connection.

In working with couples, the relationship is my client. My goal is to ensure that both partners feel heard and validated. I support the couple in creating space to have conversations that might otherwise be difficult to have. In working with me, couples will learn improved ways of communicating and being there for one another. They will also learn how to manage conflict in a way that is supportive of relationship growth. Further, the couples' strengths will be highlighted and accessed to continue to grow the relationship bond.

In the downtown Toronto area, people come to see me for help with marital and couples-related conflicts. I am very comfortable helping couples who are in straight, gay, or lesbian relationships. Conflicts often come up between partners in relation to difficulties with intimacy, conflicts surrounding extended family members, and disagreements around family goals and priorities.