Great Couples Counselling in East York, ON. Therapy to heal relationships.

When we're feeling disconnected, unhappy or lonely in our relationships, it can take a toll on our wellbeing & mental health. Couples therapy gives folks hope that there relationship can be more connected, calm & loving. In sessions, we'll focus on the root issues in the relationship, and co-create a plan to heal. We prioritize working on effective communication and conflict management, healing past relationship hurts and building intimacy. Monogamous & polyamorous couples of all genders, sexual orientations and cultural backgrounds are welcome in our virtual office! If you want to start improving your relationship, book a consultation or session now! www.kaleidoscopecounsellingco.com

Romantic relationships can be hard work. They require regular care to keep them functioning well. Many couples expect romance to go on forever without doing the necessary work only to face the realities of relationships. Relationship issues become more magnified when one or both parties carry a history of trauma. Couples counselling can help individuals learn about one another, communicate effectively and grow as individuals while becoming loving partners. The therapist is an unbiased party who is there to help both partners function together well as a unit by providing solution-based interventions.

If you are finding yourselves stuck in the same 'merry-go-round' (although not so merry!) of poor communication and accusation/defensiveness, winners and losers, your marriage probably feels like you're going nowhere fast! You think you've married the wrong person and feel that you've tried everything in your 'tool-bag' to do. If you don't have 'win-win', what you essentially have is 'lose-lose'.. I will advocate for your marriage...I will be your cheerleader and your coach combined, showing you how to get out of this destructive cycle and move forward to something much more satisfying. I will help you rebuild when hurts have been deep. Don't delay on this...sooner is better!

My approach is to help people recognize that relationships are two-sided and understand how each individual contributes to the couple’s dynamic. With that understanding, we work toward reaching a win-win situation, aiming to restore the satisfaction of the relationship. Together, we create a safe space for you to grow past the areas of “stuckness” -- that is, the old patterns that are learned when we are young and are brought to our current relationships. This is true for all of us. Therapy enables us to form new and healthy attachment patterns that are nourishing and nurturing, providing opportunities for new growth and satisfaction.

Intimate relationships are like a dance – they can be quite joyful and energizing but when facing obstacles, partners need to find the steps and rhythm to move more freely. Couple therapy can provide a safe space in which you and your partner can gain a deeper understanding of one another and what contributes to difficulties within the dance of your relationship. Should you decide to attend sessions, I will work with you to facilitate honest conversations, help you to better understand what you may need from one another, and support you in finding a way to step toward more acceptance, intimacy, and connection. Contact me or book a free consultation if you wish to learn more.

Couples counseling with me focuses on improving communication, increasing intimacy, and building a strong, lasting relationship. I use the Gottman method, which is an evidence-based approach that has been proven to be effective in helping couples work through issues and strengthen their connection. This approach emphasizes the importance of building a strong foundation of friendship, managing conflict effectively, and creating shared meaning in the relationship. Through counseling, couples can learn new skills to help them navigate challenges and deepen their bond. By working together, couples can improve their relationship satisfaction and build a fulfilling life together.

Your partner can be the greatest source of strength in your life, but at times can also feel like your greatest enemy. I believe that the people closest to us often bear both the best and worst sides of us. Together, we will explore your relationship and navigate disagreement, conflict, and trust to find a path for the relationship to offer collaboration, peace, and companionship.

Conflict and loneliness can be most painful when they arise in our most cherished relationship. Therapy can provide a supportive space to explore your concerns in an open and honest way with your partner. My approach to couples therapy acknowledges the importance of relationships in our lives and focuses on strengthening these relationships by fostering safe, honest and open communication. Contact me to start your healing journey and book a free consultation

In 2015, I began studying the PACT (Psychobiological) Model for Couples Therapy. Using this model, I am passionate about working with couples. Based on "secure-functioning", you discover exactly, what you wanted but didn't know how to get there. Increasing your awareness on many levels gives you many more options. Discover how you and your partner can feel the way you long to feel and experience a warm safe loving relationship. Rediscover the promise held within the love and attraction that brought you together.

I work to establish trust in both partners by setting boundaries of confidentiality and privacy especially when there is a need to clarify safety of each and to process any "secrets" that may impede successful open communication. Family history does impinge on marital dynamics and can interfere with emotional reactions from past family scripts that can surge into the present affecting communication Personal space boundaries and accountability are the basis of openness and respectful trust the linchpin of building on love that changes from physical chemistry to support for the other. Some common interests and passion for living well is the goal for both. Controlling behavior is called out.

Healthy relationships can be one of the most enjoyable and important experiences a person can have. Yet relationships are not easy—they are complex and can change over time. It’s not uncommon for couples to fall into patterns and engage in behaviours that create distress for both partners. I believe that couples counselling is about helping you and your partner better understand each other by being open, vulnerable, and honest about your own thoughts and feelings. My approach is about working together to create space, find the language, and develop ways to restore, grow, and thrive as a partnership.

Couples often get stuck in negative patterns, or ways of relating to one another. These negative patterns can cause couples to attack each other emotionally, or worse, drift apart emotionally. It is vital to identify the emotions that drive this cycle, and through therapy, learn to create a dance that brings you close to your partner. We are relationship specialists who have advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).

Healthy relationships are extremely important to our happiness, health and well-being. In couples therapy, it is my ultimate goal to help both of you to come to a full and deep understanding of one another. Often times, couples get into disputes because of a lack of understanding of one another which can be due to time constraints, family difficulties, lack of knowledge of one another's beliefs, etc. In therapy, we will explore each person's background, beliefs and perspectives, and we will negotiate both so that they can work together in harmony. We will also look at the particular issue(s) that you have sought therapy and will work on remedying it by reestablishing an emotional connection.

Shyamala has a Masters in Counselling and a Doctorate specifically in Marriage and Family Therapy. As a Registered Marriage and Family Therapist, her expertise is in working with couple relationships. She practices Emotionally Focussed Therapy for couples; one of the most researched and effective ways to treat couple distress. Her goal is to help couples create secure and meaningful connections so that they no longer need the assistance of a couples therapist and are able to work through life's challenges on their own.

If you are reading this profile, you are probably concerned about your relationship and want to seek help. You and your partner may be arguing all the time. You likely feel you are no longer connected and feel supported in your relationship. You may feel you are losing trust in your partner and in the relationship. Relationship, like everything else, requires a great deal of effort to build and cultivate. Rupture are inevitable but can be repaired/restored through the help of couple therapy. With over 12 years of clinical experience, I humbly want to support you to repair or restore your relationship. Please don't hesitate to reach out and get the help you need at this moment.

Taking time with your loved one can be a beautiful and fulfilling experience. However, it can feel challenging when you and your partner are stuck in previous patterns of behaviour, communication, and interaction. As a couple therapist, I will support you in better understanding yourself, your loved one, and your relationship to navigate challenges (e.g., communication, attachment, trust, etc.). I seek to enable you and your partner to work as a team in navigating whatever struggles come your way and developing your own unique toolkit. Speak with me today for a free consultation to begin your journey.

In couples counseling with me, the focus is on enhancing the relationship dynamics and communication patterns between partners, regardless of marital status. By providing a safe and supportive space, I facilitate open dialogue, empathy-building exercises, and conflict resolution techniques tailored to the unique needs and goals of each couple. Whether navigating challenges related to intimacy, trust, or life transitions, couples counseling offers an opportunity for couples to deepen their connection, strengthen their bond, and cultivate a more fulfilling partnership. Through collaborative exploration and skill-building, couples can gain insight into their relationship dynamics and heal.

I offer couples therapy using Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), a highly effective approach designed to help partners strengthen their emotional bond and improve communication. By focusing on the emotional patterns and attachment needs within the relationship, I guide couples through identifying and addressing underlying issues, fostering a deeper understanding and connection. My goal is to help couples rebuild trust, enhance intimacy, and create a more secure and fulfilling partnership.

In couples my role is as a third party to provide guidance and advice to the couple. The main area that i often work with during couples counselling is communication. The couple is provided with specific education and instruction on communication strategies. During session we work through the difficulties that the couple is having. They are also provided with specific strategies to work on in between sessions.

I believe that marriage/relationship is not about finding the right person, but rather about becoming the right person. When you focus on your own behaviors and the way you treat the person you love, it will not be long before things begin to change. None of us have the power or ability to change another human being. We cannot make someone do what we want them to do. But, we can make ourselves do what we need to do in order to become the kind of person who is worthy of being in a good, healthy relationship. I will help you be a better person, more worthy of being in a healthy relationship. Focus on what you can do to make things better without any agenda toward the other person and watch what ....

A satisfying relationship is one of life's greatest pleasures. The good news is we have the research available to know the predictors of relationship success and demise. Let me work with you to gain insight into the strengths in your relationship and provide you with the skills to overcome the challenges to create the relationship experience you each desire.

Couples Counselling Most relationships will become strained at some point and will begin producing maladaptive patterns. Relationship problems are rooted in our distorted egos, insecure attachment, emotional immaturity etc., which create to the many issues that develop for couples - infidelity, financial stress, poor communication, ill health, sexual divergence, household responsibility conflicts, addictions, etc., .... or just simply growing apart. Relationships can often be restored if help is sought soon enough. A counsellor can help reorient perceptions and emotions (how we look at a situation and how we feel about it) and assist the couple in adopting conscious structural changes.

With the fast pace and challenges of life, you do not have to face them alone. Sometimes you need a helping hand and a friendly ear to talk to. It's my passion to help people. I offer counselling and psychotherapy for individuals, couples and families. I work with clients to improve their resiliency, and uncover their strengths using a client centered approach and different modalities to meet needs .

Couples benefit from working on communication, on practicing healthy skills, on unpacking the ways in which personal issues and triggers are interfering with active listening and healthy partnership. Clients benefit from being able to express their needs and feelings, from learning how to be assertive, and from witnessing that they are being heard, both by the therapist and their partner. Finding compromise without losing oneself, setting personal goals as well as relationship goals, learning to nurture oneself, as well as the relationship, are all benefits of therapy. Examining co-dependent patterns can lead to opportunities for growth. The therapist models respectful relating.

Healthy relationships take commitment & work. I help couples increase emotional intimacy & connection. I help them stop unhelpful ways of interacting, achieve resolution to their unresolved conflicts, & take responsibility for their negative contributions to patterns. Couple relationships require re-committing ourselves to each other repeatedly throughout the length of our relationship. I will help you to learn to "turn towards" one another. I will also help you to eliminate the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse, a phrase coined by couple researches John and Julie Gottman. Lastly, all couple relationships include pursuer-distancer patterns. I will help you identify these and work to stop them.