Great Couples Counselling in Don Mills, ON. Therapy to heal relationships.

All relationships hit rough patches from time to time. However couples who have the skills to identify and talk in a mature and calm manner are able to manage these rough patches before they become mighty marriage mountains to scale. When couples struggle to communicate, be active and present participants in their relationship, take responsibility for their part of the problem and the solution we end up with a breakdown of the relationship. It is possible to learn the skills that will improve your relationship. Working on improving communication skills, conflict resolutions and negotiating skills, stress and self management skills and much more will help grow your relationship.

Dr. Van Blyderveen offers Emotion Focused Therapy for Couples. This approach is evidence based and has a greater success rate than traditional couple's therapy. Therapy will focus on improving communication through creating and strengthening your emotional bond with one another. During therapy sessions Dr. Van Blyderveen will guide you and your partner through emotional conversations with one another with the goal of improving closeness, connection, and acceptance of one another.

I believe that marriage/relationship is not about finding the right person, but rather about becoming the right person. When you focus on your own behaviors and the way you treat the person you love, it will not be long before things begin to change. None of us have the power or ability to change another human being. We cannot make someone do what we want them to do. But, we can make ourselves do what we need to do in order to become the kind of person who is worthy of being in a good, healthy relationship. I will help you be a better person, more worthy of being in a healthy relationship. Focus on what you can do to make things better without any agenda toward the other person and watch what ....

Specializing in couple therapy, I can help you and your partner work through difficult times such as affairs, broken relationship, losses, etc. As I am informed by Emotion Focused Therapy (which is effective in couple therapy), I can assist you in reaching out to your partner despite your fear and uncertainty. You will experience a closer and intimate relationship.

When a couple is in trouble, the act of seeking out a counsellor has to be motivated by the desire to stay together through hard work. Therapy is not for those who need it but for those who want it. This is even more true when it comes to working with couples. The journey is one of finding once more what brought them together in the first place. We work with forgiveness and building trust. We find ways for the couple to once again feel a sense of warmth and compassion as we break down the walls of resentment. We look at what is triggering the couple to fight. We go through the anatomy of a common and repetitive fight. i also teach the couple some body centered techniques.

In 2015, I began studying the PACT (Psychobiological) Model for Couples Therapy. Using this model, I am passionate about working with couples. Based on "secure-functioning", you discover exactly, what you wanted but didn't know how to get there. Increasing your awareness on many levels gives you many more options. Discover how you and your partner can feel the way you long to feel and experience a warm safe loving relationship. Rediscover the promise held within the love and attraction that brought you together.

If you are reading this page you are provably feeling that things are not going in the direction you want with your partner and you are starting to feel that your love for each other is not enough to make it work as you expected. Relationships are very complex and there are many conscious and unconscious dynamics we bring to our relationships which are very hard to objectively identify on ourselves even if you are a professional in this field. If you resonate with the situation I am describing I encourage you to contact me. I can support you on discovering how you two could be contributing to it and to gain the awareness and tools to make it better for the present situation and the future.

Couples counseling includes discussions of goals for therapy, learning to understand and clearly communicate your feelings, identify when and how problems arise and develop effective coping strategies. Great results have been found after 3-5 sessions. Couples report feeling better about themselves and their relationship and find that they communicate more effectively which results in less fights.

My background in relational therapy allows me to understand individuals through the relationships they cohabit. Couple therapy may be a vehicle for growth to occur both relationally and individually. This in turn may assist in bringing you closer to your desired goals through understanding and breaking down language used in romantic relationships. Throughout couple sessions, I lean towards emotionally focused therapy, as I have witnessed its transformative effects particularly in romantic relationships. Please contact me for a free consultation to learn more about my approach and to determine if we would be a good fit.

I offer couples the opportunity to explore the root causes of their relationship concerns within a safe, supportive environment. As an objective third party, I am able to facilitate enhanced communication between the couple to help them develop greater objectivity, learn to hear and meet one another’s needs more effectively, and overcome automatic defenses that may be hindering their connection to strengthen and restore their partnership.

Couples therapy and counselling aim to create a compassionate and dedicated space where partners can explore negative dynamics that are hindering their relationship. From a humanistic perspective, the goal is to focus on understanding each partner’s unique experiences and feelings and how these show up in our relationships with others. When we acknowledge and begin to address key issues in the relationship, such as conflict, loss of intimacy or a diminished connection the goal is to help guide couples through a rediscovery of each other, one that works to foster empathy, encourage open dialogue, and create moments of reconnection and reconciliation. I use a mix of the Gottman Method and EFT

Beneath most intimate relationship struggles, there is a key defining question being asked, “Are you really there for me?” This question embodies many others: When I need you, can I reach you? Do you respect and support me? Do you care about me when I'm hurting? Do you still want me? When the answers to these questions become shaky in our mind, we get stuck in unhealthy patterns, and may need some help finding our way back to each other. Emotionally Focused Therapy is an evidence-based model that helps couples reconnect with each other and (re)discover the relationship they have always wanted. Reach out today to bring healing and enhancement to the most important relationship in your life!

One of the biggest decisions we make in life is choosing our partner. And then the real work begins. Divorce rates speak to how difficult sustaining a healthy marriage can be. Evidence-based studies have shown essential elements to a healthy and nourishing relationship. Couples counselling focuses on a variety of these areas including, communication, conflict management/resolution, and connection. Presenting issues include communication, conflict, infidelity, parenting issues, separation and divorce.