Great Couples Counselling in Beckwith, ON. Therapy to heal relationships.

I love seeing couples move from a place of conflict and disharmony to a place of deep intimacy and respect for one another. With training in emotionally focused therapy, I approach couple therapy from an attachment perspective, exploring the nature of partner conflict (Identifying their negative cycle of communication), identifying the emotions that drive the negative cycle, and working with the couple to help them re-express those emotions needs in healthier ways.

We all long for connection. Many of us feel great in the times when a relationship is new and the connection is just developing. The problems come when we have to repair distance/rifts in that connection, or when we need to sustain and deepen our connection to our partners. Maybe we never learned how. Maybe we carry scars and trauma from past relationships. Maybe we have patterns in our histories that we never really dealt with. Maybe all of the above. Our work together will take all of that into account and in a non-judgmental environment, we will hold space for you both to learn how to repair, strengthen and maintain your most important relationships.

The relationship you have with your significant other can bring you love, joy, and a sense of fulfillment. But when things aren't going well, your relationship can often be exhausting and painful. Couples therapy provides a safe and fair space for both of you to be heard, and can help you discover and process the root of the issue. Couples therapy is hard work, but when both partners are willing to fight for the relationship, great things can happen.

When it comes to couples, the total is greater than the sum of its parts. Therefore, in couple therapy, the focus is not on the two sides of the equation. Rather, the object of inquiry and therapy is the relationship between those two sides. The therapy examines the interpersonal relationship and treats it as a third space. Therefore, the goal is not to change the individuals but to change the way they communicate, understand, and accept each other. Schedule a free 15-minute consultation to see if we are a good fit.

Couples who are deciding whether to invest further in their relationship, who want marriage preparation, want to deepen their love, heal hurts or rekindle relationship are all couples we work with. At Sandra Forbes, Relarionship Solutions, we assess communication, emotional closeness, attachment, and trust. From there goals are defined and the purpose for the sessions is established. The walk toward a deeper love and closeness, healling a hurt or hurts, improving the way couples talk with one another or preparing for marriage is guided by a structured approach to the therapy. The head and heart are both the focus.

A healthy couple's relationship is often constructed by two self-reliant individuals who choose to build a shared space between them, increasingly filled with tender emotions, hopes and goals, and a dedication to the other person's growth. Central to this construct is the ability to listen. Relationships often arrive in therapy troubled by the ability to communicate and the absence of a mutual understanding of where they're going. Individuals don't mature at the same pace, just like their ability to identify and share feelings develops differently. The comfort of being listened to and understood by your therapist often helps to begin the work of reconstructing your relationship.

Couple therapy is a broad term for those who wish to address relationship concerns or would like assistance in navigating their relationship. Presenting topics may include breaches of trust, infidelity, (co)parenting, sex and intimacy, separation, exploration of relationship structure or general conflict and arguments. Often times, at nobody’s fault, couples may get caught in patterns of interaction that bring a lot of pain to the relationship. I will assist you in identifying these harmful interactions and work towards breaking that cycle with new ways of relating to each other. I am affirming of polyamorous and ethical non-monogamous relationships. Contact me to book a free consultation.