Anger Management and Counselling in Welland, ON.

Anger comes from a place of hurt. Whether that hurt is from trauma, embarrassment, or insecurity, it has a root cause that needs to be identified, addressed, and healed. If you find that anger is damaging your relationships or contributing to a feeling of always being stressed, I can help you work towards a feeling of peace and healing so that you can experience life for all of the joy it can bring and repair relationships damaged as a result of things you regret saying or doing.

Anger is often thought of as a negative emotion, but I like to think of Anger as the part of you that loves you and wants to stand up for you when you’ve experienced something “unfair.” Anger does not always make the best decisions about when to stand up for you, so I work collaboratively with clients to identify and explore how anger shows up in their lives, and to strengthen and develop strategies to minimize the impact it has on living the life you want to live. Book a free consultation to learn more about my approach and explore if we are a good fit.

Anger, frustration, rage, and reactivity overall, can make a person feel frustrated and powerless; when we have emotional outbursts of any kind they can feel so all-encompassing and make us feel like we are not in control of feelings, thoughts, and behaviours. In working with clients on their emotions I aim to primarily promote an understanding of why our emotional outbursts occur; once this has been established we begin to work on how to manage, mitigate, or change how these outbursts occur, or why we feel the way that we feel in the first place.

When we experience recurrent anger that feels overwhelming and overpowering, we can find ourselves feeling out of control and ashamed. Through self-exploration, we can start to uncover the underlying emotions that are fueling the anger as anger tends to show up when something deeper within us needs attention and processing, often emotions that stem from past experiences, unmet needs, or ignored boundaries. By working to identify the root causes of our anger, we can begin to understand them in a more meaningful and productive way, since processing buried emotions, or unexpressed needs can be incredibly healing. Over time, this awareness can also help to transform how we relate or react to ang

Anger is one of people’s common emotions, Our expression of anger sometimes is not healthy and can be hurtful to our loved ones. We can work together toward gaining an understanding the source of your stress. We can also work on making adjustments to your expectations, and moving from reaction to response bringing health to your relationships.

Your goal with other people is to interact effectively. Does anger do that? We know it does not, but we develop habitual trigger responses that can escalate conflict. We need ways to slow down our words and actions until we can focus on our real goal and the best way to reach it. In counselling we take time to explore your thoughts and feelings so that you can figure yourself out to find the right techniques and strategies. Sometimes it can be a matter of trial and error. I help you explore the options and you find what is effective for you.

Anger is a completely normal, often healthy human emotion. But if it gets beyond your control, it can be very destructive in your work and interpersonal relationships and can drastically devastate the quality of your life. Fortunately, anger can be 'managed' which is very different than 'suppressing' it. Unexpressed anger leads to a host of other problems including high blood pressure. However, when we learn how to 'manage' our anger, we can learn to diminish both the emotional feelings and the physiological arousal that anger causes. We can learn to avoid triggers and develop strategies. We can learn how to problem solve, change our thinking and relax our bodies.

There are many things that can spark anger and it can be difficult to get a hold when anger takes over. It can also be difficult to understand why certain situations may lead us to feel angry and propel us to act in ways that may not be helpful to ourselves or to the relationships we are part of. Within therapy, I will help you to develop greater insight into how and why you experience anger and together, we will learn about the patterns that anger is connected to. I will also help you to develop tools to more safely connect with anger so that you can experience more fulfilling relationships with yourself and others. Contact me or book a free consultation if you wish to learn more.

Anger can destroy everything in its path if we're not careful. But eradicating anger is not the goal, it's learning to anticipate and understand anger as a survival function and then gaining practical tools to regulate it and respond intentionally in life (instead of just reacting). Sometimes we may need to ask ourselves, "am I controlling my anger or is my anger controlling me?".