Anger Management and Counselling in Welland, ON.

Your goal with other people is to interact effectively. Does anger do that? We know it does not, but we develop habitual trigger responses that can escalate conflict. We need ways to slow down our words and actions until we can focus on our real goal and the best way to reach it. In counselling we take time to explore your thoughts and feelings so that you can figure yourself out to find the right techniques and strategies. Sometimes it can be a matter of trial and error. I help you explore the options and you find what is effective for you.

Anger comes from a place of hurt. Whether that hurt is from trauma, embarrassment, or insecurity, it has a root cause that needs to be identified, addressed, and healed. If you find that anger is damaging your relationships or contributing to a feeling of always being stressed, I can help you work towards a feeling of peace and healing so that you can experience life for all of the joy it can bring and repair relationships damaged as a result of things you regret saying or doing.

Everyone experiences anger at times but don’t necessarily recognize that anger is a secondary emotion; a reaction to other underlying emotions. Emotions management is vital to being successful in the world and having the ability to have healthy relationships and achieve our goals. In our sessions together we will explore underlying emotions, their root causes, and learn to identify triggers and more effectively manage emotions and reactions. If you are struggling with anger/emotions management and would like to learn strategies to help you cope better, please book a free consultation.

There are 3 phases in working with Anger 1.Prevention- Attempts to forestall the very onset of anger. 2. Intervention- Aims to reduce the intensity or the duration of anger that has already ignited. 3. Postvention- Aims to discharge any residual anger. Emotions are regulated by re-experiencing, releasing, or converting them into a safe form. We will not only focus on your cognitions and behaviors as entry points but also focus on the modification of affect (your emotions). Anger is an emotion. To have no room in therapy for the feeling component of this emotion is to deny its very essence, your existence. Gestalt perspective- Expression of anger can be very productive. Let out!

Anger is a completely normal, often healthy human emotion. But if it gets beyond your control, it can be very destructive in your work and interpersonal relationships and can drastically devastate the quality of your life. Fortunately, anger can be 'managed' which is very different than 'suppressing' it. Unexpressed anger leads to a host of other problems including high blood pressure. However, when we learn how to 'manage' our anger, we can learn to diminish both the emotional feelings and the physiological arousal that anger causes. We can learn to avoid triggers and develop strategies. We can learn how to problem solve, change our thinking and relax our bodies.

Anger can often feel so overwhelming that it causes you to do things you later regret. Not knowing what came over you, there are many unanswered questions: why do I keep doing this? why can't I stop myself? Sometimes, alcohol, substances, or other addictive behaviours lead to this anger, making it more difficult to control. As an addiction counsellor, I help clients overcome addictions leading to anger issues so they can regain a sense of control, rebuild relationships, and gain clarity about how to move forward. If you are unsure where to start, send me a message and I can help. If I'm not the right fit, I can connect you to the right support so you can start gaining back control, today.

I have spent hundreds of hours working with clients who struggle with managing anger/rage. There are specific, step-by-step techniques that can be taught, that are very effective at helping people deal with this issue. Based on reports from clients I have worked with, I have found that if clients are committed to their process, most people make significant improvement within 6-12 sessions. Drawing from polyvagal theory, AEDP and mindfulness techniques, clients can learn healthy ways to manage and experience their anger.

Anger is one of people’s common emotions, Our expression of anger sometimes is not healthy and can be hurtful to our loved ones. We can work together toward gaining an understanding the source of your stress. We can also work on making adjustments to your expectations, and moving from reaction to response bringing health to your relationships.

: We all have a right to feel and express our anger and yet sometimes anger can alienate us from the things we care about most, such as friends and family. We can also often feel judged because of the way we express our anger and this can make it harder to manage. In my work with individuals who experience anger, I provide a safe, supportive and non-judgmental space to begin to understand anger and learn new ways of expressing it. Reach out today to schedule a free 15-minute consultation to see if we are a good fit.