Anger Management and Counselling in Stouffville, ON.

Much of parenting work is teaching our children and teens how to be safe, compassionate, and respectful human beings. This is the tricky part, particularly since kids have a mind of their own and there are plenty of times that they disagree with parents and go head-to-head. So how do parents approach their children effectively without losing their own patience? In our therapeutic approach and parent coaching sessions, we provide individualized support for understanding what may be underlying the anger and how to strengthen emotion and behaviour regulation.

Anger is an emotion, and like any emotion, it serves a purpose. When proportional and effectively directed, anger can motivate us to act and make changes. But when intense and expressed with fighting, swearing, and as an “explosion,” or inward toward yourself, it can lead to harm for both oneself and others. Together, we will explore the benefits of expressing anger effectively, learn how to not “bottle up” emotions, and delve into how cultural and family influences may have shaped your patterns of anger expression. Additionally, we will identify and practice skills, including mindfulness, distress tolerance, emotional regulation, and interpersonal effectiveness.

People come for psychotherapy to my downtown Toronto practice in order to help them manage feelings of extreme anger and other painful emotions, as well as difficulties being able to be assertive without become excessively aggressive. Sometimes these psychological challenges are recent developments, but sometimes they represent lifelong struggles coping with difficult feelings.

Are you looking for support related to anger management? If you struggle to regulate your emotions, communicate in your relationships, or control your behaviours, I am here to help. Together we will work to create an individualized treatment plan aimed at reducing your discomfort and developing your emotional regulation and communication skills. This work will take place in an honest and authentic space, validating your experience while keeping you accountable to your therapeutic goals.

Anger is one of the healthy and normal emotions. What can cause problems is unhealthy expression of anger. Clients benefit from working on strategies for managing the triggers that lead to reactive outbursts of anger. The next step is to find healthy outlets for this anger- and there are many. Anger can be a cover for other feelings. Benefit is achieved from working on these underlying feelings and expressing them in healthy ways, within the safe compassionate space provided by the therapist. Reactive patterns have been learned in our early years. It is not helpful to judge them. It takes practice to learn new ways of handling anger.

Are you finding it difficult to manage your anger? Anger is often a result of loosing your sense of control, feeling frustrated, or being blocked from something that is important to you. Psychotherapy can help you develop better self-understanding, reduce stress, cultivate better judgement, develop your communication skills, and increase empathy and connection with those around you.

There are many things that can spark anger and it can be difficult to get a hold when anger takes over. It can also be difficult to understand why certain situations may lead us to feel angry and propel us to act in ways that may not be helpful to ourselves or to the relationships we are part of. Within therapy, I will help you to develop greater insight into how and why you experience anger and together, we will learn about the patterns that anger is connected to. I will also help you to develop tools to more safely connect with anger so that you can experience more fulfilling relationships with yourself and others. Contact me or book a free consultation if you wish to learn more.

We feel anger because we feel that something is not fair, something is not working out the way we thought it should, our boundaries have been crossed, or we feel we have been treated badly, or missed out. Anger can be frustrating if you don't know how to address the underlying issue. I specialize in helping those whose anger is related to social anxiety, isolation, bullying, harassment or lack of important social skills.

Understanding the roots of your anger can go a long way to empowering you to respond in ways that best suit the situation, leaving you feeling satisfied and content, rather than reacting in ways that feel the most relieving in that moment but leave you regretting your behavior, long after the event. I can help you learn to express your feelings more appropriately and take back the power that anger has had over you in the past.

At New Roots Therapy, we understand anger as part of an overall context. For example, we look to understand what anger is related to, as well as someone's "good reasons" for experiencing anger. Our hope is to take a non-judgmental stance, while also encouraging people to take responsibility for the expression of anger. People are not their emotions; therefore, feeling angry does not necessarily make someone an angry person. We hope to offer people a way of understanding their anger as separate from their identity, in the sense that anger does not define them. As such, people can be active agents, rather than passive recipients, in their experience and expression of anger.

Anger is a normal and healthy emotion, neither good nor bad, when it’s present. Like any emotion, it conveys a message, telling you that a situation is upsetting, unjust, or threatening. However when anger is built up and disproportionate to a situation it is called rage. That means old anger that is unresolved along with a new trigger. Sometimes you may feel like it’s out of your hands and there’s little you can do to tame the beast. But you have more control over your anger than you think. With insight about the real reasons for your anger and these anger management tools, you can learn to express your emotions without hurting others and keep your temper from hijacking your life.

Anger is a common response when we are afraid. It can also be a reaction when we feel shame or guilt. The challenge with anger is that unreleased, it can create health issues and when released, it can have serious consequences. My approach is to work with clients to identify underlying beliefs that trigger the anger reaction. By becoming self-aware, the client begins to gain control of their emotions which in turn allows them to have different outcomes.

Anger is the most common coping mechanism that is often misunderstood. Suppressing or avoiding anxiety inevitably leads to being overwhelmed and sometimes emotionally exploding. Instead of suppressing anger, a person should learn how to embrace it, be curious about it, feel it, understand it, and eventually channel it in a healthy and constructive manner. Anger comes from a sense of being misunderstood, ignored or left unsupported and the therapy should acknowledge and explore these areas. Schedule a free 15-minute consultation to see if we are a good fit.

Anger is a powerful emotion that, when not controlled or understood, can get in the way of maintaining and building the relationships that are important to us in our lives. So often under those all-encompassing feelings of anger are other feelings that have been buried - perhaps deeper feelings of sadness. Working on issues of anger in therapy is about building an understanding of what our deeper issues are and of working toward coping with our feelings, resolving our issues, and finding more healthy ways to express ourselves in the world.

The use of cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is something that many anger management therapies incorporate. By trying to get a patient to open up about their emotions and feelings and being driven to accomplish a specific task (in this case controlling anger), a person can see positive results in their behaviour. By slowing down our thoughts, we can catch ourselves when anger presents itself and choose an alternate course of action, more in line with our goals.

If you are reading this profile, you are probably concerned about your anger issues and want to seek help. You are likely feeling frustrated, irritated and angry most the time. You may be feeling that you are losing control and lashing out your anger easily. Anger can be destructive and negative, however like other emotions, it is a normal and healthy emotion that try to draw our attention to the underlying issues that we need to work on. With over 12 years of clinical experience, I humbly want to support you to feel better and make the needed changes. I offer integrative and evident-base approaches to meet your needs. Please don't hesitate to reach out and get the help you need now.