Anger Management and Counselling in Selwyn, ON.

It can be difficult to control our emotions, especially in these challenging times. Anger can also be an expression of other emotions that are lying beneath the surface. Psychotherapy can help identify tools that work for you in learning to regulate your emotions, as well as approaching your anger with preventative strategies such as learning to recognize when you begin to feel angry, and regular activities that can help alleviate stress and build up your stress tolerance. You are not defined by your anger, and your anger doesn't control you. By learning to identify your triggers and the purpose your anger serves for you, therapy can help you make a shift bring more peace into your life.

I have spent hundreds of hours working with clients who struggle with managing anger/rage. There are specific, step-by-step techniques that can be taught, that are very effective at helping people deal with this issue. Based on reports from clients I have worked with, I have found that if clients are committed to their process, most people make significant improvement within 6-12 sessions. Drawing from polyvagal theory, AEDP and mindfulness techniques, clients can learn healthy ways to manage and experience their anger.

Many of us grew up in families where we were told to rate our emotions as positive or negative. Positive emotions were love, joy, and compassion. Negative emotions were sadness, fear, anger, and rage. Unfortunately, anger got placed in the harmful emotion category for many of us, which is not where it belongs. Anger is a helpful emotion that strengthens our resolve to set healthy limits in our relationships. Anger helps us communicate what we need from others. Psychotherapy is a space where you can learn the positive attributes of anger and how to express it positively and safely. Let's get together and explore some of these healthier options for this vital emotion!

Anger is the most common coping mechanism that is often misunderstood. Suppressing or avoiding anxiety inevitably leads to being overwhelmed and sometimes emotionally exploding. Instead of suppressing anger, a person should learn how to embrace it, be curious about it, feel it, understand it, and eventually channel it in a healthy and constructive manner. Anger comes from a sense of being misunderstood, ignored or left unsupported and the therapy should acknowledge and explore these areas. Schedule a free 15-minute consultation to see if we are a good fit.

All emotions provide information about how we are experiencing a particular relationship or event. The intensity of our emotions reflects how important this relationship or event is to us. Anger has become associated with aggression and hurtful behaviours, but in reality, anger is an emotion that motivates us to respond. Sessions focus on developing an understanding of where your anger is originating and how it can be expressed and/or resolved.

Anger is often thought of as a negative emotion, but I like to think of Anger as the part of you that loves you and wants to stand up for you when you’ve experienced something “unfair.” Anger does not always make the best decisions about when to stand up for you, so I work collaboratively with clients to identify and explore how anger shows up in their lives, and to strengthen and develop strategies to minimize the impact it has on living the life you want to live. Book a free consultation to learn more about my approach and explore if we are a good fit.

Often those with anger management issues find themselves acting in ways that hurt themselves and those around them. Uncontrolled bursts of rage can frighten, alienate and harm those close to you. Get control over your moods and learn what is triggering your anger. Discover alternate methods for expressing your feelings so that you feel understood and listened to.

Anger is a healthy emotion it is what we do with our anger that can create problems. I help clients look at their anger honestly and get to the sources of it. We explore what message is the anger telling the client. I help clients learn more effective and safe ways of expressing their anger. Often clients benefit from learning more coping skills as well. Relaxation techniques and self-care are an important aspect of learning to cope more effectively with anger.

There are many other emotions that bury themselves under our anger and impulsive reactions. Identifying these emotions can be the first step in developing emotional regulation. I have been trained in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT). This form of treatment focuses on using Distress Tolerance skills, Mindfulness, Emotion Regulation and Interpersonal Effectiveness to manage intense and overwhelming emotions.

: We all have a right to feel and express our anger and yet sometimes anger can alienate us from the things we care about most, such as friends and family. We can also often feel judged because of the way we express our anger and this can make it harder to manage. In my work with individuals who experience anger, I provide a safe, supportive and non-judgmental space to begin to understand anger and learn new ways of expressing it. Reach out today to schedule a free 15-minute consultation to see if we are a good fit.