Anger Management and Counselling in Havelock, ON.

Anger is a secondary emotion, meaning that something else is usually going on, other needs may not be met. Assistance with Anger management involves actively listening to your story, experiences, expectations, and frustrations. I will help you learn coping strategies to effectively notice and avoid unecessary anger, better communication strategies to deal with others, and adopt a healthier outlook on life to provide more realistic expectations.

Are you finding it difficult to manage your anger? Anger is often a result of loosing your sense of control, feeling frustrated, or being blocked from something that is important to you. Psychotherapy can help you develop better self-understanding, reduce stress, cultivate better judgement, develop your communication skills, and increase empathy and connection with those around you.

All emotions provide information about how we are experiencing a particular relationship or event. The intensity of our emotions reflects how important this relationship or event is to us. Anger has become associated with aggression and hurtful behaviours, but in reality, anger is an emotion that motivates us to respond. Sessions focus on developing an understanding of where your anger is originating and how it can be expressed and/or resolved.

It can be difficult to control our emotions, especially in these challenging times. Anger can also be an expression of other emotions that are lying beneath the surface. Psychotherapy can help identify tools that work for you in learning to regulate your emotions, as well as approaching your anger with preventative strategies such as learning to recognize when you begin to feel angry, and regular activities that can help alleviate stress and build up your stress tolerance. You are not defined by your anger, and your anger doesn't control you. By learning to identify your triggers and the purpose your anger serves for you, therapy can help you make a shift bring more peace into your life.

Anger management is about anger understanding first. Why are we angry? I will help clients' seeking assistance with anger by creating a safe space to explore the anger, to process it, and understand it. We can't seek to manage it if we don't understand what is really happening for us. Through pattern exploration of experiences with anger, we can process and navigate the emotion and work together to manage it.

Maybe you are reaching out because your words and actions are affecting those you love. We will work together to address your emotional reactivity so that you can create enough space before your actions so that you can choose a different path. We will explore what is underlying your anger so that we can address the root cause. Anger is a secondary emotion, and we will work to discover the primary emotion that is causing you such difficulties.

There are many other emotions that bury themselves under our anger and impulsive reactions. Identifying these emotions can be the first step in developing emotional regulation. I have been trained in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT). This form of treatment focuses on using Distress Tolerance skills, Mindfulness, Emotion Regulation and Interpersonal Effectiveness to manage intense and overwhelming emotions.

Anger is a healthy emotion it is what we do with our anger that can create problems. I help clients look at their anger honestly and get to the sources of it. We explore what message is the anger telling the client. I help clients learn more effective and safe ways of expressing their anger. Often clients benefit from learning more coping skills as well. Relaxation techniques and self-care are an important aspect of learning to cope more effectively with anger.

Often those with anger management issues find themselves acting in ways that hurt themselves and those around them. Uncontrolled bursts of rage can frighten, alienate and harm those close to you. Get control over your moods and learn what is triggering your anger. Discover alternate methods for expressing your feelings so that you feel understood and listened to.

My approach to anger management first teaches clients to become expert observers of themselves their triggers, risks and "buttons". Once this is done, strategies are developed to mitigate risk and experiment with alternate, healthy forms of expressing rage. Anger can be profoundly healing and revealing, as well as destructive. Sometimes deeper reprocessing work is necessary if the source of anger is extreme or rooted in early life, or marked by great suffering, humiliation, disgust or injustice. If impulse control is a concern, practical safety agreements in addition to DBT and affect regulation strategies can be imparted. Couples can learn ways to allow safe and healthy anger expression

I’ve been helping people lead more intentional lives for over 20 years. I will help you think before you speak, take time to calm down, use humor to lessen your anxiety, and many more tools to get you to reach your full potential. I’m trained in cognitive behavioral therapy, developmental models,and anxiety and depression management. Most importantly, my aim is to focus on you as a distinctive person, with distinctive needs. My goal is to work with you as a unique individual, and focus on YOUR goals.

Anger can feel like an emotional experience that we have no control over. In therapy, you can explore the root causes of anger and how it impacts your life, your experiences, and your relationships. You can learn skills to effectively respond to anger, ground yourself when feeling angry, and de-escalate when anger is impacting your relationships. I work with individuals, couples and families. Book a free consultation to explore if we are a good fit for therapy.