Anger Management and Counselling in Connellys, ON.

Often those with anger management issues find themselves acting in ways that hurt themselves and those around them. Uncontrolled bursts of rage can frighten, alienate and harm those close to you. Get control over your moods and learn what is triggering your anger. Discover alternate methods for expressing your feelings so that you feel understood and listened to.

There are 3 phases in working with Anger 1.Prevention- Attempts to forestall the very onset of anger. 2. Intervention- Aims to reduce the intensity or the duration of anger that has already ignited. 3. Postvention- Aims to discharge any residual anger. Emotions are regulated by re-experiencing, releasing, or converting them into a safe form. We will not only focus on your cognitions and behaviors as entry points but also focus on the modification of affect (your emotions). Anger is an emotion. To have no room in therapy for the feeling component of this emotion is to deny its very essence, your existence. Gestalt perspective- Expression of anger can be very productive. Let out!

Our experiences of anger vary greatly. While I don't offer therapy services for anger management, at Psychotherapy Collective, our online clinic, we have many therapists who offer support for clients seeking help with anger. Visit our website to schedule a free 15-minute consultation with a therapist who specializes in anger management https://www.psychotherapycollective.ca/areas-of-focus/anger

All emotions provide information about how we are experiencing a particular relationship or event. The intensity of our emotions reflects how important this relationship or event is to us. Anger has become associated with aggression and hurtful behaviours, but in reality, anger is an emotion that motivates us to respond. Sessions focus on developing an understanding of where your anger is originating and how it can be expressed and/or resolved.

My approach to anger management first teaches clients to become expert observers of themselves their triggers, risks and "buttons". Once this is done, strategies are developed to mitigate risk and experiment with alternate, healthy forms of expressing rage. Anger can be profoundly healing and revealing, as well as destructive. Sometimes deeper reprocessing work is necessary if the source of anger is extreme or rooted in early life, or marked by great suffering, humiliation, disgust or injustice. If impulse control is a concern, practical safety agreements in addition to DBT and affect regulation strategies can be imparted. Couples can learn ways to allow safe and healthy anger expression

Anger is a secondary emotion, meaning that something else is usually going on, other needs may not be met. Assistance with Anger management involves actively listening to your story, experiences, expectations, and frustrations. I will help you learn coping strategies to effectively notice and avoid unecessary anger, better communication strategies to deal with others, and adopt a healthier outlook on life to provide more realistic expectations.

A response to life's events falls upon a continuum from neutral to highly-reactive. At times anger, Gandhi called it "Righteous Indignation," is necessary to respond to injustices or inappropriate behaviours. However, uncontrolled, inappropriate anger is destructive to one's self and others. Mindfulness and Metta (Loving Kindness) meditations are excellent tools to deal with anger. Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) also called Tapping, along with skillful use of affirmations can help to cool the fires of anger. The benefits of anger management lead to a regulating of emotions and thus a gaining of peace of mind, positive relationships, career and family security.

Anger is a healthy emotion it is what we do with our anger that can create problems. I help clients look at their anger honestly and get to the sources of it. We explore what message is the anger telling the client. I help clients learn more effective and safe ways of expressing their anger. Often clients benefit from learning more coping skills as well. Relaxation techniques and self-care are an important aspect of learning to cope more effectively with anger.

There are many other emotions that bury themselves under our anger and impulsive reactions. Identifying these emotions can be the first step in developing emotional regulation. I have been trained in Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT). This form of treatment focuses on using Distress Tolerance skills, Mindfulness, Emotion Regulation and Interpersonal Effectiveness to manage intense and overwhelming emotions.

Many of us grew up in families where we were told to rate our emotions as positive or negative. Positive emotions were love, joy, and compassion. Negative emotions were sadness, fear, anger, and rage. Unfortunately, anger got placed in the harmful emotion category for many of us, which is not where it belongs. Anger is a helpful emotion that strengthens our resolve to set healthy limits in our relationships. Anger helps us communicate what we need from others. Psychotherapy is a space where you can learn the positive attributes of anger and how to express it positively and safely. Let's get together and explore some of these healthier options for this vital emotion!

It can be difficult to control our emotions, especially in these challenging times. Anger can also be an expression of other emotions that are lying beneath the surface. Psychotherapy can help identify tools that work for you in learning to regulate your emotions, as well as approaching your anger with preventative strategies such as learning to recognize when you begin to feel angry, and regular activities that can help alleviate stress and build up your stress tolerance. You are not defined by your anger, and your anger doesn't control you. By learning to identify your triggers and the purpose your anger serves for you, therapy can help you make a shift bring more peace into your life.

Anger can often feel so overwhelming that it causes you to do things you later regret. Not knowing what came over you, there are many unanswered questions: why do I keep doing this? why can't I stop myself? Sometimes, alcohol, substances, or other addictive behaviours lead to this anger, making it more difficult to control. As an addiction counsellor, I help clients overcome addictions leading to anger issues so they can regain a sense of control, rebuild relationships, and gain clarity about how to move forward. If you are unsure where to start, send me a message and I can help. If I'm not the right fit, I can connect you to the right support so you can start gaining back control, today.