Anger Management and Counselling in Beamsville, ON.

I believe that anger is an emotion that in and of itself is not wrong. However, the actions that result from our anger can be negative. I help people understand their anger, where it came from, and why they deal with situations the way they do. Once a person has that knowledge, I help them to find healthy solutions to deal with the anger they feel by teaching them body language skills, communication and listening skills, and the freedom that comes from forgiveness.

Anger, while a typical human emotion, can rapidly escalate into a problem when not under control. Therapy can assist you in regulating your emotions and actions, as well as in developing coping mechanisms to assist you in managing situations that trigger your rage. You can learn to settle disagreements more constructively and repair relationships damaged by anger by looking at the thoughts that cause them. You can learn relaxation techniques to assist you in calming down and relaxing your body and mind.

Anger is a difficult emotion to control once it gets started. Stopping anger is like stopping a runaway train after it has a full head of steam. Managing one of the most powerful emotions takes preparation, awareness and containment skills. I have personally written the book on the Eight Steps to Conquering Chronic Anger. It is used monthly at our centre in anger management classes. Anger can be conquered!

Working with emotions is a central feature of my therapy practice. I believe that all emotions serve a purpose and that none are essentially bad. However, that said, what we do with our emotions matters very much and learning to recognize, experience, and accept feelings is an important part of learning how to express them effectively. Understanding that anger is often connected to other foundational emotions such as fear or shame is an important part of the process.

Anger is just one of the many emotions we all experience. If anger is a problem for you, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) can help manage this difficult emotion and the physiological arousal that accompanies it. Anger management can help you recognize and manage triggers and learn to cope more effectively.

Anger is an emotion that often comes up when we feel threatened, provoked or feel resentful about painful experiences. It is a normal emotion like any other. Imagine it to be a source of energy, and we need to find the safest way to diffuse, transform and use that energy efficiently. I can help you understand, manage and self-regulate your angry feelings, and that will empower you to better control angry reactions and turn them into solution focused responses.

Anger can be a strong emotion. When used in an unproductive way, anger can harm us (i.e. self-criticism, self-injury), and harm our relationships (i.e. blaming, criticism, aggression, inflexibility). However, when this feeling is used in a healthy way, it can give us some important information about boundaries, needs & expectations. It can also help to motivate us to make necessary changes. In therapy, we can work together to get a handle on anger and harness that energy in healthy, helpful ways. If you're wanting to find ways to manage your anger, book a consultation or session with one of our clinicians to get started now! www.kaleidoscopecounsellingco.com

Being angry when something goes wrong, or somebody annoys you is completely normal. The question is: do you like to feel that way? Sometimes the anger is extraordinarily strong, and it can make you lose control. Do you like the consequences of being angry? - headaches, regrets of words you said, and actions you did? Anger is complicated and it often has deep roots. For this reason, it can be difficult to “just control it”. My experience of working with jail inmates shows that digging deeper into the past can help to find connections between trigger events and such strong reactions. When you have better understanding of your anger, the reaction can change and no strong control will be needed.

Anger is like a grumpy cat with a tiny umbrella in a thunderstorm - unpredictable, a bit irrational, and often best approached with caution and a sense of humour! If you've been told you have "anger issues", or can recognize that you "lose it" too often, counselling that focuses on anger management can be a big help. When I work with clients on anger management, I assist clients in identifying triggers, exploring underlying issues that are contributing to anger, and developing coping strategies to manage and express anger in a healthier way. The goal is to promote self-awareness, teach assertive communication skills and constructive emotional regulation.

Anger is a completely normal, often healthy human emotion. But if it gets beyond your control, it can be very destructive in your work and interpersonal relationships and can drastically devastate the quality of your life. Fortunately, anger can be 'managed' which is very different than 'suppressing' it. Unexpressed anger leads to a host of other problems including high blood pressure. However, when we learn how to 'manage' our anger, we can learn to diminish both the emotional feelings and the physiological arousal that anger causes. We can learn to avoid triggers and develop strategies. We can learn how to problem solve, change our thinking and relax our bodies.

Anger often comes from a negative place, but for some it is an easy way to express something else that is going on inside. Especially with younger clients, anger management is really about emotion management. With so many emotions it is often difficult to know at a young age how to make sense of everything going on internally. Thus, when I speak with children and youth who are displaying anger, first I seek to discover what it is they are angry about and then help them process the issues and determine if there is really something else they are feeling. Most importantly, I also teach my clients how to recognize different emotions and deal with them effectively.

Anger is a completely normal, often healthy human emotion. But if it gets beyond your control, it can be very destructive in your work and interpersonal relationships and can drastically devastate the quality of your life. Fortunately, anger can be 'managed' which is very different than 'suppressing' it. Unexpressed anger leads to a host of other problems including high blood pressure. However, when we learn how to 'manage' our anger, we can learn to diminish both the emotional feelings and the physiological arousal that anger causes. We can learn to avoid triggers and develop strategies. We can learn how to problem solve, change our thinking and relax our bodies.

One of the most common complaints I hear from parents is that their child never listens. “No matter what it is they just don’t hear me. I yell and scream and plead but it’s like I am talking to a brick wall.” Most of the time the way the message is delivered is more important than the message itself. Adults and children alike tend to close themselves off from loud and intrusive tones of voice. I help parents understand that perhaps the best way to get their kids to listen and behave is by first changing their attitudes towards the situation. Engaging in a parenting paradigm shift is a great way to start their journey and I can help with this process.

Anger comes from a place of hurt. Whether that hurt is from trauma, embarrassment, or insecurity, it has a root cause that needs to be identified, addressed, and healed. If you find that anger is damaging your relationships or contributing to a feeling of always being stressed, I can help you work towards a feeling of peace and healing so that you can experience life for all of the joy it can bring and repair relationships damaged as a result of things you regret saying or doing.

Anger management therapy can significantly benefit clients by helping them understand the root causes of their anger and learn to express it in healthier ways. Through therapy, clients can develop strategies to control their emotional responses, improve communication skills, and reduce the negative impact of anger on their relationships and daily life. Ultimately, anger management therapy fosters emotional regulation, enhances personal well-being, and promotes more constructive interactions with others.

Anger is not necessary an unhealthy emotion. It can give us energy, clarity, and move us toward much needed action. However, when anger becomes habitual it has the power to overtake us and derail our jobs, our relationships, and ultimately, our peace of mind. Anger management therapy is a process which involves self-discovery, emotional processing, stabilizing techniques, and often deep discussions regarding a client's family history and historical processing styles. Yes, anger can be all-consuming, but there is always hope for people who are willing to fight back when their emotions threaten to boil over and consume them.

I believe that often times anger is a manifestation of unprocessed or repressed painful emotions. As such, I approach anger in a patient, respectful and inquisitive manner, allowing clients to access parts of themselves that they have disconnected from. I believe that when the emotions underlying anger can be brought to light and processed, then alternative ways of expressing those emotions can be explored. Contact me to book a free consultation.

Anger is often a secondary feeling and it is important to learn to identify and process the underlying feelings. As a primary feeling anger helps us know when something isn't right and is the energy behind setting appropriate boundaries and enacting change. Our therapists are trained to support you in learning to identify and process anger in a healthy way that improves your relationships and emotional health.

All human beings feel and express anger, and thus anger itself is not necessarily bad or good. It's a normal emotion which can sometimes be harnessed to motivate us towards our goals. At times, unhelpful thinking patterns make us vulnerable to being triggered into angry behaviors impacting our relationships and well being. There are many useful tools available to help address the causes of anger, helping clients to understand themselves and their motivations better. Better understanding often translates into more control and an increase in emotional regulation.

Anger management is a series of preventative and reactionary steps that help us regulate our emotions. While anger management is about executing these skills, the successful implementation depends on a foundational understanding of what anger is and how it operates in one’s life. Without understanding angers unique roots for each individual, anger management techniques become especially challenging to implement. My approach to anger management involves establishing a foundational understanding of anger by examining personal underlying fears and needs. With this foundation set, the individual is able to integrate a personal understanding of anger consistently with strategies and techniques.

In my experience of conducting the Men's Anti-violence groups, I can help with "self-regulation" of negative and highly charged feelings of anger and resentment, both in intimate family and work-related areas. My focus is to help people with a "hot-temper" or "short-fuse" by identifying and isolating feelings that may originate and reside in negative family dynamics where "injustice" and unfairness often are at the root of such "pent-up" unexpressed feelings. Or, you were "not allowed" to express such natural and valid feelings. Effective new "habits" are learned as are ways to "control" this reflexive and impulsive behaviour. I have seen positive and healthy change come about as a result.

Anger is a normal human emotion–an essential part of being–something hard-wired and adaptive. It motivates us to take action, keeps us aware, and can bring us to self-reflection. It is a form of communication expressing our true inner feelings. For some, anger becomes an overwhelming, well-engrained, unhealthy habit; a maladaptive, go-to defense mechanism that disrupts communication and paradoxically masks true inner feelings of vulnerability. It takes courage to challenge. But through psychotherapeutic, CBT-based intervention, I take pride in working to help adults unpack the pain, find acceptance through understanding, and seize new coping strategies that will serve them productively.

Your brain says getting angry is good. For whatever reason, you've learned that anger is an effective, useful response to situations your faced with in everyday life. As you and I both know, it doesn't always work out that way. I can help you understand your anger, address the root causes, and learn how to manage it effectively in the meantime. Get new solutions, and learn how to reprogram your mind. Modern, effective, no-nonsense counselling in a professional, non-judgemental atmosphere.

Your goal with other people is to interact effectively. Does anger do that? We know it does not, but we develop habitual trigger responses that can escalate conflict. We need ways to slow down our words and actions until we can focus on our real goal and the best way to reach it. In counselling we take time to explore your thoughts and feelings so that you can figure yourself out to find the right techniques and strategies. Sometimes it can be a matter of trial and error. I help you explore the options and you find what is effective for you.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.