Anger Management and Counselling in Aylmer, ON.

What do you do when things just do NOT seem fair? Do you go inwards, blaming yourself, or "keep your feelings in" because you do not know what to do, or are scared of saying or doing something? Does your head hurt, do you clench your jaw, or do you feel 'depressed'? Have you found yourself reacting in anger, yelling, screaming, throwing things around, punching walls and even hurting other people, specially your loved ones and then regretting it? Are any of the above behaviours getting you into trouble? Adela can facilitate your anger management. Learn to express how you feel in a constructive, compassionate, non-violent way. Reconstruct your relationships and be trusted again!

Anger typically provides a great deal of energy. Sometimes it can fuel us to stand up and say “no” to unfair treatment. However, it can also translate into aggression that can hurt the ones we love and care about, including ourselves. Therapy can be an opportunity to identify the emotions or reasons underlying the anger so we can better communicate when boundaries have been crossed and needs have not been met. Techniques to soothe oneself, exert energy in a positive way and conflict resolution skills are typical directions for therapy. This may improve your relationships with others and yourself, so you can lead a more contented life.

No one WANTS to be angry. Anger is a secondary emotion - meaning, it's a symptom of another emotion that you are dealing with through anger. Often when we feel an emotion that is too overwhelming for us to manage, we react with anger, which lets us avoid that original emotion. Managing your anger will mean that we explore what that original emotion is, help you to identify what caused it, and how you can tolerate it without utilizing anger. Sessions will also allow you to express your feelings in a safe, supportive environment, without judgment, perhaps for the first time.

We all experience anger, it is a normal feeling that helps us move forward and beyond unhealthy situations. However when anger becomes our first response and results in violence or the loss of family and friends, you need to rebalance your feelings. I will help you understand your own anger and develop tools to manage your triggers and reactions. Learning to talk through your feelings before you explode can be healing and helpful in your relationships. Learning to control your outbursts will bring you closer to family and friends as well as improve your career.

A.M. is mainly a misnomer: “anger” is a natural emotion and normal response to real or imagined injury/threats. It can support our making and keeping essential personal boundaries. Such anger is usually short-lived. Anger that results in impulsive harmful abusive acts and lasts, is better described as rage. Rage stems from severe early life traumas: extensive abandonment, need deprivation, violence, sexual abuse, chronic chaos, likely combined with individual vulnerability factors. Some programs and self-help may not successfully address rage.Depending on degree of self-awareness, motivation, capacity for self-regulation and taking responsibility, this problem can be helped by psychotherapy

Anger management counseling can help to identify stressors and learn the steps to stay calm in the face of anger. The goal is to handle tense situations in more constructive and positive ways by reducing the emotional and physical arousal that anger can cause. It will provide the tools to take back your life and resolve the triggers that result in unplanned anger reactions.

If you experience anger management that is interfering in your work or relationships, I offer a variety of approaches to understand not only the sources of anger, but also tailored strategies to help you to change your reactions and communicate your needs in productive ways. Types of approaches that might be used include Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), other somatic approaches and Cognitive Behaviour Therapy.

Anger is a natural emotion and everyone experiences anger at one point or another. It can become problematic if expressed in an aggressive and irrational manner. I assist my clients by guiding them to regulate their anger and behaviour, gain self-awareness to feel more in control of themselves and their emotions, which in turn lead them to have improved relationships and express their anger in a constructive manner.

Anger is a normal and important emotion that provides us with clues about emotions, thoughts, experiences, and behaviours that need to be explored and understood. Anger is a secondary emotion which means that there are often softer more vulnerable emotions that lie beneath the experience and expression of anger. In the context of a safe and non-judgemental counselling relationship, you can begin to explore the roots of your anger, understand how your anger has likely acted to protect you in may situations, and learn new strategies and tools to express all emotions, including anger, in a more effective and helpful way.

A response to life's events falls upon a continuum from neutral to highly-reactive. At times anger, Gandhi called it "Righteous Indignation," is necessary to respond to injustices or inappropriate behaviours. However, uncontrolled, inappropriate anger is destructive to one's self and others. Mindfulness and Metta (Loving Kindness) meditations are excellent tools to deal with anger. Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) also called Tapping, along with skillful use of affirmations can help to cool the fires of anger. The benefits of anger management lead to a regulating of emotions and thus a gaining of peace of mind, positive relationships, career and family security.

When anger and rage is out of control it is important to reach out for support. I help clients with developing a better understanding of anger in order to regain control. Below the surface of anger often exists other unresolved emotions and experiences that we may need help navigating. As we begin to better understand ourselves and the reasons that anger becomes activated, it is possible to develop the skills and self-awareness necessary to feel more calmness. It is possible to learn how to navigate life’s stressful circumstances without the destructive impacts of unmanaged anger.

After four decades as a therapist, I find anger management is still not fully understood. Yes you need to manage your anger. But it’s early childhood experience which has hurt you - hardened you to avoid, dismiss or shove inside any anger: both the Constructive as well as Destructive types. That becomes a false shortcut - as feeling inside for which is which in the moment is a key to healthy assertion. Balance is what we need. In the model I use for working with anger, you can learn first to shift what tends to happen in a present unhappy situation. We’ll then help you distinguish how your past started that pattern. You’ll be able to balance yourself, both in anger and conflict resolution.

I have worked in a group setting with men who have power and control issues. I believe in safety in families, and compassion for all. The work starts with taking responsibility for our actions and the effects they have on others. I believe people are capable of change and therapy can be an invitation to growth in responsibility, empathy and behaviour change. I would address the emotional root of the problem and help you understand why anger leads to aggression.

All emotions provide information about how we are experiencing a particular relationship or event. The intensity of our emotions reflects how important this relationship or event is to us. Anger has become associated with aggression and hurtful behaviours, but in reality, anger is an emotion that motivates us to respond. Sessions focus on developing an understanding of where your anger is originating and how it can be expressed and/or resolved.

Events in your life do not cause you to be angry. Anger is your response to those events, and I can help you change your response by changing your thinking! I can help you deal better with underlying stress. I can teach you relaxation methods, and I can teach you the techniques of mindfulness to lessen the hold of difficult thoughts and feelings have on you.

Anger, frustration, rage, and reactivity overall, can make a person feel frustrated and powerless; when we have emotional outbursts of any kind they can feel so all-encompassing and make us feel like we are not in control of feelings, thoughts, and behaviours. In working with clients on their emotions I aim to primarily promote an understanding of why our emotional outbursts occur; once this has been established we begin to work on how to manage, mitigate, or change how these outbursts occur, or why we feel the way that we feel in the first place.

Anger is a natural emotion that everyone experiences and should not be viewed as negative but an essential emotion to understand who you are. When anger starts to impact your life negatively it is typically displayed in the way you manage behaviourally and mentally through situations. In therapy, the individual will determine the triggers for the anger, develop healthy coping mechanisms, and record their successes. In essence turning a lion into a kitten.

Anger is an essential emotion. It lets us know what is important. Sometimes, the intensity of anger can be upsetting. Anger management is more about anger awareness. Learning how to manage intense feelings is helpful in both family and work environments. By becoming aware of seemingly insignificant triggers, you can avoid an very significant outburst. Counselling can help you transform anger as the enemy to anger as your ally.

While anger management programs are helpful, most never get to the root of the individual's personal issues or triggers. I work with both men and women to realize learned behaviour and personal belief systems that continue to cause problems. I will work with you on your own individual triggers that lead to anger and help you learn how to better identify and change the thoughts and feelings that are leading to the angry behaviour.

Together, we will gain insight into the root of your anger and the purpose that it serves in your life. We will empower you to learn more about yourself when you experience anger and decide how you choose to respond to this emotion. I employ an integrative approach in my practice working alongside clients within an empathetic and supportive dynamic.

There are many reasons why people get angry. Being able to feel angry is normal and healthy. However, how people respond to anger determines if they are being appropriate or not. Through anger management counselling, I can help you understand the source of your anger, how to respond to anger effectively and appropriately, and how to enjoy your life is such a way that your feelings serve to communicate awareness of your environment versus controlling your thoughts and behaviour. Through counselling you can become "in control" versus being controlling. I can help you to resolve conflict effectively and to express yourself assertively versus passively or aggressively.

Anger can be a strong emotion. When used in an unproductive way, anger can harm us (i.e. self-criticism, self-injury), and harm our relationships (i.e. blaming, criticism, aggression, inflexibility). However, when this feeling is used in a healthy way, it can give us some important information about boundaries, needs & expectations. It can also help to motivate us to make necessary changes. In therapy, we can work together to get a handle on anger and harness that energy in healthy, helpful ways. If you're wanting to find ways to manage your anger, book a consultation or session with one of our clinicians to get started now! www.kaleidoscopecounsellingco.com

Anger management is about anger understanding first. Why are we angry? I will help clients' seeking assistance with anger by creating a safe space to explore the anger, to process it, and understand it. We can't seek to manage it if we don't understand what is really happening for us. Through pattern exploration of experiences with anger, we can process and navigate the emotion and work together to manage it.

Emotions can run deep and overwhelm our system. Anger, in particular, is one what tends to come fast and flood our system. Anger is often learned in our early life and we hold onto the lessons of this. The good news is that we can unburden ourselves from the hurt anger is often holding which can free you from this cycle. If anger is impacting your life, we can help. Contact us and we can work with you to start this change.

In my approach to managing anger and emotional regulation issues, I work with the individual to understand how childhood experiences and unmet needs contribute to the presenting issues. Through this understanding, we can develop new communication methods so you have new tools to address your concerns. I also encourage my clients to develop a strong sense of self-compassion so they can learn to forgive themselves when old patterns emerge, which can then provide guidance on what the person needs in their life.