Grief and Loss Counseling in Windsor, NY.

It's natural to feel sorrow after the loss of someone we love--whether that loss be from death, divorce or estrangement. Moreover, our psychologists understand that each person copes and deals with grief differently. Our approach to grief and loss therapy focuses on healthy expressions of sorrow, acknowledging unhelpful patterns of thinking, and providing skills to cope with loss. This has proven to be a very effective approach when dealing with grief and loss.

I provide services that support people in loss of previous life style, loss of their own ability due to a disability, and loss of someone they were close to or a colleague. Grief is different for everyone, but one of the most popular models arranges the 5 stages of grief as Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance. People take different amounts of time to get through these stages of try to skip over them but they are natural. Since everyone’s grieving is specific to them, my method is adjusted to accommodate my clients. My hope is to support you through this process to build coping skills, listen and be an extra resource.

Grief is a deeply painful and often lonely and scary process to experience. Depending on the severity of your loss, it can impact every aspect of your life, like a giant ball in the box that is your life. Every time the ball hits the wall of the box it hurts. Over time, the ball gets smaller and doesn't impact every aspect of your life. However, when it does bounce against the wall it hurts just like it did in the beginning. With the right understanding of how grief it ebbs and flows over time and the space to allow it to be expressed, one can begin to heal.

When someone matters to us it is as if there are hollow tubes that are connected to our hearts. Traversing these tubes are our needs. The more important the person is to us the more tubes there are that connect our hearts. When we loose someone it is as if the tubes are axed off at the other end; our needs still reach out but now there is no one there to meet them, and that is painful. Grief work consists of plucking out these tubes, one-by-one, from our heart. It takes both time (e.g., across seasons, special occasions, memories) and the avoidance of practices that don't work (e.g., trying to tape the tubes onto someone else, getting drunk). I've helped many with this so feel free to call.

Grief and loss inevitably leads to anger & sadness. Not surprisingly, it also can lead to depression and feelings of guilt. The latter is called irrational guilt, as most of us lack magical powers to cure dying people. Even if they mean the world to us. I would encourage my clients to express feeling of guilt and anger often unconscious related to the loss. The anger is often at the person who died. Of course, this is irrational anger in most cases, as we all are going to die. The anger is over losing someone we love, value. I would use clinical interventions that usher in the grieving process. This fosters coming to terms with and an acceptance of the loss.

My approach to Grief & Loss Therapy is deeply empathetic and tailored to the unique needs of individuals navigating the complexities of reproductive experiences. Recognizing that grief and loss in the realm of reproductive health can be profoundly impactful, I provide a safe and supportive space for clients to explore and process their emotions. Utilizing evidence-based therapeutic modalities and drawing upon a holistic understanding of mental well-being, my aim is to help clients cultivate resilience, find meaning in their experiences, and ultimately foster healing and growth in the face of grief and loss.

Everyone grieves differently which means that coping with loss looks differently and varies from person to person. At Transformation Counseling Services our therapists are specially trained to help you move through the stages of grief and work through your loss. If you are experiencing grief related symptoms we are here to help. Please contact us for a free consultation.