Grief and Loss Counseling in Hartland, NY.

When a person loses a loved one, whether it be a close family member, a pet or a friend, the feelings that are associated with the loss can be crippling. Just completing every day tasks can feel like a mountain that is impossible to climb. With guidance and support, it is possible to move forward in a healthy manner and gain the pleasure back into your life.

When we lose someone we love, it feels like we have lost a part of ourselves. Something within us has been torn out, leaving a hole that we easily imagine will never heal. The pain can be profound, the feelings of helplessness, or regret, or guilt overwhelming. Having a partnership where you can talk through these feelings can make a huge difference not only in how quickly and how well you are able to move through the process of grieving, but also how you ultimately are able to frame the experience and your memories of the person lost into the narrative of your own self and life as you move forward. What you carry with you afterward is just as important as surviving the hurt of the loss.

Grief and loss is, unfortunately, a normal part of living. There is no single "correct" way to grieve: different cultures and even individuals from the same culture grieve differently. The only consistent feature is that grief takes time. The most effective thing anyone can do for someone grieving is to be there—to listen, to empathize, to walk along with the grief. There is no "fixing" grief. But counseling can help prevent normal grief from developing into major depression or other mental health conditions.

I provide services that support people in loss of previous life style, loss of their own ability due to a disability, and loss of someone they were close to or a colleague. Grief is different for everyone, but one of the most popular models arranges the 5 stages of grief as Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance. People take different amounts of time to get through these stages of try to skip over them but they are natural. Since everyone’s grieving is specific to them, my method is adjusted to accommodate my clients. My hope is to support you through this process to build coping skills, listen and be an extra resource.

Grief is a deeply painful and often lonely and scary process to experience. Depending on the severity of your loss, it can impact every aspect of your life, like a giant ball in the box that is your life. Every time the ball hits the wall of the box it hurts. Over time, the ball gets smaller and doesn't impact every aspect of your life. However, when it does bounce against the wall it hurts just like it did in the beginning. With the right understanding of how grief it ebbs and flows over time and the space to allow it to be expressed, one can begin to heal.

Grief and loss inevitably leads to anger & sadness. Not surprisingly, it also can lead to depression and feelings of guilt. The latter is called irrational guilt, as most of us lack magical powers to cure dying people. Even if they mean the world to us. I would encourage my clients to express feeling of guilt and anger often unconscious related to the loss. The anger is often at the person who died. Of course, this is irrational anger in most cases, as we all are going to die. The anger is over losing someone we love, value. I would use clinical interventions that usher in the grieving process. This fosters coming to terms with and an acceptance of the loss.

Most of us have experienced grief or loss at some point in our lives. Grief and loss are not just about losing a loved one or a family member. Those feelings can accompany a job loss or a change in circumstances, the ending of a relationship or a divorce, experiencing an illness or an accident, and a whole lot more. Whatever the event, it can be devastating. There is hope. I provide a comforting place to talk about your feelings and memories, and I will be a solid support for you through this difficult time. When you are ready, I help you move forward and redefine your life in a way that makes sense for you.

My approach to Grief & Loss Therapy is deeply empathetic and tailored to the unique needs of individuals navigating the complexities of reproductive experiences. Recognizing that grief and loss in the realm of reproductive health can be profoundly impactful, I provide a safe and supportive space for clients to explore and process their emotions. Utilizing evidence-based therapeutic modalities and drawing upon a holistic understanding of mental well-being, my aim is to help clients cultivate resilience, find meaning in their experiences, and ultimately foster healing and growth in the face of grief and loss.

Everyone grieves differently which means that coping with loss looks differently and varies from person to person. At Transformation Counseling Services our therapists are specially trained to help you move through the stages of grief and work through your loss. If you are experiencing grief related symptoms we are here to help. Please contact us for a free consultation.