Great Couples Counseling in Torrey, NY. Therapy to heal relationships.

Relationships can be difficult and challenging yet they present enormous opportunities for growth. As M Scott Peck wrote in The Road Less Traveled, “love is not effortless, to the contrary, love Is effortful”. Rather than Hollywood and media notions of perfect romance, most enduring relationships are made of intentional commitment, respect and ongoing efforts to communicate. Clients find that couples counseling can provide a safe space with a neutral third party who can facilitate constructive conversations to work through difficult issues and patterns, and learn new strategies to increase mutual understanding and the ability to compromise.

Why do we seem to have the same arguments over and over again? How do I know if we are really supposed to be together? Are there things we could be doing to better support each other, to help each other grow and be our best selves? If we really love each other, why do we so often hurt each other? How do I know if this is real love, anyway? Relationships are hard. Even more than desire, they require effort and understanding to make them work. Often, even if two people really love each other, one or both may need help to maintain the right effort or understanding to keep the balance necessary for long-term success. Having outside, objective support can make all the difference.

It wasn't always this way. There was a time you looked forward to being with each other. You both trusted and enjoyed each other's company. You felt understood and accepted for being yourself. In couple's counseling, Hal offers you the opportunity to find the hidden strengths in the heart and soul of your relationship. Hal has helped hundreds of couples to improve communication and increase trust. Hal is very well respected and experienced in couple's counseling. In addition, he is a published author and was invited to appear on David Letterman's Late Night television program. Hal's schedule is flexible and appointments are available on evenings and weekends. Call Hal at (516) 439-4282

Did your partner have an affair? Lost Love? Control Issues. Relationships can be saved if both partners are willing to work in therapy and the counselor is skilled with working with all personality types. Chris Colasuonno has provided couples, relationship and marriage counseling to hundreds of clients offering a direct but safe approach. Generally, most issues start and end with effective communication that Chris helps each partner work on. Chris works on lowering the cycle of arguing and analyzes the contributory factors that cause the partners to argue. Many times the past issues come into or cause future arguments Allow Chris to build trust, love, and communication in your relationship.

I use the Gottman Method of couples counseling for couples, whether you're partners or married, this approach has been backed by 40 years of research to be successful. It includes an extensive intake process since each couple is unique, a feedback session, and from there specified exercises and tools to target the areas of your relationship that can be improved.

What are the most common couples' issues? If you are thinking "communication, conflict, sex, money, child rearing" you are correct. However, most therapists will go after the symptom on each side of the couple fence thinking that the way to effective change is by getting each party to "work" on their respective "issue". Many times the parties don’t agree but comply. Imagine if you could align the unconscious brains of a couple and stop the "working on your issues" part that has become so popular in therapy settings? Contact kevin@kevinflemingphd.com to learn how! Or call 877-606-6161. DR. FLEMING'S NEW RELATIONSHIP/COUPLES INTENSIVES. www.kevinflemingphd.com/marriage-couples-retreats.php

There are countless models of healthy romantic relationships, from monogamous to polyamorous, and unique variations between partners. The scripts for dating and longterm relationships of our parents’ generations may not be applicable to your relationship, and there is no formal education in how to be a good partner or how to identify unhealthy relationships. But there is psychological research that shows that effective communication, emotional openness, intimacy, and other factors contribute to healthy relationships. Creating these conditions are skills that can be learned. I practice brief humanistic and emotion-focused therapy (EFT) to help my LGBTQ and hetero clients learn these skills.

Sometimes we are so wrapped up in our anger, that we forget the reasons we fell in love. We may feel hopeless about our relationship, or may have even experienced or engaged in infidelity. If you are experiencing discord in your relationship and would like to find your way back to peace and happiness with your partner, I am here to help. By exploring your relationship vision, each of your needs, and what has caused you to become disconnected in the past, I can help you to map out a happy future together. I would love to meet you and hear your story. Call me today.

Relationships need to be nurtured. They must rest on a foundation of mutual respect. Although, there are many important relationship skills, learning how to feel and show respect for one another is fundamental. I can help you develop critical relationship skills and learn how to have a satisfying and enjoyable relationship based on appreciation, acknowledgment, and acceptance.

When our relationships are suffering, it causes a ripple effect on our own mental health, and the health of the family overall. Couples counseling starts with a safe environment. This is achieved by teaching effective communication skills, helping to set boundaries and encouraging breaks. Relationships can be hard, as we as individuals - and our lives - change over the course of our relationships. We may need to relearn how to meet each other's needs. This may include understanding and responding to your partner's love language, and learning new ways to nurture your relationship, with the goal of ultimately feeling more connected.