Great Couples Counseling in Shelter Island, NY. Therapy to heal relationships.

As a licensed clinical psychologist, my greatest emphasis for couples is working with people individually to address how they may improve themselves so as to improve the relationship. *Or*, I may help an individual learn more effect strategies to deal with challenging relationship struggles. My partner, a licensed marriage and family therapist, works with the couple in the room simultaneously. Those seeking this help may contact me, and I will let you know if your situation is something I can help with. If it is, we can proceed to schedule a first appointment. If it is not, I will help get you set up with my partner or another therapist who does the work you require.

We know that even the healthiest relationships experience times where they feel lonely, and like their love has run its course. It is easy to let the stress of work, family and unexpected life events you affect you. Couples counseling gives couples the tools to improve communication, strengthen intimacy and deal with conflict. When you attend couples counseling with Transformation Counseling Services, we dig deep beneath the surface to uncover what has caused unhealthy communication. Our therapist specialize in working with all types of couples in every type of relationship. We work with LGBTQ+ couples as well as couples in non-traditional relationships. Please contact us for more info

What are the most common couples' issues? If you are thinking "communication, conflict, sex, money, child rearing" you are correct. However, most therapists will go after the symptom on each side of the couple fence thinking that the way to effective change is by getting each party to "work" on their respective "issue". Many times the parties don’t agree but comply. Imagine if you could align the unconscious brains of a couple and stop the "working on your issues" part that has become so popular in therapy settings? Contact kevin@kevinflemingphd.com to learn how! Or call 877-606-6161. DR. FLEMING'S NEW RELATIONSHIP/COUPLES INTENSIVES. www.kevinflemingphd.com/marriage-couples-retreats.php

I believe that our love relationships are the most powerful mirror to reflect back to us the condition of our psyches. Love provides us with the courage to face our faults, weaknesses and misapprehensions and creates the impetus to change that which stands in the way of our peace, happiness and personal evolution. In my work with couples, together we view the family systems that form each partner and then we envision and create the new system of the couple relationship. Our work together fosters intimacy, communication, empathy, and most importantly, mutual respect. Whatever the outcome, honesty and love are able to flow in the safety of this environment.

I use the Gottman Method of couples counseling for couples, whether you're partners or married, this approach has been backed by 40 years of research to be successful. It includes an extensive intake process since each couple is unique, a feedback session, and from there specified exercises and tools to target the areas of your relationship that can be improved.

Did your partner have an affair? Lost Love? Control Issues. Relationships can be saved if both partners are willing to work in therapy and the counselor is skilled with working with all personality types. Chris Colasuonno has provided couples, relationship and marriage counseling to hundreds of clients offering a direct but safe approach. Generally, most issues start and end with effective communication that Chris helps each partner work on. Chris works on lowering the cycle of arguing and analyzes the contributory factors that cause the partners to argue. Many times the past issues come into or cause future arguments Allow Chris to build trust, love, and communication in your relationship.

Why do we seem to have the same arguments over and over again? How do I know if we are really supposed to be together? Are there things we could be doing to better support each other, to help each other grow and be our best selves? If we really love each other, why do we so often hurt each other? How do I know if this is real love, anyway? Relationships are hard. Even more than desire, they require effort and understanding to make them work. Often, even if two people really love each other, one or both may need help to maintain the right effort or understanding to keep the balance necessary for long-term success. Having outside, objective support can make all the difference.

When I was a student at UCONN, I learned of an article called “Bad Couples Therapy”. I learned from it that many therapists who do family therapy do not have any formal training in couple therapy. How can this be? We don’t have surgeons on the operating table without formal training in surgery, yet therapists can do it? Yes, it turns out the field of therapy isn’t as regulated as one might think. Later in graduate school, I was able to get three full-time years of formal training in marriage and family therapy. The results I’m able to offer to people were well worth the extra schooling and residency I later completed.

It wasn't always this way. There was a time you looked forward to being with each other. You both trusted and enjoyed each other's company. You felt understood and accepted for being yourself. In couple's counseling, Hal offers you the opportunity to find the hidden strengths in the heart and soul of your relationship. Hal has helped hundreds of couples to improve communication and increase trust. Hal is very well respected and experienced in couple's counseling. In addition, he is a published author and was invited to appear on David Letterman's Late Night television program. Hal's schedule is flexible and appointments are available on evenings and weekends. Call Hal at (516) 439-4282