Anger Management and Counseling in Southold, NY.

There are many theories behind what makes people angry. Some people say that depression is anger turned inwards and others say that anger is an attempt to control someone else. What I truly care about with my clients is that they are simply able to identify when they are angry and how to respond accordingly. Typically the wiring inside of your head makes you react first and ask questions later. My job is for that gap (reaction and response time) to become shorter and shorter, and to help prevent these episodes from ever occurring

Chris provides anger management counseling and psychotherapy where he is a Certified Anger Management Specialist (CAMS) where helps clients identify the reasons for anger and rage. Often the client might have other reasons for anger and mood swings. Often anger can be a problem in a marriage or relationship leading to safety concerns. Chris Colasuonno, LCSW-R provides assessment and therapy for anger. Some individuals may not recognize the cause for the anger or know how to get treated. Sometimes anger can be a mental health issue of bipolar or depression. Finding the reasons and offering solutions is one of my specialties.

I provide a structured evidenced based approach to Anger Management helping clients identify triggers, understand the underlying causes of their anger, and develop healthy coping strategies. Through techniques such as CBT, emotional regulation skills, I can support clients in reducing impulsive reactions, improving communication, for healthy relationships.

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My approach to Anger Management counseling is rooted in helping clients process anger in a conscious way. I guide clients to recognize the difference between healthy anger and destructive, explosive rage, providing clarity and insight into their emotional responses. We explore the roots of suppressed anger, often tied to childhood fears or unmet needs for love, creating understanding rather than judgment. Clients are supported in expressing anger responsibly, raising self-awareness and accountability, while connecting with their authentic selves. This empowers clients to respond to life with honesty and integrity.

Because "lashing out" or difficulty managing anger can happen for many reasons, I tailor my approach to each person. I first try to understand why it is happening, and treat the underlying reasons. Some people have powerful emotions and need skills to manage them, others have a traumatic past that needs exploration, while others may have anxiety or depression and may feel extremely irritable, thus "snapping" at their loved ones.

I have over a decade of experience working with people who had anger issues. I find that the Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) model of therapy to be highly effective at helping people to overcome their anger. Also, meditation can be tremendously helpful to some people, and I can help teach people Yan Xin Qigong, which I learned when I did my 1st degree at UCONN. I also like to consider family and relationship issues, which sometimes benefit very well from my marriage and family therapy training. I welcome people to contact me if they want to see me or get a referral. (Please check with your insurance for coverage of anger management, as some don't cover it, or not when court ordered).

Psychotherapy offers a structured process for managing anger, often using CBT and EMDR. Therapy helps individuals understand anger triggers, thoughts, and emotions. CBT provides tools to challenge angry thinking, improve communication, and build coping skills for frustration. EMDR can address past trauma contributing to anger issues. This empowers self-awareness, healthier responses, improved relationships, and greater emotional control.

We all have certain emotions that are easier for us to express than others. While some have difficulty expressing anger, others find it the "safest" emotion to express. For those of you who have problems managing your angry expression we will explore together, how and when this pattern has developed, what purpose it has served in your life, and what other feelings this anger may be masking. Our work together will provide you with tools to healthily and respectfully express the full range of your emotions to enhance the emotional richness and range in your relationships with others.

My main approach is to help my client identify situations (contexts), people, behaviors (his and others) that seem to usher in varying degrees of anger. My main message is that anger is an appropriate feeling to loss and frustration, but it is his learning to appropriately express anger in an adaptive manner that leads to emotional growth and the mollification of the anger itself.