Anger Management and Counseling in Copake, NY.

Clients who consult with me regarding their anger and their difficulty in controlling their impulses. experience my interest and support in helping them to both understand how their anger came to be so big as well as to help them to repair the relationships that have been hurt by their anger. They are helped to understand that their anger is frequently a response to their experience of loss of some kind and that these losses can be defined and understood. Such losses range from loss of opportunity, to loss of money, to loss of a relationship. to loss of self-esteem.

My main approach is to help my client identify situations (contexts), people, behaviors (his and others) that seem to usher in varying degrees of anger. My main message is that anger is an appropriate feeling to loss and frustration, but it is his learning to appropriately express anger in an adaptive manner that leads to emotional growth and the mollification of the anger itself.

Recognizing that anger can be a complex emotion often influenced by hormonal changes, pregnancy-related stressors, or fertility challenges, I offer a tailored and empathetic space for women to explore and manage their anger effectively. Through a combination of evidence-based therapeutic techniques and a holistic perspective, clients can expect to develop personalized strategies for anger management that align with their reproductive journey.

My approach to Anger Management counseling is rooted in helping clients process anger in a conscious way. I guide clients to recognize the difference between healthy anger and destructive, explosive rage, providing clarity and insight into their emotional responses. We explore the roots of suppressed anger, often tied to childhood fears or unmet needs for love, creating understanding rather than judgment. Clients are supported in expressing anger responsibly, raising self-awareness and accountability, while connecting with their authentic selves. This empowers clients to respond to life with honesty and integrity.

Psychotherapy offers a structured process for managing anger, often using CBT and EMDR. Therapy helps individuals understand anger triggers, thoughts, and emotions. CBT provides tools to challenge angry thinking, improve communication, and build coping skills for frustration. EMDR can address past trauma contributing to anger issues. This empowers self-awareness, healthier responses, improved relationships, and greater emotional control.

Anger is one of our fundamental emotions, part of the basic machinery of our mind and personality. In some ways it is a useful tool that helps to motivate and energize us in seeking fairness and justice in the world around us. But this powerful hold-over from our primal history can also be enormously destructive if we lose control of it. If your anger is slipping out of your control and you find yourself saying or doing things that damage your reputation or your relationships, hurt those around you, or otherwise consistently put you on the outside of society's expectations for behavior, you need help to find tools or strategies to change this and I would be happy to help.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of anger management in a very humane yet fresh perspective. You see, anger is a normal emotion but it is the valence (intensity) as well as the coupling choice of what one does with this that is the problem. Telling someone to "not" do it or modifying behavior with a trite psychological plan that only breeds a compliant response is not the way to change anger. Brainwave optimization is a new cutting edge technology that allows one to rewire circuitry responsible for reactivity driving the anger. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.