Grief and Loss Counseling in Independence, NJ.

Losing a loved one is one the most difficult things we can face in life. Our aim is to help you find creative ways to reach a more peaceful place, to increase a sense of closure. We can help you with important aspects of grief. This may include the identification and resolution of guilt, a common emotional response that occurs following a loss. The grief process varies largely in terms of recovery time — that’s why we find it important that no time limits are set.

Grief and loss are certainly very difficult to deal with, but sooner or later, it comes to all of us. I meet my clients right where they are in the process of their grieving, and sit with them in that space. I help people to walk through the feelings and stay with them through the process. I create a safe space where clients can be with all the emotions they are experiencing. I am very patient as individuals walk through their grief at their own pace.

While grieving is normal when we have lost someone or something we loved and valued, it is nevertheless, painful and difficult. Grieving can even be more difficult when the relationship was conflicted and unhappy. Loss may be of a loved person or it can be of your health, independence, home, job, or beloved pet. Everyone grieves differently, and others in your life may not understand your way, or perhaps you are alone or feel alone. I can help you through the intensity of initial loss, work towards a balance of memories and taking your life forward, and do it your way. There is no right way to grieve and no set time limits. I will care about what is right for you.

Grief is the result of any type of loss that we may experience from death to divorce, to the loss of a job or the end of a relationship, to the death of a pet. It leaves us with a broken heart. The more significant the relationship to the loss, the deeper the pain and wound. Genuine care and support are not always enough. I offer grief and loss counseling tools along with the healing actions of new coping skills to bring vitality and hope back into the life of someone who is in pain. Your loss can never be replaced however it can be healed so your life can again be fulfilling and happy.

What does it look like to be paralyzed from grief? When you've lost someone near and dear to you, it's quite difficult to ever be the same. Our goal is not to ever be the same again, but to move to a place of honoring the person who has moved on. When you experience the excruciating void of the person who's moved on, it seems almost impossible to move on yourself. However, our work together will help you find what helps you to honor that person you love, and come back to your life and community stronger than before.

Grief counseling helps people cope with grief and mourning following the loss of a loved one or due to major life changes that trigger feelings of grief (i.e. job loss or divorce). It provides a space for individuals to work through and process the complex emotions surrounding loss. Healthy grieving results in remembering the loss with a newfound sense of peace, rather than searing pain.

Grey Matters International and the work of Kevin J. Fleming, Ph.D approaches issues of grief & loss through the lens of innovation----instead of growing the same neural networks responsible for the pain in weekly therapy sessions, we reset the brain to move forward quicker and efficiently by working on the stuck limbic system so as to empower the person with more success and traction. For no one wants to stay in a grief mode for too long; but when you don’t include the brain in your work with someone, you risk describing the water to them while they drown and calling it success. Contact Grey Matters International, Inc now at kevin@kevinflemingphd.com or 877-606-6161.

We all have experienced loss in our lives. Learning how to deal with those losses and heal from them can often take time. We live in a grief light society. I can help you to set aside time to focus on your feelings and allow yourself to heal. Let me walk with you as you embrace the future with hope and expectancy for good things to come. God's grace is available for the journey.