Great Couples Counseling in Woolwich, NJ. Therapy to heal relationships.

Coupleship is a unique dynamic. Often we fall head over heels for someone.. everything seems meant to be and then after awhile you look over at this person and think...huh? This is way more common than people think. Making a partnership work is not easy as we were promised in fairy tales, but it can be the most amazing and deepest intimacy we have ever known if we are honest, healthy and truly committed. I help couples find this true intimacy again through couples counseling. My approach is practical, respectful, and solution oriented. If you have found this, you still have hope for the relationship. This is so important, let me help you take the next step to love deeply.

Do you want a more peaceful relationship with your partner? I have worked with couples going through challenges, mediation processes and possible divorce. I specialize in working with couples that want to enhance their communication skills. I look at the strengths of each partner and how they function together in a relationship. My approach utilizes emotionally focused therapy, aimed at looking at interaction patterns and emotional states. We all deserve to be in a relationship that we find fulfilling and meets our needs.

We are meant to form connections that are safe and close and loving, but most couples at some time or another find themselves stuck in a repetitive pattern of interacting which leaves each person feeling hurt and alone. Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples, the most well-researched approach to couple therapy, is a powerful tool that will help get to the heart of the problem and to find your way back to that experience of loving connection. Interrupting that downward spiral feels like hard work for most couples, but beginning to move to a new, warm, close place, is immensely rewarding, even for those who have previously been distressed or shut down. I have great hope for couples!

Our couples therapy offers a warm, supportive space where you and your partner can strengthen your relationship. We focus on enhancing communication, resolving conflicts, and deepening your emotional connection. Our compassionate therapists use evidence-based techniques tailored to your unique needs, helping you navigate challenges and build a healthier, more fulfilling partnership. Whether you’re seeking to improve your relationship or overcome specific issues, we’re here to support your journey towards a stronger, more connected bond.

As a couples counselor I am on the side of the relationship. While I may spend some time focusing on one partner or the other in order to understand relational dynamics, my primary goal is to help the relationship. Each relationship is unique. Some issues that affect couples include trust building, healthy boundaries, open communication, individual and relational growth, transitional life stages, financial issues, decision making. We will identify the strengths and weakness of your specific relationship, explore what makes a successful relationship and suggest ways to improve your relationship.

What are the most common couples' issues? If you are thinking "communication, conflict, sex, money, child rearing" you are correct. However, most therapists will go after the symptom on each side of the couple fence thinking that the way to effective change is by getting each party to "work" on their respective "issue". Many times the parties don’t agree but comply. Imagine if you could align the unconscious brains of a couple and stop the "working on your issues" part that has become so popular in therapy settings? Contact kevin@kevinflemingphd.com to learn how! Or call 877-606-6161. DR. FLEMING'S NEW RELATIONSHIP/COUPLES INTENSIVES. www.kevinflemingphd.com/marriage-couples-retreats.php

The most important thing in couples therapy is helping both people learn what they can do differently to transform negative patterns into a mutually respectful, loving relationship. When people learn to really listen to each other, communication improves. Understanding and compassion take the place of anger and resentment, transforming power struggles into mutual support. What a relief! I specialize in helping couples move beyond the crisis of infidelity to create a relationship that's better and stronger than ever. When this happens, trust is rebuilt and both partners gain confidence that they will never again suffer the pain of an affair

How to Get the Love You Want Take a minute to think about what you expect from a loving relationship with a partner. Does your list contain any of the following common expectations? o Healing past wounds o Meeting all of your current emotional needs o Fulfilling fantasies and idealizations of how life should be o Making up for other less rewarding aspects of life / making your life "whole" Any one of these expectations alone can be a very tall order! Not surprisingly, relationships often buckle under these kinds of pressures. So, what to do? Learn to take care of and give to the relationship; in other words, give instead of trying to get the love you want. Take care of the rel....

What secrets do happy couples hold? Are they built differently than us? Do they eat better, or sleep better? How is it that some of us can get along so well, while others of us deplete precious energy during numerous fights and disagreements. As a professional, I have some insight into this problem. Happy couples share two essentials. The first thing, their shared sense of love, is something we all know about. The secret love of happy couples sustains because both partners accept each other fully. The key is always, without condition, loving and accepting all of your partner all of the time. It's not magical. With effort and patience, we may all be happier, better spouses sometime soon.

I believe it is important for all couples to do marital check-ins with a therapist. If you are doing check-ins with your partner, you can gain insight into what they may be feeling internally. If you are struggling with trust and communication in your relationship, then therapy may help you with your struggle. It is important to seek a therapist that will help you as "one union" so you are not feeling like you are in the struggle alone. As a therapist working with couples it is important to acknowledge the myriad of emotions one may feel when they are not seeing eye to eye. Support is vital and a trusted therapist can help you navigate through these emotions.

Not feeling as close to your partner? Feeling that you have grown apart over time? Communication issues? Conflict? Stress in your relationship? Over time most couples experience some stress in their relationship and do not feel that they are the couple they wanted to be. Let us help you rediscover each other and what your relationship can be. We emphasize communication, connection and restoration in a safe environment and help you and your partner reconnect.

I always prefer to see couples BEFORE they get married, because so many problems can be avoided by getting started out on the right foot. By learning good communication and problem solving skills before marriage, you can move on to that next step with confidence and skill. I also work with couples for whom marriage is not the goal, who are gay or lesbian, or couples who simply have reached an impasse on an issue and are looking for an objective third party.

Most if not every couple can find themselves in a place where they feel stuck and not sure how to move forward. Couples counseling can be a great option if you find yourself in this place. My approach involves understanding each individual's dilemma of the couple, identifying the areas that are making the couple feeling stuck, and helping them find a way forward.

Couples intimacy and communication concerns can be addressed through a variety of modalities. One such modality is Emotion Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT) which focuses on helping couples increase their effective communication. It also looks as dynamics of the couple, such as who often pursues or initiates engagement and who withdraws or shuts down engagement. It works to help slow down the process of communication and to make sure all parties are being heard effectively.

You fell in love with your partner, enjoyed the heady first days of the relationship, but staying in love is difficult. Your relationship isn't what it was or you want, you "can't seem to get it right", or even start. The "happily ever after" fairy tale has soured. You can reauthor your story - you know life is not a fairy tale, but the real tale is far more interesting. Therapy is not about being broken, sick or wrong. It's about growth, courage & moving forward. You can learn practical skills to create an authentic loving relationship which includes passion & intimacy as well as caring & communication. It is exciting & joyful to rediscover your feelings for each other.

Having a safe and open environment to address communication challenges, expressing vulnerability, and seeking the support to become accountable in your relationship is what couples counseling can offer. This process can help you and your partner gain greater stability and a deeper understanding of your relationship dynamic. I find that when I work with couple communication is a major issue. Therefore working with a counselor who can help you and your partner feel heard have the potential to open the door to getting certain needs in the relationship met and understood.