Great Couples Counseling in Raritan, NJ. Therapy to heal relationships.

Marriage is a commitment that we make expecting to last a life time. However, our expectations, belief systems and poor communication styles can break our hearts and leave us lonely, hurt and bitter wondering if the relationship can be saved. Using Logo Therapy, you will learn new ways of communicating, review expectations, change belief systems and learn to have a safe, fun and fulfilling relationship,

I work with many couples in my practice. I illustrate the negative cycles they get into, which is very important in calming volatile interactions, and understanding how each person triggers the other, which keeps their negative cycles in motion. We explore family histories and the messages, and coping skills they learned. I help couples to understand the emotions under their anger and frustration, and to begin to speak to their partner from this softer place. It is a process which can shift negative patterns, and create closeness. Whether there has been an affair, communication issues, a breach of trust, sexual intimacy issues, or something else, there can be a path back to each other.

Scientists have found that couples in a healthy, happy relationship are more satisfied in life and live longer than those of us who are in unhealthy relationships. If you've found someone you want to continue spending your time with, but find that there are some unhealthy patterns of communicating, experienced infidelity, or wish there was more appreciation and repspect in your relationship, take the next step to creating lasting change. How can your growth together change your relationship?

It is not easy being part of a couple. Two different people with two separate egos, and various wants, needs, preferences, and desires. Doing the work to become an effective couple is not for sissies. It requires a great deal of courage to honestly reveal who we are to our partner. My approach to working with couples helps them create the conditions for fostering an accepting, respectful, and honest relationship.

You fell in love with your partner, enjoyed the heady first days of the relationship, but staying in love is difficult. Your relationship isn't what it was or you want, you "can't seem to get it right", or even start. The "happily ever after" fairy tale has soured. You can reauthor your story - you know life is not a fairy tale, but the real tale is far more interesting. Therapy is not about being broken, sick or wrong. It's about growth, courage & moving forward. You can learn practical skills to create an authentic loving relationship which includes passion & intimacy as well as caring & communication. It is exciting & joyful to rediscover your feelings for each other.

If you are struggling with your most significant relationship, whether you are dating or have been married for years, I can give you tools that will help you love each other well. We all have needs and understanding those needs, ours or our partners will enable us to focus on getting those needs met. When our needs are met we are happier and our relationships flourish. When we invite God into the healing process there is no limit to what He can do. Let me help improve your relationship today.

Couples counseling is the focus-area of my practice. Within that specialization, more specifically, I work with couples coping with infidelity and affair recovery. At the cornerstone of my approach to couples counseling is to help couples deepen their trust and establish a safe emotional climate between them. Counseling is conducted with compassion, warmth and respect. I have helped many couples restore and deepen their connections with one another and I would be honored to help you and your partner too.

I provide couples and relationship counseling to couples experiencing a wide range of relationship issues, commitment issues, communication problems, infidelity, family conflict, and more. Treatment is collaborative and intensive. We work hard together to resolve the presenting problems while identifying the underlying issues. I am privileged to have served the LGBT community for over 15 years.

Couples, married or otherwise, can find themselves in situations where they feel stuck or facing roadblocks. The relationship dynamic is complicated and there are two of you bringing your own separate personalities, histories, and emotions together while trying to build and maintain a relationship that improves both of your lives. Changing perspectives, understanding one another better, and learning better communication are some of the benefits and goals of relationship work.

What are the most common couples' issues? If you are thinking "communication, conflict, sex, money, child rearing" you are correct. However, most therapists will go after the symptom on each side of the couple fence thinking that the way to effective change is by getting each party to "work" on their respective "issue". Many times the parties don’t agree but comply. Imagine if you could align the unconscious brains of a couple and stop the "working on your issues" part that has become so popular in therapy settings? Contact kevin@kevinflemingphd.com to learn how! Or call 877-606-6161. DR. FLEMING'S NEW RELATIONSHIP/COUPLES INTENSIVES. www.kevinflemingphd.com/marriage-couples-retreats.php